naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

csh_2

Rikki wrote: »

Some children are more naughty around this time of year. I put it down to all the excitement and anticipation.

Sit down with him and talk calmly, try not to threaten him with father Christmas not visiting as you don't know what Father Christmas will do. Ask him to look out for the Christmas Robin and to put some food out for him. He is looking out for well behaved little boys and he's reporting back to the North Pole.

I used to find my youngest was always excitable at this time and I didn't know what to expect next. Just listen to him and get him involved with your Christmas preparations.

I agree kids seem to go wild at this time of year, although it does not excuse bad behaviour it can go a long way to explain it.

I actually can't believe any mother would be so cruel as to deny their child the magic of Christmas

nearlyrich

I would take Christmas out of the equation he must be quite young if he still believes and you will shatter his illusions when he is old enough to know the real facts about Christmas.

If he is quite young you should be able to sort this NOW not the end of next week.

emay

mrcow wrote: »

Just remember if you do this - he will never forget it. Ever - even when he's 40. And he'll probably tell everyone too!

We still get told now about when my Gran caught my uncle looking for his presents and made him open them in November, he got nothing else Christmas morning (he's now 60)

My mum also once threatened me with getting rid of everything in my bedroom if I didn't tidy it, came home from school one day to find my bedroom empty of everything apart from school and library books (everything was in black binliners in the shed, but I didn't know at the time). It didn't cure me though, I'm still messy 25+ years later. Following through on threats doesn't always work.

mouseymousey99

I got a letter from Father Christmas 6 saying I may not get any pressies. (How naughty can you be at 6). Anyway, I am 50 next year and I still remember it! Didn't teach me much about behavoiur, but made a strong impression & left me even more scared of my Dad.

Errata

If any of the parents in my family took the coward's way out and hid behind a Santa Claus who was going to dish out the punishment for naughtiness rather than them, I wouldn't think much of of their parenting skills.
If a child misbehaves and despleases a parent they have to understand what they've done and why they can expect some kind of punishment from the parent. That's how they learn.

olipot

Thanks tiamai_d for the link it is brilliant:j

Frith

What a horrible idea.

atwitsend_2

Errata wrote: »

If any of the parents in my family took the coward's way out and hid behind a Santa Claus who was going to dish out the punishment for naughtiness rather than them, I wouldn't think much of of their parenting skills.
If a child misbehaves and despleases a parent they have to understand what they've done and why they can expect some kind of punishment from the parent. That's how they learn.

My son is being punished now, I wouldn't wait over a week to punish him, cos he just wouldn't remember what he was even being punished for by then

I just wonder what it will show him when if he is naughty and then he gets stacks of expensive presents on christmas day? His teacher has told him that she has santa on the phone and that he has to be good this week, but what if he isn't good?


I think confiscating presents is a very good idea if he is naughty, I was thinking maybe of a reward chart with presents stickers, he earns presents for good behaviour and and loses them for naughty behaviour...then on xmas day i take the number of presents he has lost and put them on the naughty shelf (a place where current toys go when confiscated!) then he can earn them back?

Errata

I dunno - presents should be given with love, whether they come from Santa or someone else. Withdrawing a present or telling a child they're not getting one could be seen as using the present for the wrong purpose. "Love me (behave) and you get the present. Don't behave and I won't love you enough to give you a present".
I guess it's something that needs to be very carefully thought through and motivation and lessons learned fully understood.

*Louise*

In all honesty. I couldn't even complicate the idea of 'Santa' not leaving presents. (and it would be so much worse if the child had siblings who got their presents)

I am with the train of thought that punishments should be followed through, so I try and only use threats which I am happy to carry out.

Anyway...how 'naughty' can a child young enough to believe in Santa actually be?? I can't imagine anything being bad enough to warrant ruining Christmas.