MSE Parents Club Part 9

elle_gee

Afternoon all.. just a quickie!

The 8mth development check was a bit of a non-event! No specific questions on "Can he do...?", it was more "What can he do?". I don't think that was just because it was Rhys either, because I heard another one going on (big open room) while I was getting Rhys dressed again and it was the same but I don't think there was any mention of prem there *confused* Sooo... I assume he passed?! Dunno..

Anyway, good news, he's gained 8oz and is now at the dizzy heights of 12lb 2oz

We looked around the centre and saw the sensory room. Will try to book it when we have a spare afternoon.. Claire, do you want to bring Reece and Charlie too?

I'm off to training now then to look for paint for Rhys' room (the blue colour). Rhys is at Grandma's until 7-8pm

:grouphug:'s for all xx

PS I think Carla's laptop is poorly sick; she's still on FB using her iPhone

SugarSpun

[thanks]Thanks to everyone - I feel much better for being listened to. You're all lovely lovely people and I'm all tearful thinking about how lovely you are [/thanks]

r.mac wrote: »

Fitzio - We have a tripp trapp by stokke and both LO and us love it! Highly recommended from us

JEALOUS! We have a Faux Trapp, which I can't help thinking is just a bit inferior...

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

...some people who I thought were a bit strange ...

And we like you too MOTM

Big hugs to everyone, I've nothing really to add on the different threads idea (except that a name/child's name/child's age post would be helpful) because all I really want to say is that you're all very lovely and thank you for listening to me. I've been feeling like a$$ since the euphoria at finally having a baby wore off and I realised how badly I'd felt and been treated, but I already feel a little more human for having been taken seriously.

Millie's Mum, I'd hoped to conceive quickly a second time, but exclusive BF seems to actually be a contraceptive in my case so we'll just have to see how it goes and keep trying

MOTM if you don't want to take it further don't listen to the people on the other thread baying for the teacher's head on a plate. FWIW, I think the LEA should be informed - but by the school; it's not your decision to make.

Sorry you're still feeling bad Bruno, but very nice of you to take the toddler to work (I know his name's Elijah, but I liked the alliteration ).

Feelie, I'd be the same way about mummy groups - I don't allow people who smell of smoke near Molly, but it would be hard with other mummies and babies who belong to those mummies...

Beenie, I'm sorry your HV is so rubbish

Jillie, I'm also angry for you at your SIL for her timing, although I can't imagine how she must have been feeling. And your DH too - there's no excuse for not being there for you when you needed him, but it must be hard for him as well.

Stuff's just hard sometimes, isn't it? And yet we're all still trying to do our best. Does that make us all supermummies and superdaddies? I wonder.

3onitsway

SugarSpun wrote: »

Thank you Sparkle - I didn't realise you'd had a difficult time as well. I do blame myself, and whenever I do something wrong I feel like a very rubbish mummy because I couldn't even get that small thing right and then the way she was born is always lurking. I forgot to put her double-thickness night time nappy on last night and this morning she woke up in a wet patch and I feel horrible about it. She's fine, happily chatting to her toys, but I'm a mess.

SS I know its already been covered - but I think speaking to a midwife might help you. (Speaking to us has hopefully helped a little!).

Don't worry about little things like wet patches - i'm sure she won't remember and use it against you when she's a big girl.

You're obviously not a rubbish mummy - or you wouldn't be worrying about everything. Pregnancy and birth is a strange time when you've totally out of control of the situation. I've had one horrible labour and emergency c/s, one average labour and normal birth and finally one of the easiest & quickest births possible. In all three of them I felt helpless and useless. On the lovely third one I still told OH & the midwife that I wanted to get off the bed and go home because it hurt and I couldnt' do it.


I've had a very productive morning.
I've been to collect my purse I left in the courtesy dodgem yesterday, dropped DD2 off with MIL, went to kwik-fit for my other two tyres, filled the car up with deisel :eek:, jetwashed the car, hoovered the car, went to doctors and am now finally home to catch up and then clean up.


I noticed SB was awol yesterday - hope you're ok if you're lurking.

And Krystal weren't you talking about peeing on a stick towards the end of last week?

Hugs & hellos to everyone else. xx

feelinggood_2

angela6834 wrote: »

Feelie, Was your gymbabes yesterday or was that the one today? Rose has been twice now and considering she hardly ever cries, she has both times we've been. I think she gets too tired. Not sure whether to persevere or to try again in a little while with her x

Yesterday was our first Gymbabes, in future we are going to go on a wednesday morning.

Toby got a bit tired/hungry at the end, so I had to make a quick dash off to feed him. I think next time I'll take a cereal bar for him to eat immediately before we start. I'm a bit shy of feeding him in public now he is so enormous!

I let him explore for himself, and for about 10 minutes in the middle he just sat and played with a train toy - does Rose have a chance to do a bit of sitting quietly while there?

