naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

lolababy

I think its cruel to punish a child on christmas day. This should be the one day that is magical in a childs life. Christmas is a time when people forgive and make the effort to get on with each other.
Punishment should be at the time of the deed not weeks later. Children are naughty its part of growing up. Unless the deed is criminal then no christmas day should not be ruined.

kate1976

*max* wrote: »

I am seriously hoping you're joking!!!

I seriously hope that you're joking in suggesting I may be being serious!!

astonsmummy

And anyway there are plenty of punishments you can give on xmas day.
Time out for exapmple.

ukjoel

I dont think most kids (and plenty of sdults) can handle christmas any more.

Maybe its just me being scrooge but the pressure on parents to find everything from the wii to the go go hamster with a stupid name combined with the marketing hitting the kids from every angle, along with their family and friend hyping it up. I think its just crazy.

I know some families cant physically get into their living rooms on xmas day because the presents from the tree have reached the door(and four walls).

I find it all really depressing as it just makes it harder and harder every year for people to get that high with children.

When they are young they get so happy from the simple things but once they hit 6 it all seems to go downhill and become so commercial and expensive and false.

The pressure the mums and dads seem to be under to get them their presents of choice must be awful (my kids are still too young to get mad about it and I dread the day they prefer the present to eating the wrapping paper.)

Why do we do it to ourselves.

My favorite thing on xmas day is to walk down the high street in the town centre with all the shops closed and no cars about and no people about and enjoy peace and quiet of it all.

Rant over. Bah Humbug.

*max*

kate1976 wrote: »

I seriously hope that you're joking in suggesting I may be being serious!!

You gave me a fright! lol I was having visions of a draughty Victorian house, a dusty under-the-stairs cupboard and a terrified child!
My imagination needs reining in...lol

1sue23

I remember when my daughter was around eight , my mum had made her a dress it took a long time to make and had smocking at the front my daughter did not like it and cut it all around the hem ,I was fuming and took her very treasured my little pony and cut the tail off in front of her, her little face crumpled and she was heartbroken and did not sleep for a week I think I felt just as bad ,to this day she has not forgotten and she is 30 now, truth be told I wish I had never resorted to this and I felt really horrible about it .

kate1976

*max* wrote: »

You gave me a fright! lol I was having visions of a draughty Victorian house, a dusty under-the-stairs cupboard and a terrified child!
My imagination needs reining in...lol

Lol! Trust me my child isn't terrified locked up in the cupboard, he has his bucket of fish heads to keep him company!!!



*Yes that was another joke....or was it????!!! :eek::p

kate1976

1sue23 wrote: »

I remember when my daughter was around eight , my mum had made her a dress it took a long time to make and had smocking at the front my daughter did not like it and cut it all around the hem ,I was fuming and took her very treasured my little pony and cut the tail off in front of her, her little face crumpled and she was heartbroken and did not sleep for a week I think I felt just as bad ,to this day she has not forgotten and she is 30 now, truth be told I wish I had never resorted to this and I felt really horrible about it .

Awww bless! I would've been traumatised for life if my mum did that to my treasurely my little pony!

tandraig

Errata wrote: »

Fiar enough. School will hand out any punishments for naughtiness at school, that's how it should be.
Surely the days have gone when kids were punished by school for misbehaving and then punished again for it by the parents ?

sorry to go off topic OP but i couldnt let this pass by.

errata - no those days havent gone unfortunately. up until a couple of years ago my daughter would punish my grandson (now aged 11) for bad behaviour at school even though the school had already punished him! I disaprove strongly about this. so i pointed out to her that if she had a bad day at work - was rude to boss and customers etc when she came home would she expect her OH to say 'you bad girl - thats it - go to your room and dont come out until i say so, and by the way you arent getting any pocket money this week'? or would she expect 'oh never mind hun, we all have bad days - have a nice drink and calm down'.
must have hit a chord as she said exactly the same thing to the head and the behavioural pyschologist next time she was expected to punish poor gd at home too. (by the way - he has recently been diagnosed with asbergers)!!!

flippin36

1sue23 wrote: »

I remember when my daughter was around eight , my mum had made her a dress it took a long time to make and had smocking at the front my daughter did not like it and cut it all around the hem ,I was fuming and took her very treasured my little pony and cut the tail off in front of her, her little face crumpled and she was heartbroken and did not sleep for a week I think I felt just as bad ,to this day she has not forgotten and she is 30 now, truth be told I wish I had never resorted to this and I felt really horrible about it .

We all have things that we hold onto with regards to our childhood. And there isn't a parent alive that doesn't have regrets. Don't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure its more of an issue to you than your daughter.

Well, I'm someone who tries to keep Christmas day as peaceful as possible. I don't want to be telling off on Christmas day, and that sometimes means turning a blind eye, and a deaf ear (for the day). We always wrap up and go for a Christmas day walk with the dog. It gets them out of the house for a bit and helps them to calm down with the over excitement.