URGENT Mother refusing to drop off son!

newcook

for all we know, just because the school is closed doesnt mean that the club isnt (it may even be at another venue) but OP is assuming that because school is closed that the club is cancelled as well.

I do think that OP was being petty - im assuming that they didnt know until this morning that school was cancelled and they then went and made plans (again im assuming that they didnt check with mom if club was still on).

minimoneysaver

At the end of the day she doesn't have parental rights. She is the girlfriend of the father and shouldn't be involved with the arrangements. It is only going to add fuel to the situation with her getting involved too. It's time to stand back and let the mother and father sort out their problems, if of course they have any.

Bonnie2009

looktothefuture wrote: »

We've had moments when we've booked something my SS wanted to see or do and biomom changes plans willy nilly

Biomom?

What the hell?

Show some respect! She's the child's mother - you are not.

chesky369

I think the OP seems to have forgotten that the important person in all this is the little boy! I hope she doesn't bad mouth his mother to him, as this would be very damaging to him, not to the mother. In a situation like this, you have to stand back and only fight the important battles, not the niggling little ones.

MrsTinks

OP - as someone who's had several stepmums over the years (dad currently married to wife number 5...) can I point out to you that if you carry on like this then you will alienate the child big style and one day you may end up making your partner choose between you and his child... 99.9% certain that YOU will loose. Trust me on this... My dads current wife is the first one I have liked and approved off since he and my mum divorced - in hindsight my dad agrees ironically As a child I just saw through them a lot quicker than he did.

Stop fighting with his ex - she's his ex, not his current. There is nothing to fight about. If the child occassionally goes to sports club then this is hardly out of the norm and chances are she's already paid for him to go and frankly I'd not feel like wasting that money or jumping to attention either just because you were huffing about it.

Leave the contact to your partner - it's HIS child and HIS ex - I'm sure being a step mum is a hard gig - but you probably knew that when you took it on

ladypinkof66

i was a bit confused too about the original post couldnt understand it to be honest, but i do agree what has it got to the do with the grilfriend, she should leave it up to the parents of the child to sort it out and she should not be interferring she needs to take a chill pill and not get so wound up.

staceysteve

I am still here, just decided that clearly I was not going to get any advice here.
Of course we do not deal with his mother in the way I was venting on here.
I apologise I didn't relise you were all so quick to judge. I was simply venting.
My fiance is the most amazing father and his son wants to be with him so much it hurts to see his mother so depserate to pull them apart at whatever cost to their son.
Regarding the joint residency may I remind you all it is not me who is behind wanting it, the little boy is the driving force becuase as he has grown up he has become more and more vocal about wanting to be with his father and is now fed up of his mother's behaviour.
I hope all you steparents out there can understand my frustration. I am not his mother and I don't wish to be but no person can stand on the sidelines silently when a child is being hurt for one reason other than to try to anger and annoy my fiance.
I will certainly think twice before posting again.
I had thought this was how we were all supposed to behave:
Pls be nice to all MoneySavers. There's no such thing as a stupid question, and even if you disagree courtesy helps.

cazziebo

staceysteve wrote: »

I am still here, just decided that clearly I was not going to get any advice here.
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You did get advice. Lots of very good advice. The fact you don't like it/agree with it doesn't take away from the soundness of the advice.

staceysteve

No I didn't get good advice, I was told to stay out of a situation none of you know nothing about, if you did you would certainly know that it is impossible to not be involved, and I am not involving myself I am involved by my fiance's invitation thank you very much.

silvercar

If his son had gone to sports club, would you have been happy to have your plans messed up and not collect him until 3.30?