Relationship advice: my OH didn't defend me!!

Guinea_2

I have just read the original post, got so annoyed, showed it to my partner of seven years and he agreed with me. DUMP HIM! I CANNOT believe that he behaved in the way he did...or didn't really! :mad: Well, I can't believe that the people in Ikea behaved like that!

My partner said he wouldn't have let us be separated in the first place and if we were HE would have got me next to him and if someone said something HE said HE would have sorted it all out. If someone called me a c**t :eek: or use the word f**k :eek: in front of me about me then he would certainly have something colourful to say to them!

I know it's easier said than done but your OH needs a good talking to and if he doesn't see the error of his ways then he needs to eat dust!

Tribal

Dump the big sissy and find a real man like the many men who have responded. There is no excuse at all for leaving a girlfriend to fend for herself against mad antagonists -- or even sane ones. Most of us find out what other halves do too late to make The Big Decision. You know what your boyfriend will do: sweet fanny adams. And you want to stay with Mr Wimp?? How could you ever feel safe with him again? The mugger toddles up, rips your bag off your arm, and Mr Man just sidles away and pretends he hasn't seen -- but does say he believes you? Big whopping deal. By now you're beaten up and left for dead?

-- To the kerb!

Daytona_nev

Dump that zero & get yorself a hero!

jazzyjustlaw

I am absolutely staggered at your treatment.

Firstly, your OH is not worthy.

Secondly, you should call the police, that was an assault.

I do not understand what happened to make these people irate were you in the way of their 1 p chairs?

I would make a big fuss at Ikea and get a new partner, I cannot put on here what I really think of him but you can kinda guess.

slinks

matto wrote:

I've had my OH have a go at me for being rude and arrogant after sticking up for her.

i think...

we should stick up for those we love...

and accept the stickiness bestown upon us by those who love us!!!

slinks

Dora_the_Explorer wrote:

Ikea Rage - first cousin to Road Rage !

Slinks, sit down with the boyfie, tell him exactly what your feelings were at the time, ask him what his feelings were at the time, tell him what your feelings are now, ask him what his feelings are now. Then you'll both know where you stand and can move on because it soundsl ike it's the elephant in the room at the moment.

thanks dora...

wish i'd read this before screaming at him earlier...

i'm my own worst enemy

Quackers

slinks wrote:

i think...

we should stick up for those we love...

and accept the stickiness bestown upon us by those who love us!!!

Hi Slinks,

Have you spoken to him yet?

Dont forget to let us know how you get on

Hope it all goes ok & you get the outcome YOU want xx

slinks

DavidF wrote:

Im a bloke and i would most probably have stuck up for you EVEN though im not your partner. If i was your oh i would consider that i would have No alternative other than to defend you come what may. This would have been done at the 1st sign of tension. As it was females involved i would most probably have shouted the security guard over and told him sort it or I will. Simple you give the store the option and are being protective of your own at the same time. I dont like violence at all. I hate rowing ect ect. But if it is there in front of me then i will meet it head on. Your oh actions are im my opinion very questionable.

It used to be the 1st thing a man would do in years gone by. Protect his family at all costs. Show your oh this thread and talk it through after. May be that he can re-assure you much better than any of us ever could. Hemay also need assertiveness classes as you cannot go through life being pushed around and avoiding conflict at all costs. It would be great if we could but im afraid the real world isn't like that.

Pleas dont take any of the above as a slur on your oh as its not really intended to be. Just a few things he may need to chew over for a bit. Maybe he feels unmanly(If there is such a word) because he didnt react as he would have wanted to when faced with a confrontation. some people do just freeze. But like i say you have to protect yourself and your family at any cost. Thats my view of the world today really. Because if i dont look after my family, Who is ?

ty DavidF and I don't think any of it was a slur on him. If it had been, I would have defended him!!!!!

lol

slinks

Mumstheword wrote:

She said you had BO = stinks, slinks!!

As for your original issue, I would expect my DH to back me up in such a situation. He would place himself between me and the offending articles! If he thought I was in the wrong, a look on his face would tell me to shut up (he's a brave man, lol). If he thought I was in the right, he would take over the arguement and put them in their place.

lol, my head was too mashed earlier to understand, duh.

ty!

slinks

Wickedkitten wrote:

That's just unbelievable, just as well it wasn't 1p meatballs eh?

wish it had been meatballs as i'm veggie and wouldn't have gone near ikea that day!!!!!!!!!

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