naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

atwitsend_2

Rachel83 wrote: »

My guess is your just a wind up merchant, maybe bored or something? :rolleyes: hows the soap fetish been today?

If I was bored, then I can think of many of other things to do with my time thank you. I am a genuine poster who posts about genuine concerns and things happening.

Rachel83

Ok well if its genuine your concidering taking your kids christmas pressies then I feel sorry for you, maybe your kid too, I mean unless what he did was prison worthy then who'd spoil christmas day?
Concidering the school isn't punishing him it can't be that bad surely. I'm sure he'd be excluded or something if it was seriously bad enough to remove all christmas pressies.

atwitsend_2

Rachel83 wrote: »

Concidering the school isn't punishing him it can't be that bad surely. I'm sure he'd be excluded or something if it was seriously bad enough to remove all christmas pressies.

The school actually called me in, because they can't deal with his behaviour anymore, i'm sure exclusion isn't far away.

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atwitsend wrote: »

The school actually called me in, because they can't deal with his behaviour anymore, i'm sure exclusion isn't far away.

For a child of the "believing in Santa"'s age to face being excluded from his school for bad behaviour would require something far more efficient than "normal" discipline techniques and threats! He could have an underlying medical/psychological problem. In which case ruining his christmas would be the LAST thing to do! What did the school say?? Has he been tested for ADD and autism/asperger's syndrome? Could he be reacting to your being pregnant, and the impending arrival of a sibling?

csh_2

atwitsend wrote: »

I was bought up with loads of presents, My parents were not rich, far from it, they worked very hard for their money, it all stems back to when my mum was a child, she was one of 8 children and they never got presents, they were asked each year if they wanted a present or a big family feast of food for the christmas period, and they always picked the food! I think thats so refreshing, because I feel most kids would say a present nowadays lol.
So the reason for my mums splurging was because she wanted to give me and my sister what she didnt have, bless her heart.
When I first had my children, I used to buy stack loads of presents for them, suppose I was just carrying on with what I knew. But my boy is autistic (amongst other things) and cant deal with having loads of presents, so the presents have been cut down dramatically over the years, he now recieves only a few presents spread out on christmas day. I actually find he appreciates things a hell of a lot more and takes each one in whereas having so many he didnt know what to do with!

If your son cannot deal with Christmas and having lots of presents how do you expect him to cope when you give him none?

I didn't realise it was still acceptable to label an autistic child as 'naughty' least of all by ones own mother.

This whole thread has purely been for your own amusement. I really can't understand what people get out of threads like this.

tamlem

atwitsend wrote: »

The school actually called me in, because they can't deal with his behaviour anymore, i'm sure exclusion isn't far away.

If that's the case then whatever approaches you're using, disciplinary and more importantly, positive praise and relationship building are clearly not working, and/or there are other issues going on here.

I would be considering asking my Gp for referral to parenting classes (they are not for "bad parents" but for anyone who cares enough about their kids to want to find out if there are better ways of helping them) or perhaps even a CAMHS referral? Although things would have to be pretty extreme to need that. Hopefully there are other ways of getting to the bottom of things.

Either way you are way off the mark with the Santa thing. Good luck with it all.

PS. Make today the last day that you tell your child he is so naughty or he is a naughty boy, from tomorrow onwards when issues arise tell him that he has done a naughty thing. Make time for lots of one to one activities together and praise his good behavious as often as you can. I do genuinely wish you the best of luck. Parenting can be very hard.

atwitsend_2

csh wrote: »

If your son cannot deal with Christmas and having lots of presents how do you expect him to cope when you give him none?

I didn't realise it was still acceptable to label an autistic child as 'naughty' least of all by ones own mother.

This whole thread has purely been for your own amusement. I really can't understand what people get out of threads like this.

So because my son has autism and ADHD, he is allowed to get away with smearing his own excrement over the walls of the toilet? hitting other children? kicking the teacher? and then being very rude to some children who had came into his school to put on a christmas performance?
This is not usual behaviour for my son, this is precisely why I didnt say sooner as I knew people would jump to the 'oh he has adhd/autism bandwagon'
trust me, I do not get ANY amusement out of this thread. Its me that that has to deal with behaviour.

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csh wrote: »

If your son cannot deal with Christmas and having lots of presents how do you expect him to cope when you give him none?

I didn't realise it was still acceptable to label an autistic child as 'naughty' least of all by ones own mother.

This whole thread has purely been for your own amusement. I really can't understand what people get out of threads like this.

Oh..I completely missed that reply from the OP! Obviously, autistic children cannot be disciplined the way you would a non-autistic child! Have you even researched what to do based on his situation??

You clearly need strong guidance!!!

tandraig

I missed that - that your son is autistic! sorry but if I say any more I am going to get chucked off this site!!! suffice to say - I hope i dont ever learn your identity Atwitsend, I may have to face criminal charges too!

tamlem

atwitsend wrote: »

So because my son has autism and ADHD, he is allowed to get away with smearing his own excrement over the walls of the toilet? hitting other children? kicking the teacher? and then being very rude to some children who had came into his school to put on a christmas performance?
This is not usual behaviour for my son, this is precisely why I didnt say sooner as I knew people would jump to the 'oh he has adhd'

No people would not necessarily jump on the "he has ADHD" bandwagon but it is very relevant.

I hope you get the help you and your son need to show you ways to move forward with his behaviour.