URGENT Mother refusing to drop off son!

looktothefuture

daska wrote: »

Oh boy is it difficult to bite that tongue at times though, when you've booked tickets for a show that the child wants to go to and you can't even contact the mum or mum can't be bothered to return prescription medicine or make sure she packs her coat.

From a slightly different perspective. DH is seriously ill and I can't say "I can't/won't do it because I'm not her mother" because her mum won't do it and her dad can't. If something needs sorting it's me or it probably won't get done.

Tell me about it! But what she can't see or she can't hear when I'm all alone and angry and upset - she won't ever know!

We've had moments when we've booked something my SS wanted to see or do and biomom changes plans willy nilly (mainly to attend some pathetic subaru cruz - yes she's a girl racer-petrol head, as is her partner and therefore my SS has to be too!) and I've been furious but I've had no choice but to accept it.... her priorities are obviously alot more important than mine and the little dudes fathers!

Same situation as you are really - if I don't do it/book it/pay for it it won't get done/seen/or bought because biomom expects DH and I to pay for everything school related incl after school activities and outings but god forbid he wears primark clothing and she seems him in it.......... I work, earn a really good living but there is no way I'm going bankrupt because she expects no less than her son in brand named trainers and sports wear or brand name jeans/shoes/shirts and coats - primark, matalan and tesco's do just fine until he's 16 and can buy his own clothes - and that's a way off anyway!

worriedsik

shellsuit wrote: »

Grow up the lot of you.

That's all I have to say.

lol i always like your straight to the point remarks :beer:

ben500

Curious_George wrote: »

I understanding its frustrating for you and you may well think its all out of spite but a lot of things are running as little later than planned due to the snow, there must be a reason other than just being difficult as to why it cant be til 3.30?
at least your still going to have him and its only 2 hours. is it really that bad?

like it or not, shes his mother and therefore the very person who is allowed to dictate what he does??

sorry, i know this isnt the reply you probably wanted, but as there are a lot of dads out there that dont get to see their kids at all... maybe 2 hours late is better than nothing (bearing in mind of course that its not really "late" but because there is no school)

. Why?

tiamai_d

I really don't understand, is he at the sports club today or not?

He normally picks him up from school at 1:30, sometimes he does a sports club till 3:30 but on the weeks he doesn't and during school holidays (when he isn't with my fiance) he picks him up at 1:30.

So some weeks he picks him up at 1.30, when he is not at his sports club and the weeks he is at sports club he is picked up at 3.30?

Why is it a problem picking him up after sports club, as usually happens when he goes to it, simply because the schools are off?

shellsuit

tiamai_d wrote: »

I really don't understand, is he at the sports club today or not?



So some weeks he picks him up at 1.30, when he is not at his sports club and the weeks he is at sports club he is picked up at 3.30?

Why is it a problem picking him up after sports club, as usually happens when he goes to it, simply because the schools are off?

It doesn't make sense at all to me either ~ OP is complaining about the time her fiance is meant to pick the lad up at, but the title of the thread is 'mother refusing to drop off son'

worriedsik

i think OP has stopped replying as hopefully she will now realize how petty the post was !

Spendless

shellsuit wrote: »

It doesn't make sense at all to me either ~ OP is complaining about the time her fiance is meant to pick the lad up at, but the title of the thread is 'mother refusing to drop off son'

Having re-read it (cos I didn't 'get' it either). I think that school closes at 1.30 on Fridays and sometimes son stops after school to attend a sports club (connected to or at the school). On those weeks Dad collects at 3.30 instead.

On this week school is closed (so sports club not running) so Dad wanted to pick up at 1.30 but Mum said "no, pick up 3.30 instead'.

The only thing I wondered was if school had been on was it a 3.30 pick up week?

belfastgirl23

worriedsik wrote: »

i think OP has stopped replying as hopefully she will now realize how petty the post was !

Or maybe gone to pick up the little boy? Hope she's calmed down before he has to spend time with her.

shellsuit

Spendless wrote: »

Having re-read it (cos I didn't 'get' it either). I think that school closes at 1.30 on Fridays and sometimes son stops after school to attend a sports club (connected to or at the school). On those weeks Dad collects at 3.30 instead.

On this week school is closed (so sports club not running) so Dad wanted to pick up at 1.30 but Mum said "no, pick up 3.30 instead'.

The only thing I wondered was if school had been on was it a 3.30 pick up week?

I understand that part, but the OP is complaining saying that the boys Mother won't drop him off.

Drop him off where (if Dad is meant to be picking him up)? That's what I don't get

I don't understand what the urgency is either ~ it doesn't look like the Mother is doing anything wrong to me, looks like they have all mucked up with the times, that's all.

Curious_George_2

ben500 wrote: »

Why?

why?
why not?

my children and thier social timetables revolve around me, wether i can be places, do things, pick up, drop off or find other arrangements,
Other than school, and as im the only one who arranges outings, clubs, trips, sleepovers, teas at friends houses etc things go according to MY schedule... nobody elses, I think you will find most families run like that