naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

Emmajane1987

I know you must be at your wit ends with your child if he is being naughty all the time. But as other people have said a child does not believe in Santa much after the age of 10 some cases earlier and you are going to take that away from him. He will never want to go and see Santa at his grotto and he will remember it every xmas. Also do you really want to ruin your own xmas. Isn’t one of your favourite things about xmas watching your child s face opening his presents and just so excited that Santa has arrived. Can you imagine the night before them really excited laying out mince pies and milk and then in the morning nothing. It makes me want to cry thinking of there face in the morning. When a child is naughty you should punish them by taking away their toys, taking away other privileges or making them do chores to learn their lesson. But you would be going out of your way to hurt your child. When I was younger I did something can’t remember what it was now but I was 12. It was my birthday a couple of weeks later and my mum didn’t get me anything and I still remember that now and think you nasty person no matter what I did nothing could have been so bad that you made me feel like you forgot my birthday. She apologised after because she knew what she had done was wrong and realised that It was a mistake but she couldn’t take back how I felt that day. At the moment you child believes in Santa but one day he won’t and he will then know it was you that ruined his xmas and his illusion of xmas. If you can’t handle him being naughty now and doing something like that what are you going to do when his a teenager.

Blackpool_Saver

I would like to know what this bad behaviour consists of ....

atwitsend_2

Emmajane1987 wrote: »

I know you must be at your wit ends with your child if he is being naughty all the time. But as other people have said a child does not believe in Santa much after the age of 10 some cases earlier and you are going to take that away from him. He will never want to go and see Santa at his grotto and he will remember it every xmas. Also do you really want to ruin your own xmas. Isn’t one of your favourite things about xmas watching your child s face opening his presents and just so excited that Santa has arrived. Can you imagine the night before them really excited laying out mince pies and milk and then in the morning nothing. It makes me want to cry thinking of there face in the morning. When a child is naughty you should punish them by taking away their toys, taking away other privileges or making them do chores to learn their lesson. But you would be going out of your way to hurt your child. When I was younger I did something can’t remember what it was now but I was 12. It was my birthday a couple of weeks later and my mum didn’t get me anything and I still remember that now and think you nasty person no matter what I did nothing could have been so bad that you made me feel like you forgot my birthday. She apologised after because she knew what she had done was wrong and realised that It was a mistake but she couldn’t take back how I felt that day. At the moment you child believes in Santa but one day he won’t and he will then know it was you that ruined his xmas and his illusion of xmas. If you can’t handle him being naughty now and doing something like that what are you going to do when his a teenager.

Of course I dont want to intentionally be cruel to my son, my point is santa has a nice list and a naughty list.....how far do we take it if our children are naughty...
I wouldn't do anything to intentionally upset my child to the point where he is scared for life, and thankfully I don't know any parent who would!

*Louise*

atwitsend wrote: »

I think confiscating presents is a very good idea if he is naughty, I was thinking maybe of a reward chart with presents stickers, he earns presents for good behaviour and and loses them for naughty behaviour...then on xmas day i take the number of presents he has lost and put them on the naughty shelf (a place where current toys go when confiscated!) then he can earn them back?

I still think that is a shame

I would wait until after christmas day (and a new naughty incident) before confiscating any new toys.

Can you imagine his delight on the day opening a parcel, only for it to be taken off him on the same day because he has been naughty before christmas?? That's a Christmas memory I wouldn't want any of my children to have.

roses

Isn't it more important to get to the root cause of why he is so naughty?

atwitsend_2

*Louise* wrote: »

I still think that is a shame

I would wait until after christmas day (and a new naughty incident) before confiscating any new toys.

Can you imagine his delight on the day opening a parcel, only for it to be taken off him on the same day because he has been naughty before christmas?? That's a Christmas memory I wouldn't want any of my children to have.

I meant still wrapped up its just an idea i was contemplating if he is as naughty for the rest of the week as he was today at school.
I didn't realise people would think I would be genuinely mean to my child

Errata

atwitsend wrote: »

I meant still wrapped up its just an idea i was contemplating if he is as naughty for the rest of the week as he was today at school.
I didn't realise people would think I would be genuinely mean to my child

Fiar enough. School will hand out any punishments for naughtiness at school, that's how it should be.
Surely the days have gone when kids were punished by school for misbehaving and then punished again for it by the parents ?

gingin_2

I did read your other thread and do really do feel for your situation but with you 33 weeks pregnant and with what sounds like pica, a disabled sibling and christmas just around the corner is this not contributing to his problems? Can he not just be given a bit of slack for one day of the year and have fun with the family before the new baby arrives and your hands are even more full?

I do believe with children that come bedtime, regardless of the day, a cuddle and a truce are in order. The next day the slate is wiped clean. They play up, they get an instand reprimand/ consequence and once that is over the opportunity to redeem themselves.

I wouldn't and couldn't do it. If I were you I would look at the causes of his behaviour.

atwitsend_2

Errata wrote: »

Fiar enough. School will hand out any punishments for naughtiness at school, that's how it should be.
Surely the days have gone when kids were punished by school for misbehaving and then punished again for it by the parents ?

Nope, my sons school don't seem to have any punishment for him so its down to me to implement and try and nip in the bud when he gets home, they actually had the PCSO's in school today who spoke to him at lunchtime, with little effect so I'm told by his teacher...thats not how I want my son growing up I want him to have respect for the authority, aswell as teachers, adults, other people

*Louise*

atwitsend wrote: »

I meant still wrapped up its just an idea i was contemplating if he is as naughty for the rest of the week as he was today at school.
I didn't realise people would think I would be genuinely mean to my child

Sorry, I think still wrapped up would still have as much of an effect.

'Look at all those parcels Santa has left you....but I am taking away 6 of them to put on the shelf because you have been naughty at school'

I totally get that you are trying to be firm and disciplined, and applaud your determination....but I just hate the thought of your wee boy being sad on Christmas day and forever remembering being punished for being 'naughty'