Treating kids differently (xmas money)

Rachie_B

OMG that's awful!

but not really your place to say anything IMO ?

MrsE_2

I remember when my sister was about 7 & I about 13, she got a new most wanted prezzie on most girls list of a Barbie house. They must have spent it all on her, because I got a little address book & diary set (you know covered in flock), the sort of thing you would see in a pound shop now.

They won't forget it. She will reap what she sows.

miamoo

amandada wrote: »

I think it's downright despicable!

Maybe next year she'll find that all that the elder 2 have on their list is to be with their dad! (if he's about)

Unfortunately their dad died a few years so that wouldnt be an option for them.

miamoo

Rachie_B wrote: »

OMG that's awful!

but not really your place to say anything IMO ?

Yes I know, but it really does break my heart thinking of what it could do to them in the future emotionally. I will have a serious think because maybe she just doesnt realise how mean it is

chloe99_2

did you say it's a friend, I have forgotten? If so then it is okay for you to raise the subject - that is what good friends are for.

jellyhead

Do the older children get gifts from their dad's side of the family? just wondering if it will balance out somehow. Or perhaps the older ones already have everything they want/need?

Just trying to see both sides, because this year my 13 year old only has 4 presents to open off santa (and 2 of them are clothes and chocolate) while my 4 year old has a big pile of presents. He doesn't need anything and still has presents from the previous 3 xmas piled up untouched, he simply does not want 'stuff'. (one of his presents is a PS3 though, so he's not hard done by, but an outsider might think his tiny pile of gifts suggests that we love the little one more than him)

Oldernotwiser

chloe99 wrote: »

did you say it's a friend, I have forgotten? If so then it is okay for you to raise the subject - that is what good friends are for.

Or you could drop her for being a horrible person!

chloe99_2

Really??? They wouldnt have been much of a friend then...

Nomoneymummy_2

I had similar done to me, No one passed away but when they got divorecd it went "all odd" and it was just pants, Bro go a Nintendo (360 no less:rolleyes: soooo old am I )
Sis got some Dc Martins and a personal cd player and a new cd player for her room,
L'il sis got the sylvanian famalies windmill and bakery!

I got a Market special crappy velvet dress! (never worn and much loathed)

14 years on not forgotten!

Still not sure if I'd say something, but if poss buy them an extra special gift to make up ( MY godmother used to )

LJM

miamoo wrote: »

A friend of mine has 3 children, 2 by a previous relationship(he died) and one with current partner. Youngest is 5 older 2 are 10 and 11yrs.
I am really upset for the older 2 as they are treated differently to the youngest who is spoiled rotten.
I have just spoken to the mum now and she said the older 2 arent getting much for xmas, because she wants to get the youngest everything he has asked for.
They havent got alot of money but surely it should be shared equally:mad:

personally i think that is awful they should have the same, as a mother i couldnt even think of doing something like that it would be like me saying i love one more than the other, i feel sorry for the children