Wedding list: They have asked for money

elastigirl

We have been invited to a wedding and i was a little surprised at how they worded some of it,
I don't have a problem with their wishes but it's how they have said it, Maybe it is just me but i have found it a bit rude.

They have a no children rule this is fine as we only take our son to them if they are family weddings and this is a friends. But they wrote on the invite

''Over the last few years it was your choice and decision to go off and have lots of children but it wasn't ours however it is our choice and decision not to have them at our wedding, so leave them with the grandparents.

The gift list inclosed was a card that said no actual gifts as we have everything we need. please give us money to pay for the honeymoon.
Then there is details of a company where we either send a cheque or ring and give our credit/debit card details so that the money directly pays off the honeymoon.

I am a little un easy about giving money as i guess it isn't the normal thing to do and we aren't used to it. I would feel cheap giving them £20-£30 in cash wheres a gift can look alot more. i don't know how much to give as they are really only a work friend, i would prefer to give a gift really.

Indie_Kid

I have to admit, I find it rather rude too.

pinkpig08

Hmmm, with that kind of wording I think I would be otherwise engaged on that day!

Minxy_Bella

Well we asked for money, I suppose but we phrased it very differently! That is very rude and the bit about the children! Well - I just hope they're really good friends of your's because I'd be having words with mine if they said that to me!

I don't know if I'd actually go to the wedding if that's their attitude, to be honest.

KT1985

I think the no children wording is worse than the money thing tbh- just sounds rude!!!

Although i don't like giving money as a wedding present, I would if the couple really had everything that they needed as they had been living together previously.

Maybe you could give them vouchers towards a meal out or something? That way you know what it will be used for.

DaveLy

"Over the last few years it was your choice and decision to go off and have lots of children but it wasn't ours"

Wow :P

I suggest you send a fiver... and make snide comment that your "lot" of children are an expensive bunch leaving little spare cash... and that unlike them you haven't got everything you need yet.

cakey

i do find it completely rude, the only thing i would say is, asking for money isn't necessarily rude, how they asked for it is. i have had 3 wedding this year, all asked for money, but wrote it in a sweet poem.. something along the line of they have everything they need pots/ pans etc and would love a gorgeous honeymoon, but it was put so nicely. Im getting married this year and i definitely wouldn't htink it cheap to receive £20!!

Reggie_Rebel

"We thank you for your invitation, however we are a family now and if our children aren't accepted then neither are we.

We hope you get your heads out of your butts long enough to enjoy your honeymoon"

Mme.Hibou

I'd either not bother going with words like that, or go and take a gift of my choice.

kavics17

It is very rude. I would also refuse the invitation.

Mutter_2

''Over the last few years it was your choice and decision to go off and have lots of children but it wasn't ours however it is our choice and decision not to have them at our wedding, so leave them with the grandparents."

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I too would be busy on reading that.

I do hope none of the guests have recently "lost" one of their parents.

If you are determined to go, give them £20.