Forgive me for forgetting, but how old is she? How mobile is she? Toby was one of the oldest there at 9 months, but I'm glad I waited till he was crawling and could decide what he wanted to do himself.

angela6834

feelinggood wrote: »

Yesterday was our first Gymbabes, in future we are going to go on a wednesday morning.

Toby got a bit tired/hungry at the end, so I had to make a quick dash off to feed him. I think next time I'll take a cereal bar for him to eat immediately before we start. I'm a bit shy of feeding him in public now he is so enormous!

I let him explore for himself, and for about 10 minutes in the middle he just sat and played with a train toy - does Rose have a chance to do a bit of sitting quietly while there?

Forgive me for forgetting, but how old is she? How mobile is she? Toby was one of the oldest there at 9 months, but I'm glad I waited till he was crawling and could decide what he wanted to do himself.

I did give her a snack before we left so she wasnt too hungry as it falls right on her lunch time. She cannot crawl or even roll much yet. She can sit unaided for long periods, maybe an hour or so but obviously this doesnt help her get about. Maybe i should have waited.

She's now 8 months and she was the youngest there x

Bruno, sorry to hear your day isnt going to plan x

ManOnTheMoon

SugarSpun wrote: »

And we like you too MOTM

Big hugs to everyone, I've nothing really to add on the different threads idea (except that a name/child's name/child's age post would be helpful) because all I really want to say is that you're all very lovely and thank you for listening to me. I've been feeling like a$$ since the euphoria at finally having a baby wore off and I realised how badly I'd felt and been treated, but I already feel a little more human for having been taken seriously.


MOTM if you don't want to take it further don't listen to the people on the other thread baying for the teacher's head on a plate. FWIW, I think the LEA should be informed - but by the school; it's not your decision to make.

Don't worry, i'm the strangest

Would be good, as long as we don't have to give full details. I have mentioned my girls names before, but not put ages-names

Good. I see no reason why anyone here wouldn't take you seriously, so you are in good company

We will do what's best for 12yo, don't worry. As per your being taken seriously comments, it's the same for us. If the school had not tried to blame us, even after it was proven they were in the wrong, it would all be okay now.

3onitsway

angela6834 wrote: »

MM, I love your avvy. So cute.

Feelie, Was your gymbabes yesterday or was that the one today? Rose has been twice now and considering she hardly ever cries, she has both times we've been. I think she gets too tired. Not sure whether to persevere or to try again in a little while with her x

feelinggood wrote: »

Yesterday was our first Gymbabes, in future we are going to go on a wednesday morning.

Toby got a bit tired/hungry at the end, so I had to make a quick dash off to feed him. I think next time I'll take a cereal bar for him to eat immediately before we start. I'm a bit shy of feeding him in public now he is so enormous!

I let him explore for himself, and for about 10 minutes in the middle he just sat and played with a train toy - does Rose have a chance to do a bit of sitting quietly while there?

Forgive me for forgetting, but how old is she? How mobile is she? Toby was one of the oldest there at 9 months, but I'm glad I waited till he was crawling and could decide what he wanted to do himself.

Our trial is tomorrow at 12.20 - would you both suggest early lunch before we go?

I thought we might be a bit old for it as she'll be one a week Sunday. Did I read that Gymbabes is for until they're confident walkers?, then you move up to Tumbletots? She's a long way off being a confident walker anyway.

csh_2

Fitzio wrote: »

Csh – yes I have jumped on the bandwagon! I was considering it before, and by coincidence tried to catch up late one night when everyone had been ordering them. I hope it comes before Monday or H might steal K’s!

I'd like to see her try lol Hes had it in a firm grasp since it came yesterday!

SugarSpun

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Would be good, as long as we don't have to give full details. I have mentioned my girls names before, but not put ages-names

I think yours are different cause you say things like DD12 and DD16 so we know. I know exactly how old Molly is but because I don't call her Molly25weeks (plus one day) I don't expect everyone else to remember.

Edit: very cute csh

r.mac_2

Fitzio I hadn't seen anything more about a scottish meet - sorry - but I am definately keen to come along and be involved. I have a car so can travel Scruffy - thanks for offering to organise. If I can help just PM me as I miss lots of the posts on here these days!

SugarSpun wrote: »

Big hugs to everyone, I've nothing really to add on the different threads idea (except that a name/child's name/child's age post would be helpful) because all I really want to say is that you're all very lovely and thank you for listening to me. I've been feeling like a$$ since the euphoria at finally having a baby wore off and I realised how badly I'd felt and been treated, but I already feel a little more human for having been taken seriously.

Stuff's just hard sometimes, isn't it? And yet we're all still trying to do our best. Does that make us all supermummies and superdaddies? I wonder.

SS - yes, I agree things can be hard. I had a bad birth experience too and it's not left me at all yet and LO is now almost a year old. The thing to remember was that it wasn't your fault - although I know that doesn't help lots. If you have a HV or GP could you talk to them about it (you aren't in the UK are you?)? Otherwise if you fancy a chat then do PM me. You aren't on your own x