naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

beverleyhills

What form does this 'naughty' behaviour take.
Why is he being naughty?

skintmostofthetime

Just a thought - when we were young we always got a large sock with odds and ends in - to keep us quiet for a little longer - well one year my younger brothr had been an exceptional pain in the butt and my mum did the threat thing. Well on xmas morning his sock had fallen off the bed !! You should have heard the racket he made - `santas forgotten me !!' but he remembers it still, so sometimes the threat is worth while and perhaps the coal idea is a good one too.

atwitsend_2

beverleyhills wrote: »

What form does this 'naughty' behaviour take.
Why is he being naughty?

Still working through what has caused this behaviour atm....

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atwitsend wrote: »

.....but is him not getting any christmas presents mean of me?

To be quite blunt, yes! Can you imagine the sadness at waking up on xmas day and not finding anything under the tree??? No matter how naughty a child is, there are other ways to discipline and prove a point than completely ruining what is essentially the last bit of enchantment in this day and age!
I couldn't bear to see my child go through this and know I was the one responsible for breaking their dreams.
It's completely different from not being able to afford anything big, it would be voluntary and premeditated.

Telling him that you will take the toys from him (temporarily) if he misbehaves AFTER the day is however a good idea!

longhotbath

Santa (My parents) once didnt do a stocking for my sister as she was so awful - she didnt and still doesnt behave any better - but I thought it was hilarious!!!

I agree with MrsTine, but is there a reason why he is so bad ? - is he tired, over-excited or just plain shattered at the end of term. My youngest is pushing every boundary he can at the moment, but every day is Christmassy at the moment, and I think that its just too much for him!

tiamai_d

perhaps some encouragement from santa by video message?

http://portablenorthpole.tv/create-a-video/

(and its free)

My boys have even been keeping their room tidy since seeing their messages. Santa has a book with their pictures in!

But no, I'm too soft to not give presents, but maybe a lump of coal...

blindmouse

What about doing the reverse thing and making it all a lot more positive. You tell him that he needs to be better behaved and then he will get some presents from father christmas, good children will be rewarded. This then gives him something to aim towards and plays down the bad a bit, if he believes in that then he sounds very young, and getting no presents will make all of you miserable and you will be on edge from now til then........... Lots of small things for any good behaviour and one big thing if he really bucks up. Otherwise its all so negative x

olipot

I do hope you find some other form of punishment the thought of a kiddie not getting a christmas would upset me terribly, my husband came from a very poor family and he hardly had anything at christmas and even now he says he remembers waking up to so little when his friends all had lots of toys and its something he never forgets, so if you can try and think of another way to do it

DigitalJedi

atwitsend wrote: »

My son has been naughty for the last few days, and today had a very VERY bad day at school. I am so angry at him for his behaviour, I have told him that santa is watching etc, which got me thinking, I dont do empty threats, i always follow punishments through to the end.....but is him not getting any christmas presents mean of me?
Has anyone ever not given their child any presents to prove a point?

I am like you, I don't do empty threats. My kids know I mean what I say. I believe its the bedrock of discipline.

However, I've learned that the key to it is not to make threats in the first place you can't or may not want to follow through with. So in this case, telling him Santa won't bring any presents is not a good threat. Following through with that means ruining christmas for them and yourself in the process. Not following through means they learn you don't mean it and they can do what they want.

I've watched a friend of mine threaten his kids with pulling their arms off if they don't do as they are told or something equally bizzare. Or repeating the same threat umpteen times that if they do "x" once more they go to bed. The result are a couple of kids who run rings around their parents and don't know when their dad is being serious or not.

Rikki

Some children are more naughty around this time of year. I put it down to all the excitement and anticipation.

Sit down with him and talk calmly, try not to threaten him with father Christmas not visiting as you don't know what Father Christmas will do. Ask him to look out for the Christmas Robin and to put some food out for him. He is looking out for well behaved little boys and he's reporting back to the North Pole.

I used to find my youngest was always excitable at this time and I didn't know what to expect next. Just listen to him and get him involved with your Christmas preparations.