Miscarriage support

babyboysmommy

It just keeps getting worse...last night I took my bra off to find it was a bit damp, my nipples are now leaking. This morning I actually have breasts, my bra is very snug & my breasts are so sore/uncomfortable. This feels so cruel. Spotting again Counting the days till Thursday when I can have a scan as this is a real head spinner

QQuaver

Is the tests getting darker?
I know nothing will change the outcome, but have you considered private scans?

babyboysmommy

The tests results couldn't be more positive if they tried, they have all been that way. I can't afford a private scan ( The miscarriage association (I phoned them this morning) said it can happen, you can lose the baby & get worsening pregnancy symptoms if there is still some placenta left inside but equally I may still be pregnant. The only way I'll know for sure is if I get a negative test or I have a scan & as you know they wont even consider that until Thursday

QQuaver

Hang in there, if you have lost this pregnancy, since this will be your third, you'll get more help and earlier scans from next time. (((Hugs))).

I suppose you can't phone up the fertility clinic to tell them you might be having your third miscarriage, and if they might like to do some tests before Thursday (by then, all may be gone)?

babyboysmommy

A week later (as it was last weekend I had the heavy bleeding/large clots etc) and I'm still testing a clear positive, still got pregnancy symptoms. Will be pushing for a scan when I see my own GP tomorrow as from their dates I'd be 6 weeks today. I need to know what's going on, this is a real head spinner

QQuaver

Good luck tomorrow. Has the bleeding stopped?

babyboysmommy

QQuaver wrote: »

Good luck tomorrow. Has the bleeding stopped?

Thank you. Just dark spotting now, very very light spotting. Not had any real bleeding as such since last weekend although anything feels like too much at the moment. Had real waves of nausea today, not pleasant. I know when I officially hear that I've lost the baby it's going to be utterly devastating as I keep trying to convince myself everything is fine etc because of the pregnancy symptoms even though I know it's not

QQuaver

babyboysmommy wrote: »

going to be utterly devastating as I keep trying to convince myself everything is fine etc because of the pregnancy symptoms even though I know it's not

(((Hugs))).

My pg symptoms disappeared as soon as my baby died though (it was a missed miscarriage, so 1 week before I found out at 11 week scan). I realise it differs a lot, so don't want to get your hopes up. Hope the GP realises how hard it is not knowing:(

babyboysmommy

QQuaver wrote: »

(((Hugs))).

My pg symptoms disappeared as soon as my baby died though (it was a missed miscarriage, so 1 week before I found out at 11 week scan). I realise it differs a lot, so don't want to get your hopes up. Hope the GP realises how hard it is not knowing:(

My first was a missed miscarriage. We had seen the heartbeat at 8 weeks at a scan arranged after light bleeding. 2 weeks later at the follow up scan we found out the baby had died at 8.5 weeks. I already knew, I just felt it, can't explain how. My symptoms stopped really quickly. The second one was at 5 weeks, just like a heavy period & I never had any symptoms at all. This time it's soooo different.

Last weekend the clots etc, well there's no way a baby is still in there, unless it was twins & I can't help but keep hoping for that. The fact the miscarriage association said if it was a partial miscarriage I'd still have symptoms make me think that's what's happened but still I hope... In reality I expect that after the scan I'll be booked in for surgery & just writing that makes me want to sob.

I imagine coming on here & making phone calls & saying it was good news after all, I imagine the joy that I'd feel telling everyone that, but I know it's a dream as I was there last weekend. I saw what came out of me But with the nausea, increasingly sore & leaking breasts etc it's hard not to live in a dream, however briefly.

Thank you for all your support, it's genuinely appreciated.

carolineb23

I'm so sorry you're going through this, there is nothing anyone can say to make it better as much as we all wish there was. The limbo is horrible because you know in your heart it's not a good outcome, and are therefore naturally upset, and waiting to hear the official news is just heartbreaking. Then you feel awful all over again when you know. I'm sorry, this is only from a completely negative point of view, it would be lovely if your story turned out completely different. Hang in there, and I'll be thinking of you.