Future Ex Cuts Off All Financial Support

emlou2009

I agree that some clarification of what you need money for would be good. If you are still living in the house he is paying the mortage on, and he is still paying for food and utilities, and was giving you £1000 a month spends then in all honesty I doubt you would be eligible for much in the way of tax credits, it sounds like this was spare change to him!

I would have loved to be in that position. It sounds as if you were used to a nice lifestyle and are struggling now its been taken away

Count yourself lucky you have someone paying your bills and mortgage for you and have £80 a month left over. I spent £10 on a pair of jeans and had to cut back on my food shopping, or I wouldnt have been able to afford my rent! :rolleyes:

MrsTinks

I think that we need to know what "every day needs" are before trying to work out what help there might be. With food and home and bills paid for I'm not sure what essentials would cost £1000 a month?

Caroline73_2

I would be surprised if OP has a mortgage - you don't need one when you live under a bridge.

daska

To be fair, £20/week CB might just cover school lunches OR it might just cover the bus fare to school...

Caroline73_2

daska wrote: »

To be fair, £20/week CB might just cover school lunches OR it might just cover the bus fare to school...

Packed lunches included in food shopping, and then CB to cover bus fare. What else does OP need money for?

MrsAnnie

Who does the weekly supermarket shop? If it is you then how do you pay for it? Do you still have access to the household creditcard?

ETA: I guess what I am thinking is the Tesco Extra stores have everything you could ever need in them: clothes, shoes, makeup, hand bags, kitchen wares, tvs etc etc etc. ~ OP may have to move down quite a few brands,but a weekly trip to Tescos could keep her outfitted for a fair while. And all charged under the weekly shop budget.

Idiophreak

snowy63 wrote: »

Firstly, apologies if this is long-winded, will try to be precise. Just started divorce with husband, he is very irate and, to punish/control me, he has cut off all my access to money. I'm a housewife and had a household credit card which I used for all household costs and for our son's needs. I was also given £1000 a month for my personal needs and direct debits. He cut all of this off in December when I called out the police because of his threatening behaviour. I now have my £80 child benefit per month to live on. He will pay for the weekly supermarket shop. I have no idea where to go for financial help, I'm miserable and depressed as is my son (16), any advice out there? Thanks in advance.

Might just be me, but that font's horrible on my eyes.

smartpicture

I think people are being a bit unfair here. For a start, she said the £1000 was to cover d/ds too, we don't know what these include, although she mentioned contact lens which cost me £20 a month. 16-year-old boys also tend to require rather more funding than just luch & travel to school!

While it's perfectly true that many people would be glad of £80 a month for 'non-essentials', if you are used to having a lot more then it can be a huge adjustment. Obviously the OP has to make this adjustment if she's going to divorce her husband, but she deserves some sympathy and support to take those steps, which will not be as easy as some people are making out!

snowmaid

What is it with people that an OP looks for advice they have to attack?

She had a good job, husband asked her to stop working so that he could have a cooked meal to come home to, he agreed to pay her expenses by giving her £1000 a month. He is no longer providing this, her DD's haven't stopped, possibly from before she stopped working. She was asked to stop working, she didn't demand that her husband keep her.

She is looking for a job. In the meantime she still has expenses and for this is asking advice!

foxy-roxy

Also, everyone has a standard of living that they are used to it can be very hard when it is take off you so suddenly.
You will adjust but it will take time, you just need to plan in advance and make a list of what is highly important to least important in your daily essentials etc and work from there.