Wedding list: They have asked for money

ninky_2

personally i've always found the whole wedding list thing a bit rude. my OH was totally shocked by it (not being from this country) but i told him people sort of expect to be told what to give in the UK. so we put on the invite - if you would like to give a gift then vouchers for xx or xx would be most welcome. his iranian mates still turned up with cash, gold and bunches of flowers - which was lovely.

NEH

Oh my word that is certainly one way of putting it....how rude...I think it could have been phrased so much more delicately and with respect.

As for asking for money to pay for their luxurious honeymoon it is still alright to give a gift or voucher you know, that is your choice and £20 for a work colleague is a generous gift in my mind.

I personally would never dream of asking for a honeymoon to be paid for, most people save up for a holiday never mind a honeymoon why can't it be the same? I also would not like having a lovely holiday at the expense of someone else. I would feel uncomfortable spending someone else's money so I could have a good time.

Loopy_Girl

Of course OP, to get back at them you could just go and gorge yourself on the food, trough as much free booze that is going around and give them jack all!!!!;)

Loopy_Girl

ninky wrote: »

personally i've always found the whole wedding list thing a bit rude. my OH was totally shocked by it (not being from this country) but i told him people sort of expect to be told what to give in the UK. so we put on the invite - if you would like to give a gift then vouchers for xx or xx would be most welcome. his iranian mates still turned up with cash, gold and bunches of flowers - which was lovely.

That sounds lovely:D I have to admit I watched the muslim wedding on Easties and was impressed how much more of an event it is and more colourful...much better than standing in a draughty church!!!!

wifeforlife

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Tee hee!!! That exact episode of SATC came into my head when I read it!!!! Hope the guests keep their shoes on!!!!!:rotfl::rotfl:

That episode was on just last week on comedy gold - love it!! :j

When I read the OP, my immediate thought was of Samantha getting the pasta over her white suit. As a mum to two kids, I have to admit I fully agreed with Samantha and Miranda in the show, and actually support the bride to be who sent this invite.

glossgal

I hate kids (in the nicest possible way of course!:D) and hate being stuck next to them at weddings etc BUT I would never be so rude on an invitation as appreciate that the majority of people don't share my view. Talk about insensitive! Why couldn't they just say something like 'we would prefer a quiet day so please can you make other arrangements for the little uns on this occassion'. Achieves the same results without causing offence. OP, you can bet everyone who reads it will be equally peeved and I wouldn't even want to go given such a bad attitude.

As for the cash, I don't like this trend at all and for recent weddings my policy is the ruder the request the less you're getting..who do these people think they are???

MORPH3US

winnie81 wrote: »

As for that special request for paying off there honeymoon :rotfl::T:rotfl: NOT A CHANCE :rotfl: Still laughing at that one! Hubby and I didn't have a honeymoon as we couldn't afford it and hell would've frozen over before we asked our family and friends to fund it :mad:

I agree that the children comment is rude, but I really don't get the comment above...

If you are going to buy them a gift anyway and are going to spend £x... what does it matter to you if that £x goes on a honeymoon or on buying them a toaster that they don't want?

Surely it costs you the same whatever and at least they get something they want if its what they asked for.....

elektra-2007

Well you said you dont want to take your lad anyway...so id ignore that comment,im sure her family will be more hurt. id be a bit more annoyed at the money. As they have given the option of paying some money off via a company...I would ring up pay £20 and send a card knowing you have done as they asked. After all its only a friend, so £20 is fine.
Or as they prob wont know who has paid what, id just send a card and give nothing if it offends you.
If you think you can get out of it and dont want to go then do so and just send a card.
Theres to much pressure on people for these events. How much would you expect her to give for your wedding present.
Dont feel guilty..if she was family or best friend I would consider more money.

Nessynoo

Send a wedding card saying " We would have given you a cash gift but we spent the money on a babysitter so we could attend the ceremony..."

PolishBigSpender

Not asking for children is fair enough, although the rudeness of the invite makes me look particularly polite and charming!

But asking for money is just a big no-no, I'd give nothing!