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  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 11:07PM
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    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • red_devil
    red_devil Posts: 10,793 Forumite
    They should never have been spending all that time together and allowed themselves to get in the situation of spending the night together!
    Surely when you split from someone you see the kids not the ex!

    You pick the kids up and drop them home etc!
    you have separate lives etc? your only interest is the kids?
    Just cos they have children together why do they have to spend time together odd!
    :footie:
  • shellsuit
    shellsuit Posts: 24,749 Forumite
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    BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »
    just an update - my b/f is coming round after i have finished work and i suspect he is going to end it with me. im at work now and im in such a state

    Don't panic, you don't know what's going to happen yet.

    He may just be coming to apologise, he may be coming to tell you about the messages between him and his wife, or calling just because he wants to see you!
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  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 11:07PM
    post deleted
    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 11:08PM
    post deleted
    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • shellsuit
    shellsuit Posts: 24,749 Forumite
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    BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »
    It was Christmas and they were spending time together for the sake of the children as they are only 8

    It wasn't for the children, seems like an excuse, or if it was for the children, it's not fair what they planned. (IMO anyway)

    Mummy and Daddy aren't together, then Daddy comes home for Christmas, woohoooooo! Oh, Christmas is over and Daddy is going again. That's not nice for little ones, they need consistancy, not people messing with their heads.

    All he had to do was go on Christmas Eve and go home, then go back first thing Christmas morning. Then again on Boxing day if he wished.


    None of that matters though, what's done is done, but your view is terribly blinkered by your love for this man.
    Tank fly boss walk jam nitty gritty...
  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 11:09PM
    post deleted
    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • red_devil
    red_devil Posts: 10,793 Forumite
    BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »
    It was Christmas and they were spending time together for the sake of the children as they are only 8

    people who have split up from their partners dont spend time together? They see the kids i agree. No need to spend time together they were parted?
    :footie:
  • BARGAINHUNTER!
    BARGAINHUNTER! Posts: 848 Forumite
    edited 23 March 2011 at 11:09PM
    post deleted
    MFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
    Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months
  • Money_maker
    Money_maker Posts: 5,471 Forumite
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    BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »
    Nope - have a sick feeling of doom in the pit of my stomach about this one

    Just mentally prepare.

    There's really nothing you can do to make it easier.

    However, you can start planning a brand New Year with things to look forward to. Re-evaluate your life and start making changes. It's not the end, its a new beginning.

    Hope it all goes well and you could well be wrong but it needs sorting one way or the other x
    Please do not quote spam as this enables it to 'live on' once the spam post is removed. ;)

    If you quote me, don't forget the capital 'M'

    Declutterers of the world - unite! :rotfl::rotfl:
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