Wedding list: They have asked for money

Primrose

I think it was incredibly rude to phase things like that. What on earth were they thinking of? I'd be tempted to write and say regretfully that you won't be able to make it, and as they've said they already have everything they want and don't want presents, you'll be making a donation in their name instead to the Hiati Disaster Relief Fund.

SugarSpun

dizziblonde wrote: »

why do people constantly think they've got the right to bully couples getting married into jumping through hoops to accommodate them?

Yes the request was badly worded but there are probably a lot reading this who do sympathise with the sentiment behind it - but are possibly too scared to speak out because they'll be jumped on and insulted in numerous ways as some kind of freak.

I don't think they do, and I totally agree with the couple's sentiment - but it was rudely worded and has clearly upset some of their guests. Still, ensuring that lots of people decline the invitation is extremely :money:

pelirocco

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Why is it rude? People spend a fortune on a wedding and they don't want a screaming baby ruining the ceremony or a rake of kids running about at the reception....I totally get it - and I'm a parent!!!!

The money thing...I guess it's just a sign of the times...if you have been living together do you really need a bale of towels or a new toaster? They are being honest...we don't have a wedding list as we have our home decked out but we wouldn't mind a hand with the honeymoon costs. There's plenty weddings where people give vouchers for gifts as the couple already co-habit...this is just a more 'advanced' side of it

If a baby screaming is considered ruining a wedding ,I dont hold out much hope for the marriage tbh ........Its seems that these days couples concentrate too hard on having the ''perfect''day ............marriage is more then that .And if they have everything they need then they should consider having a collection for a charity instead

Mutter_2

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Bless her!!!!:D

How patronising.

Do you call the elderly "sweetheart" as well?

MrsE_2

shellsuit wrote: »

It's not what it means, it's how it has been said.

I can understand people having adult only weddings
Asking for cash instead of gifts.

But that one is just rude:eek::eek::eek::eek:

Souk08

Idiophreak wrote: »

Nice. Whatever happened to the joy of giving, eh.

I love to give but ultimately don't see why I should pay for their lifestyle when they don't pay for mine!

Ada_Doom

Totally agree with one of the posters above, weddings seem such huge "productions" these days and the pressure to deliver a "perfect" day is huge. For me a wedding without children sounds like a really dull, joyless occasion. Who reallly cares if a baby cries during the service, as someone says what happens is that everyone has a little chuckle over it and somebody takes the child outside for a bit.

As for worrying over a child getting mucky hands over the brides white frock! The point of a wedding is celebration of love, and for me that includes family and quite often (although I know not always) the product of love is.....children!

How can anyone say they "hate children. If you must hate, save it for a worthy target. Maybe you don't understand children, or they annoy you, or you do not have the patience for them.... I hate the thought of somebody hating children!

jonathon

we got married 2 years ago after being together for 8 years both second time loved having the kids there, and we asked for argos vouchers as a gift as he had everything.

hayley11

Talking about children at weddings, my cousins little boy was the star of her wedding, he was about 3 at the time and during the best mans speech, he walked around the room singing at the top of his voice into a marshmallow, it was the funniest thing i've ever seen! :rotfl: Made even funnier because the best man was a total prat and hated that a little boy had upstaged him

When I get married, I will be inviting my nieces and nephews but they are the only children I really want there, they're the only children I spend any time with though. I'm going to (politely) say no children in the evening because I don't really want a load of kids I don't even know running around getting under peoples feet. And i've been to some weddings where it's exactly like that and it's not fun.

MrsTinks

We had children at our wedding - I didn't mind to be honest but then I guess on the whole our friends have pretty well behaved kids
we're invited to 2 weddings this year of very close friends and we're planning on leaving the baby with sitters... (trusted family friend!) I know both would be happy with us taking little'un along but she's still little and honestly a little too young to be at long events like that and we want to both be there for the whole of the wedding (and sods law says I will be dragged into helping fix anything that goes wrong - I always do... I'm just one of those people that everyone turns to if something goes wrong *sigh* "cake decoration fallen off and shattered? OK - no problems... gimme 5 minutes, the bridesmaids bouquet and some wire... ")
I have no problems with people not wanting children at weddings - I can understand that some people don't want children running around - it's their special day, something they want to look back on and remember for certain things - NOT because "so and so's kid was screaming all through the ceremony - you remember?"
But there are polite ways of asking!
Ditto the money