Miscarriage support

FairyShazza · 27 May 2010 at 4:14PM

Mommame it differs from person to person I'm afraid. Some people find they get a negative test a couple of weeks after a miscarriage but others find it can take longer. There isn't really a definite answer to that one.

mommame · 27 May 2010 at 4:20PM

Better explain a bit,my neighbour had a pos result last friday but started light bleed on sunday she wont go to the doctors cos she said" I have lost it" theres no point,I think she is in shock,anyway we did another today and it still show very feint as positive.she has 3 already.
Would this be a false pos or is it definatly 100%.

mommame · 27 May 2010 at 4:27PM

Thanks fairyshazza I am trying to get her to go to the doctors and just make sure either way,if it was me I would be there first sign of something going wrong.
Sorry you are all having a bad time I know what it was like when we were trying for my son and it took 4 years of grief and now him and his 2 brothers are still giving me grief 30 years later lol.
Good luck girls xx

portsmouthali · 27 May 2010 at 6:57PM

Hey Mommame, hope your neigbour is OK. I was still getting a positive 4 weeks after my last miscarriage. If she just had a light bleed she may be OK, it's certainly worth going to the docs to check it out anyway.

Lovely to hear from you MV & Merfe, I really hope the next few weeks go quickly for you both. It's horrid how a m/c spoils future pregnancies

You're both in my thoughts often, and I keep checking up on you xxx

msb5262 · 27 May 2010 at 7:03PM

Lovely to hear from you MV & Merfe, I really hope the next few weeks go quickly for you both. It's horrid how a m/c spoils future pregnancies You're both in my thoughts often, and I keep checking up on you xxx

Likewise here ^^^

Also good to hear from you Ali - how are you doing? I think of you often too.

MsBx

portsmouthali · 27 May 2010 at 9:36PM

msb5262 wrote: »

Likewise here ^^^

Also good to hear from you Ali - how are you doing? I think of you often too.

MsBx

Thanks xxxxx I am OK. Every single day I wish I was pregnant, but I'm trying to enjoy life and be grateful for what I have

How are you MsB? x

Metranil_Vavin · 27 May 2010 at 9:41PM

Thanks Ali and msb. x

I dont think the pain ever truely goes away, but it does dull over time.

I still look at my little scan pic and burst into tears from time to time.

msb5262 · 27 May 2010 at 9:45PM

How are you MsB?

I'm ok but having lots of anxiety about my kids - oldest is now 16!
I know I'm incredibly lucky to have them, but it's not always straightforward day to day.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you won't always be wishing you were pregnant...everyone I know who wanted children has got there in the end.
Meanwhile I think it's good for your mental health to let some time pass and allow yourself to grieve, especially after two losses very close together.
You did really well to start this thread - have you noticed that it bobs along, up and down the pages according to what is needed?
Very best wishes and love to you
MsB x

Hoopylass · 29 May 2010 at 4:38PM

Hey ladies, hope you dont mind me posting in here, but i am looking for a wee bit of advice.
One of my really good friends suffered a miscarraige about 6 weeks ago and is struggling really badly with it. She was originally told that she would never conceive naturally and this pregnancy came as a complete surprise (she only realised she was pregnant when she started bleeding).
She seems to be coping ok at work but come the weekends she finds herself becoming teary and in her own words "losing the plot". She is totally pushing the 3 of us (friends) away and we are at a loss as to what to do to try and help her. her boyfriend has been a great support and she manages to spend time with him and his family and do ok, i just dont understand why she finds it so hard to see us all in a group.
I was just wondering if any of you lovely ladies could offer any ideas of how we can try and help her though this as we are now at a complete loss.
(((hugs to you all)))