Invited to Ex's wedding - Problem with fiancee

*Louise*

Just read this , and am a little shocked that the question needed to be asked

I am totally on the bride's side

It's one thing having an ex at a wedding (nice if everything is civil) but an ex who has been caught xchanging flirty and suggestive emails reminiscing abot the past?? Not a chance!!

I don't think much of the groom if he is even considering going against the wishes of his fiancee (he is lucky she is able to see past the messages and forgive him imo), the poor woman must be feeling second best, and I can't begin to imagine how she would feel seeing the OP getting up to sing at the wedding.

Not on.

OP - I really think you need to back off as far as possible, and let them have their wedding without any arguments, or you may well be responsible for no wedding happening in the end.

Sunshine12

*Louise* wrote: »

OP - I really think you need to back off as far as possible, and let them have their wedding without any arguments, or you may well be responsible for no wedding happening in the end.

Maybe thats the intention!! Reminisce about the past and all that....seen it all before.

maggied_2

^^Exactly what I thought when I read it!

Skippycat

Personally, if it was me I wouldn't go. If the bride doesn't want you there then it'll be a very awkward situation and you'll probably both end up spending the day feeling very uncomfortable. If they can't agree on who is / is not invited to their wedding and if one of them is already reading the others emails etc then it doesn't look very promising for their marriage. I really couldn't be bothered going and celebrating a wedding where the couple will probably end up divorced not long after!

mumslave

geez if i was the 'mad woman' I wouldnt be marrying a guy whom is insisting his ex whom he was exchanging flirty emails with, attends our wedding :O He would be out the door so fast his feet wouldnt touch the floor. You were exchanging suggestive emails with him, doesnt matter the timescale. She is well within her rights to not want you there. Learn from this.

Pollycat

*Louise* wrote: »

It's one thing having an ex at a wedding (nice if everything is civil) but an ex who has been caught xchanging flirty and suggestive emails reminiscing abot the past??

Not only an ex who has been caught exchanging flirty and suggestive emails reminiscing about the past...but also an ex who refers to the bride-to-be as

mad and out of control! All this because of a few joke e-mails.

AND

being very unreasonable and seems unable to talk to me rationally.

and also she (the OP) says:

don't think they are particularly well suited

wasn't really negative about her until this episode arose. As mentioned I do not think they are particularly well suited and thought the engagement happened a bit fast

Does this sound like someone who is happy that that her ex boyfriend and alleged friend has found someone else to share his life with?

*Louise*

^^Exactly!!

suekjw

Pollycat wrote: »

Do you know, I don't think I've ever seen a thread on MSE where the opinion is so over-whelmingly one sided - and imho, totally correct.

This is so true, and something I never thought I would see on MSE lol!

notakid

You wouldn't be coming to my Wedding, no way! And I'm soft.

But don'tworry OP, you can have him back when she has finished with him because tbh, you seem well suited. He's a prince.:rolleyes:

Suggestive emails (a polite way of saying you both have been talking dirty and getting cheap thrills) to a man who asked another Woman to marry him. Face it, you weren't good enough to marry.......

Have some pride!

nickyhutch

Be honest - you want him back, don't you?