Need some urgent advice

emsywoo123

aliasojo wrote: »

Dippy, everyone is allowed an opinion whether you agree with it or not. I think you've been too personal telling ems to grow up and asking if she's even married just because she has an opinion that doesn't sit well with you.

You can hold the moral high ground by all means but it doesn't give you the right to be insulting imo.

Sorry, don't want to cause an argument but I think you've been unfair.

Quite!:TWe haev had differences of opinions on this thread, but respected each others views. Certainly never been rude to each other!;)

Mips

aliasojo wrote: »

Dippy, everyone is allowed an opinion whether you agree with it or not. I think you've been too personal telling ems to grow up and asking if she's even married just because she has an opinion that doesn't sit well with you.

You can hold the moral high ground by all means but it doesn't give you the right to be insulting imo.

Sorry, don't want to cause an argument but I think you've been unfair.

I have no moral highground. I find it hard to believe that people are suggesting to the OP that she can work things out, get him back etc etc.

If you have no personal experience of having a long term relationship and having children, then possibly it is easy to suggest all of those things.

No, no venom.. I really couldn't care less what happens to the bloke and his mistress.. I just feel really sorry for the wife and the children.

And I have been married more than 5 years and have no experience of being cheated on.

Why feel sorry for someone who is with a married man? He's not divorced. He is married.

emsywoo123

Dippychick wrote: »

I have no moral highground. I find it hard to believe that people are suggesting to the OP that she can work things out, get him back etc etc. At no time have I suggested this

If you have no personal experience of having a long term relationship and having children, then possibly it is easy to suggest all of those things. Luckily I have!

No, no venom.. I really couldn't care less what happens to the bloke and his mistress.. I just feel really sorry for the wife and the children. I indeed feel for them also

And I have been married more than 5 years and have no experience of being cheated on. Lucky you

Why feel sorry for someone who is with a married man? Because she is still a human in pain? He's not divorced. He is married.

Hope I've covered all points above following your somewhat patronising post.

aliasojo

Dippychick wrote: »

I have no moral highground. I find it hard to believe that people are suggesting to the OP that she can work things out, get him back etc etc.

I can understand that but your feelings don't mean you can be rude.

Why feel sorry for someone who is with a married man? He's not divorced. He is married.

What's done is done. I don't agree with what the OP has done, I made that clear earlier, nor do I agree with all of ems thoughts but there's no need to get on anyone's case because they might think differently to you.

And whilst I have every sympathy for the wife, I can still feel some sort of empathy for another human beng who has made a mistake and is suffering now.

Of course if she turned out to be a serial mistress then I would feel differently but there's no suggestion of that and no-one reaches their grave entirely innocent of any wrongdoing. :rolleyes:

Mips

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Hope I've covered all points above following your somewhat patronising post.

This is why people should evaluate who they get involved with. Sorry but, 'I love him' doesn't quite cut it.

If you get yourself into situations like this, you can't hope for the best.

emsywoo123

Dippychick wrote: »

This is why people should evaluate who they get involved with. Sorry but, 'I love him' doesn't quite cut it.

If you get yourself into situations like this, you can't hope for the best.

Is there one amongst us who has never done anything wrong? No, the Op should perhaps not have had the relationship, but it has happened, and as I said earlier, in time, I'm sure she will see things with a different perspective. Time changes alot of emotions ( and their intensity) but I will not change my opinion that the OP is hurt and does not deserve, at theis point, some of the posts from some (not necc you) santimonious self righteous self important posters!

Dave_liverpool

Dippychick wrote: »

This is why people should evaluate who they get involved with. Sorry but, 'I love him' doesn't quite cut it.

If you get yourself into situations like this, you can't hope for the best.

no, doesn't cut it with me either, she didn't love him when she 1st met him but didn't walk away.

emsywoo123

Dave_liverpool wrote: »

no, doesn't cut it with me either, she didn't love him when she 1st met him but didn't walk away.

Neither did he. And he was the married one.
Shoot me down :rotfl:

Dave_liverpool

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Neither did he. And he was the married one.
Shoot me down :rotfl:

no, your right on that too. I'd have a few words with him if he was a mate of mine BUT he is now the one facing the MIL:eek:

emsywoo123

Dave_liverpool wrote: »

no, your right on that too. I'd have a few words with him if he was a mate of mine BUT he is now the one facing the MIL:eek:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: