naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

atwitsend_2

My son has been naughty for the last few days, and today had a very VERY bad day at school. I am so angry at him for his behaviour, I have told him that santa is watching etc, which got me thinking, I dont do empty threats, i always follow punishments through to the end.....but is him not getting any christmas presents mean of me?
Has anyone ever not given their child any presents to prove a point?

mrcow

Just remember if you do this - he will never forget it. Ever - even when he's 40. And he'll probably tell everyone too! I don't think I could live with the stress of it!

I'd be more inclined to pick on something in particular that he'd like for Chirstmas and say that he is at risk of not gettng it.

I've never not given a present to prove a point (as I've never had to) - but I've certainly confiscated brand new toys when necessity has dictated.

seven-day-weekend

Maybe Santa might relent, even though you don't agree with him?;)

Although I personally don't think that Santa should be made that powerful. If YOU choose to withold something as a punishment, then that is one thing, but I don't think santa should have the choice.

As to whether it's mean - depends on the age of the child, the character of the child and the misdemeanour. In some cases I think it could be appropriate. Maybe not get him his favourite present and make sure he knows why (but let him know it's you, not Santa, witholding it).

mrcow

PS. I guess it all depends on what "very, very" naughty means?!

MrsTinks

Depending on the crime then certainly less presents and a note from Santa? Saying as you've been VERY naughty last few days you haven't got all the pressies I had for you but as you have been good at other times this year I thought you should have something... but you must be a very good boy or you won't get anything next year!

charlottecarter

We tell the kids that if you are naughty you might get coal. One year (when my eldest was old enough to know the truth about FC) he got the normal presents in his stocking but he also got a piece of coal with a note on it saying "Oh dear! Imagine what present this could have been!!". He knew it was a joke but my little ones have never forgotten it!! With regards to your son being naughty my little ones have been CRAZY this last week or two - I think there is so much going on and they are so excited about Christmas. It doesn't make it any easier to deal with but I do think that is the reason why!

sandiep

I think if the child is young enough to believe in Santa, then it's not such a good idea.

Maybe write a letter now from Santa, to your child, warning him that he's very disappointed so he really needs to pull his socks up, etc etc.

CRANKY40

I'd go with option B from Mrcow myself. Santa may be bringing the toy, but you will be taking it off your son until he can behave. You can even set limits to this if you want. For every really bad thing he does, you will be taking it off him for one hour/two hours/one day? Give him a chance to earn it back with good behaviour too maybe?

foxy-roxy

I also think that if he woke up and seen there were no presents he might behave even worse.
I don't think i could ever get over the look on their face if i did that.
MrsTine has got it spot on though.

atwitsend_2

very good ideas! the kids get toys from santa and toys from me too separately. I usually work with the 'taking things away until they earn them back' currently its his DS which has caused a strop and for him say 'I cant wait til i am old enough to live alone'. So him getting them and me confiscating would work very well indeed with what i already do!

atwitsend_2

foxy-roxy wrote: »

I also think that if he woke up and seen there were no presents he might behave even worse.
I don't think i could ever get over the look on their face if i did that.
MrsTine has got it spot on though.

That was my thought too