Anyone Child Free By Choice?

becky_rtw

Comparing people who dislike children to people who hold racist beliefs is a provocative thing to say!

I have said you dont have to understand something to accept it - you seem not to want to accept that I dont like children and suggest not liking children doesnt make me some sort of 'bad person'...

So let me elaborate also - I agree with many of the reasons stated previously, but the number one reason I dont like children is - they dont use logic. From this seems to stem all of the other behaviours and patterns that others have mentioned, once a person can use logic they are no longer a child in my eyes (although they may behave like one by failing to apply logic).

Above all things I cannot stand unreasoned discussion. It seems to be the way I was made and certainly does not apply to my family in the same way (my sister doesnt feel the same at all). I see the world in terms of logical and illogical - I dont like the illogical, therefore I dont like children (now there's a nice a plus b therefore c argument for you )

Treacly

Well I'm not surprised to get home from work, have my tea and come upstairs to find this is still chuntering on. Only now as well as being a case for treatment with my 'phobia' I should also be prosecuted because I'm like a racist (only like a racist, so perhaps I should be grateful). I give up. But one last thing - I prefer the word '!!!!!phobe'. A misopede sounds like a Japanese insect.

Whaaat? I can't even WRITE the word? A perfectly useful prefix is now verboten? The world's gone mad. Thank heaven I haven't brought any children into it!

beverley1471

People are analyzing this subject far to much in my opinion, some people like and have children, I am the opposite and don't like children or want any. This isn't prejudice its merely a preference. I prefer not to go to child friendly pubs/restaurants, as i find noisy badly behaved children annoying.

I have friends with children and without, its harder to spend time with friends who have children because they obviously love their offspring and want to talk about them alot, I find this alittle boring after a while so keep visiting times short. Were all different, live and let live!!!

BubblyMumbles

Treacly wrote: »

Well I'm not surprised to get home from work, have my tea and come upstairs to find this is still chuntering on. Only now as well as being a case for treatment with my 'phobia' I should also be prosecuted because I'm like a racist (only like a racist, so perhaps I should be grateful). I give up. But one last thing - I prefer the word '!!!!!phobe'. A misopede sounds like a Japanese insect.

Whaaat? I can't even WRITE the word? A perfectly useful prefix is now verboten? The world's gone mad. Thank heaven I haven't brought any children into it!

LOL! :rotfl::rotfl:
I hope you're not being insectist now!

gitw

sounds like me Snippa. love kids, am aunt to 8 and i adore them all. am very good aunty and babysit, have sleepovers, take shopping, and do fun stuff with them all but i can hand them back at the end of the day and i am quite happy with that.

i'm 35 and have had 2 long term relationships, children just didnt come up either time, but both went on to have children with their new partners within a year. i just never felt the urge, not even as a kid

i have a good job, enjoy holidays, shopping and spending money on my nieces & nephews and i cant really see that changing in the forseeable because I am very happy with my life. who knows what the future holds but for now i am still very happy to be CFBC and my friends who all have children don't find it odd at all :eek:

Snippa wrote: »

I'm CFBC. I actually like kids, and vaguely thought I'd always have them, but just never, ever got to the point of feeling broody, or that I really wanted them. I love the fact that some of my friends have got kids, and I'm insanely excited about becoming an aunt for the first time. But I also love my single life, playing music, going out, travelling and doing what I want to do, so I feel like I've got the best of all possible worlds.

For that, I'm very happy not to have tax credits or SSP and to allow those who have the kids to benefit from them. SSP is a hell of a drop if you had a decent income before, btw: my sister will be struggling!

galvanizersbaby

*Maya* wrote: »

I see this thread never really returned to topic.:(



Sorry but this intrigues me. How can a baby be sinister?

Yes me too! - I was wondering what sort of babies the poster had encountered :eek:

This thread makes interesting reading - I also think certain remarks are being over analysed somewhat but I guess like many things it can be an emotive subject for some - however going from the predictable discussion of pets and animals to babies being sinister is a remark that is somewhat intriguing (to me anyway)

Flutter

*Maya* wrote: »

Sorry but this intrigues me. How can a baby be sinister?

Maybe they've been watching too many 'Childs Play' films?

DUKE

Child free by choice - Ain't it funny that the people with kids & the people without both feel sorry for each other

Over the years people have said 'Aaaaah never mind or you can have fertility treatment now you know'. :eek: They didn't accept that I choose not to have kids.

Hermia

becky_rtw wrote: »

So let me elaborate also - I agree with many of the reasons stated previously, but the number one reason I dont like children is - they dont use logic. From this seems to stem all of the other behaviours and patterns that others have mentioned, once a person can use logic they are no longer a child in my eyes (although they may behave like one by failing to apply logic).

Above all things I cannot stand unreasoned discussion. It seems to be the way I was made and certainly does not apply to my family in the same way (my sister doesnt feel the same at all). I see the world in terms of logical and illogical - I dont like the illogical, therefore I dont like children (now there's a nice a plus b therefore c argument for you )

I totally get what you are saying. Like you, I don't find spending time with kids fascinating because of their intellectual/emotional immaturity. I get bored by their behaviour and find their self-centredness irritating. I don't think there is anything wrong with this behaviour as it is part of their development, but I find it hard to tolerate. The positive side of that is that I am a magnet for kids who are very bright or unconventional. I think kids like that can find other children tiresome and some adults patronising. I think they appreciate being with someone who is also 'different' and I am quite happy to be a mentor to these kids (and I am also quite happy to give them back at the end of the day!).

A friend once told me that me not wanting children made me "no better than Myra Hindley" - hhhhmmmm!

Swinstie73

Hi all,

Have only just found this thread, read page one then skipped to the end to post, not going to get involved in the discussion (not read it all anyway) but just want to say thanks to the OP for starting it.

I had a two night conversation with OH starting on the phone on Tuesday night then face to face last night about where our relationship is heading. We have been together almost 3 years, I'm 36, he is 42, he has been married (horrible marriage) and has an 18 yr old son. One of the topics was having kids, he says he really couldn't face starting again with all the financial/emotional implications etc., and I, as never having had any children whilst thinking 'help, what happens if one day I get broody' had to agree with him, that our relationship is still early and we have been on loads of lovely holidays the last three years and have many more holidays to go on, weekends away, nights out and a baby would ensure none of that happens. I've never ever wanted kids anyway, although we've both said IF it happens it won't be the end of the world BUT we are not actively planning on one. Part of me wondered if I was a freak for never wanting kids but sometimes I think I can hardly take care of myself never mind a helpless human being. I have 5 neices and nephews who I love, 4 older sisters, two with the kids between and two who will probably never a baby either.

ETA: I've also had the when you getting married, having kids etc., from everyone and their granny!