MSE Parents Club Part 9

jillie1974

and on a happer note...looks like i'll be waking K again to go out. This time we have about 30mins walk so he can fall asleep again on the way. and hopefully he'll be awake for all the group. talked to DH about the groups and he said to go to this one so its on his advice...better be good.

its like starting a new job when you first go to a group lol!!

its amazing how posting on here can make you feel a little bit better

harley1

Sugar, I'm sorry to read that you are still so upset about Mollys birth. I won't comment on that because while I can sympathise I can't really empathise as I didn't experience the same thing and I'm worried I'll say the wrong thing.

But I can say that you are a great mum. The fact that you worry about Molly is proof that you love her and only have her best interests at heart. I often sit here in floods of tears over the possibility that something bad could happen (in fact, there I go again just thinking about it) I've been really worried about this temperature thing to the extent that I had to put the thermometer away as it was telling me stupid temperatures when touch was telling me something different. Anyway, that just tells me that I care, as you do, and that we all want the best for our little ones. If you couldn't care less, then that would be the time to worry.

I'm sorry, I used to be so much more eloquent, but I seem to have lost the ability to express myself well. Hopefully this will return when I go back to work otherwise I could be in big trouble.

I think you are doing a fantastic job

(((HUGS)))

xxxx

Krystaltips

My Hipp freebies have come... Am totally disappointed... If anyone wants a sample of Hipp organic bedtime milk and a sachet of baby rice with 30p off, just holler at my fairies...

On the other hand, my freebie photobox collage has arrived and it's fantastic!! I need to set up a few alter egos and order some for the family I think... :whistle:

weezl74

jillie1974 wrote: »

and on a happer note...looks like i'll be waking K again to go out. This time we have about 30mins walk so he can fall asleep again on the way. and hopefully he'll be awake for all the group. talked to DH about the groups and he said to go to this one so its on his advice...better be good.

have a good time Jillie, and come tell us how it went?

jillie1974

i thought i was going to fall of the operating table. it seemed so narrow!!
i was more scared about falling off the table lol!!

now i just wonder if the same thing could happen again (K's head didnt turn properly and forceps, ventouse didnt work)... if i was to get pg...can i ask for a CS staright away?

SugarSpun

Thank you Weezlie, it does help to see your thoughts.

And Jillie, that must have been so distressing for you - I'm so sorry.

Now I have to drink my tea and go be professional Doctor SS at some meetings. Today I am presenting the beginnings of a paper I'm writing and suggesting that I be allowed to edit an e-Journal. Let's hope I don't start crying...

Edit: thank you too Harley and GISI - there must be a way where women having medicalised births don't have to feel helpless. I'd already come to terms with the idea that I wouldn't be the first person to hold Molly because the Germans always give the baby to the father to give to the mother, but not getting to see her for more than a minute over her first two hours was just horrible. And I don't know what happened to her that first night because they wouldn't let me keep her with me or let OH keep her with him - she went to the nursery, which we paid the private rates to avoid.

Harley, how's Kezia doing? Was it just a weird blip in the baby behaviour?

sparkle03

SugarSpun wrote: »

Thank you Sparkle - I didn't realise you'd had a difficult time as well. I do blame myself, and whenever I do something wrong I feel like a very rubbish mummy because I couldn't even get that small thing right and then the way she was born is always lurking. I forgot to put her double-thickness night time nappy on last night and this morning she woke up in a wet patch and I feel horrible about it. She's fine, happily chatting to her toys, but I'm a mess.

Im not just saying this but I do understand how you feel Its so hard when you feel as if something is your fault. I do honestly wish I could help more with the root but Im just going to sound as if Im brushing the way you feel to one side and thats not what I want at all, but if you feel counselling would help then I really would go for it. Try to remember that we all deal with things so differently and where emotions are concerned with matters like this there is no 'right' way to feel!
As for the nappy last night we all do daft things like that all the time, I didnt tell anyone as I wasnt posting at the time but I let lexi fall from the arm of the sofa a couple of weeks ago.
I felt so bad I had to ring OH at work and tell him to come home as I was rubbish at being a mum and Lexi deserved better In my heart though I know it isnt true I just felt sooo bad as !!!!!! was I doing letting her stand up on the sofa??? We might be mums but we are only human.
Do you think maybe seeing as you have had a hard few days what with the medical bill and other stuff you have mentioned things have all just got on top of you and its coming out in everything you do not being right?
Once again im not trying to poopoo how you feel just throwing it out there xx

got-it-spend-it

Jillie- sorry you feel ike OH wasn't there for you. That must be a really horrid feeling and I think the way you have dealt with SIL's death has been so strong.

Let me know how bumps and babes is as I keep meaning to go to our one here

redmel1621

weezl74 wrote: »

do you think maybe she thinks you have all the stuff already? x

Weezl, she is my best friend! We visit each other/phone at least once a week and txt every day...she knows exactly what i've got and what I need. She also knows I have been a bit worried lately and was wishing I had a doppler, and that I have been in two minds over the carrycot for the pram (which would mean I don't need a moses) Anyway...sorry to everyone as I think I am getting a bit preggy related here:o

SusanC wrote: »

It was an Independent midwife who did not follow procedures she should have and was on her own so it is highly unlikely to happen with an NHS homebirth however it is unpleasant and distressing so I wouldn't advise anyone who was pregnant to read it as you are likely to be more upset by that kind of thing when pregnant.

sparkle03 wrote: »

Weezl I would agree with Susan here, not worth you reading it at all hunni xx

I wish someone had warned me before I read it and became utterly distressed over it, I can't get it out of my mind now:mad::(

Sorry I did ask earlier, but maybe not very clearly as I was rushing off for the school run....what is the documentary that was referred to as finding out there was a problem with Tigs baby?

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