Miscarriage support

portsmouthali

Thanks Q, bet you're relieved (if you see what I mean ) Onwards & upwards! xxx

babyboysmommy

Next week I have my first appointment at the infertility clinic so this has all come as shock...

When my period was due I had some very light spotting for 3 days then nothing. I tried to not hope it was implantation bleeding because I knew it was against the odds. 6 days later my period started, just light bleeding but part of me still wondered as I'd bled like that with my son. A week later it got very heavy, clots etc. I'm now on day 12 of bleeding although it's very light now. I've not felt right for a couple of weeks, run down etc which I mostly put down to stress & over doing it. Today it really didn't stack up, for the first time today my breasts are really sore so I took a pregnancy test. It was a very clear positive. I know I've just had another miscarriage (#3) going from what's been coming out of me. No way has any baby survived & I assume it's just showing positive because the actual miscarriage was in the last 1-3 days. I've had cramps since the day my period was actually due.

The GP I saw (not my usual one) wouldn't do anything. He said to take another test in a week, if it's positive I'm still pregnant if not I had a miscarriage. He said he sees no point in early scans as they don't change the outcome so he wouldn't refer me to the EPU & I'm only 6 weeks so they wouldn't see anything anyway. So now I have to wait for a week... soooooo hard. In the past I've always been sent to the EPU but he was adamant he wouldn't & just kept saying it doesn't alter the outcome & I might still be pregnant anyway.

I am a mess of emotions, this is insane, I got pregnant even though I 'can't' & now I'm sure I've lost it. I know there was or is nothing I can do. I just needed to let of some steam. Thank you for listerning.

Metranil_Vavin

So sorry BBM

There's nothing anyone can say, it's just the worst thing in the world.

I'll keep everything crossed for you that the outcome is a positive one.

Please stay posting and let us know how things go. We're always here and know what you are going through XXX

QQuaver

I'm so sorry BBM:(
Perhaps the fertility clinic next week can do some tests for you?
Can't they see you earlier?

babyboysmommy

Thank you. It's soooo hard. My breasts are more sore today, I feel generally rubbish & have a dull ache but no cramping. Just very light spotting, old blood. I couldn't resist taking another pregnancy test & it's still a strong positive...I think I m/c at the weekend when I was experiencing red bleeding, clots etc. Why oh why did the GP have to say I could still be pregnant, feels like I'm clinging to a false hope. I know what came out of me & unless it was twins... So hard.

QQuaver

babyboysmommy wrote: »

feels like I'm clinging to a false hope. I know what came out of me & unless it was twins... So hard.

(((Hugs))).

I kept clinging to the hope until I got BFN 2 months later, even though I had ERPC to remove everything:o
Part of me knew, but part of me still wanted to believe it was all some sort of a mistake.

I don't want to give you false hope.
Take care.

QQuaver

I had a scan at 6 weeks, and they saw a sac.
I think it is possible to see something this early.

babyboysmommy

QQuaver wrote: »

I had a scan at 6 weeks, and they saw a sac.
I think it is possible to see something this early.

That's why it's so frustrating they are making me wait another week before having a scan. My old GP was happy to send you from 5 weeks. The GP just said to assume I'm pregnant until we know otherwise, not helpful really as it's another dose of false hope Ho hum.

QQuaver

babyboysmommy wrote: »

My old GP was happy to send you from 5 weeks.

Can't you try another doctor?

babyboysmommy

QQuaver wrote: »

Can't you try another doctor?

I tried that this morning & got the same answer. Because I moved area I'm at a different GP surgery than in the past, I guess their way of dealing with it is different

What's also frustrating is I only have a 21 day cycle but the GP yesterday refused to take this in to account when calculating my dates. They have always adjusted it in the past. So in reality I'm a week further along than he is saying anyway. At least this time next week I'll be at the infertility clinic where they do adjust according to your own cycle rather than 28 days & where they will scan me. Just so frustrating I have to wait, I need to be put out of my misery now, I need to be snapped in to reality rather than having this tiny bit of false hope