Wedding list: They have asked for money

feelinggood_2

Personally I'd just go, enjoy the day but not give them cash.

mtc95

Agree with the others and I certainly wouldn't go to a wedding if I received an invitation like that. Of course it's their choice who to invite, but that wording is downright rude.

If you do go, I would have thought that a gift of £20-30 is plenty for a work colleague and doesn't come across as cheap.

patchwork_cat

The children comment was very rude and personally I don't like giving money as a wedding gift, but at least they have organised a company to take the money, some don't.

Again if you give anything less than £50 you feel cheap, but that is an awful lot of money. Honestly theya ren't trying very hard and can't help thinking that all these people who ask for money must be having major falling outs with family and friends. Believe me it is so easy to fall out with people when it comes to your wedding even when you try very hard not to!

lostinrates

Wow.

A few of our friends have asked for money, which I've been happy to give under the circumstances, but I don't have children yet still manage to be offended by that!

Are they good friends??? I'm not sure they sound like very charming people!

jinky67

I think they could have phrased it all a lot better
It really is rather rude the way they have put it
I think I too would be by-passing their big day

Mme.Hibou

Actually, don't feel obliged to get them anything. We got married 1 month ago and we had some guests who didn't bring anything, I still love them because they are my friends.

Emmzi

I'll come back to my usual response of 'give them something home made'. Cake, ugly macrame owl in nylon raffia, whatever :-)

In fact, give them something *your children* made them. :-D

Loopy_Girl

Why is it rude? People spend a fortune on a wedding and they don't want a screaming baby ruining the ceremony or a rake of kids running about at the reception....I totally get it - and I'm a parent!!!!

The money thing...I guess it's just a sign of the times...if you have been living together do you really need a bale of towels or a new toaster? They are being honest...we don't have a wedding list as we have our home decked out but we wouldn't mind a hand with the honeymoon costs. There's plenty weddings where people give vouchers for gifts as the couple already co-habit...this is just a more 'advanced' side of it

bills_2

I think the part regarding the kids is a bit snobbish like they are turning there noses up at those with kids but the part asking for money is quite normal now adays. I have been to a few weddings lately that have had these little sort of things in requesting money rather than gifts or vouchers for places.

shellsuit

Mutter wrote: »

''Over the last few years it was your choice and decision to go off and have lots of children but it wasn't ours however it is our choice and decision not to have them at our wedding, so leave them with the grandparents."

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I too would be busy on reading that.

I do hope none of the guests have recently "lost" one of their parents.

If you are determined to go, give them £20.

That was my first thought too, it is extremely rude and ignorant.

I'm getting married in October and would be happy with just £5, so please don't let the money aspect put you off going.

To be honest, I would be really put out with that line about the children and I would probably decline the invite.