Settling for Mr Second best.

MrsTinks

I settled for Mr Second Best and he knows that and doesn't mind...

He thought it was worth the risk of being divorced if Christian Bale turned up and wanted to whisk me away

Ladyhawk

:pGosh Mrs Tine... that was a big risk... you're a lucky girl:p

skintchick

WHen I first started dating my OH I thought he was Mr Good Enough but within a few weeks I was head over heels and thought he was Mr Perfect and now we're married with a baby I know he is Mr Amazing and Made For Me.

sometimes you have to give it a bit of time and not say 'no' after one date.

Dr.Rock

dieselhead wrote: »

This story has been in the news a lot recently http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/7073649/How-long-should-you-hold-out-for-Mr-Right.html

Basically there is a new book due to be released this week called Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough.

I wondered what the girls and guys on here thought of this philosophy?

Personally I don't think Mr Right will be that hollywood fairy tale, the perfect man, I think that there is probably a difference between our idea of Mr Perfect and the reality of Mr Right, however I do think Mr Right will be, well, um Right. However I am not married, I am in a relationship although a very new one, so guys and girls what do you think?

I married Mrs. Right.
I just didn't realise her first name was Always.

Honestly you can get any old rubbish published these days.

Errata

Which woman in their right mind would want a perfect man ?
Settle for Mr Good Enough and you'll be quite happy until Mr Even Better comes along.

bills_2

No other half is absolutly perfect its just not possible. My guy is perfect for me though so thats all that matters hes my mr perfect, mr right etc defo not second best, these books are aload of !!!!!! haha:rotfl:

*Louise*

If Mr Perfect even existed, there's no way he would want me, and whoever did get him would be constantly swatting away the other women round him :rotfl:

I've got Mr Right for ME, that's all that matters

Fuzzy_Duck

I think there are many people in life you would be compatible with- obviously no one is 100% perfect and I imagine the book is aimed at those women who expect perfect. Anyone with impossibly high standards and a huge check list isn't going to find someone who's right for them, and will probably scare off men in the process!

I'd hate to call it lowering one's standards but I imagine this book is simply a reality check to women who are wondering why all the men they meet don't live up to their expectations, rather than advising them to give up and settle down before it's too late.

At least I hope that's what it's about as it would be very sad if not!!

patchwork_cat

vixarooni wrote: »

The grass is never greener i always find!

I think women suffer from Mr darcy syndrome. Often the right man is straight infront of them but theyre too busy searching for mr darcy to realise it.

I however have found mr darcy and im deciding to stick and not twist. Even if he will be the only man ive ever slept with, but then im sure my vagina will cope with that.

However she didn't like Mr Darcy to begin with did she. I don't know about settling after 30, but I think we have to all realise that Mr Perfect doesn't exist because if he did we wouldn't be good enough, would we?

My OH was not my type at all. We have been together for over 23 years now! I was only still in my teens and we were both freshers at Uni. We made friends first and he rapidly became my best friend and that is exactly what I have needed with all that life has thrown at me.

Maybe the adage that life gives you what you need and not what you think you want is correct. I love my DH dearly.

mummy_Jay

To me, Mr Good enough is someone you don't love but is comfortable enough to be a companion. To settle for Mr Good Enough, is something you do out of fear of being left on your own.

I'm quite happy on my own so I'm not going to settle for a companion, if I don't love someone or I love them but for what ever reason they are not going to be good for my DS, I'd rather be on my own. This probably explains why I have been single for 6 years. lol. Far too picky!

But I'm looking for love not perfection.