naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

elektra-2007

Without going into a long story i got Nothing for my 14th xmas, not because i was naughty just other circumstances, even tho i was old enough to understand...to this day it still hurts. Im 32 now and ive never forgotten or forgiven. Ive often said to my lad " you'll get no presents" but i could never ever do it. I think you would scar him for life!!! My advise is...if you like to follow things thru and not give empty threats then think carefully before you threaten. I know its easy before xmas to use it, as we think it will be an instant fix, try think about what you would do if it was the middle of the year that way you will be consistant all year round. Just a thought...if hes young enough to believe in santa have you tried a reward chart?

andrealm

No I could never bring myself to do this no matter what they'd done. I would feel terrible and I don't think it would help improve behaviour in the long run.

I find it strange that the school didn't punish him for bad behaviour, surely they must deal with it in some way?

csh_2

atwitsend wrote: »

My son has been naughty for the last few days, and today had a very VERY bad day at school. I am so angry at him for his behaviour, I have told him that santa is watching etc, which got me thinking, I dont do empty threats, i always follow punishments through to the end.....but is him not getting any christmas presents mean of me?
Has anyone ever not given their child any presents to prove a point?

atwitsend wrote: »

:rotfl: oh this santa is running out of space in the wardrobes with hiding toys.

I always try and make christmas magical for the kids, I was brought up not to believe in santa (along with the tooth fairy etc) my mum said it was a waste of time and stupid, so I always knew he didn't exsist, so for me, the kids innocence and the fact they believe in the magic is lovely and something I am definatly going to try to keep up for many more years hopefully, despite the usual questions including 'why does santa in town wear a fake beard' :rotfl: and 'how does he fit down the chimney when we don't have one' :rotfl:

Please don't get me wrong, I don't want to ruin my childrens christmas, I don't want to see them upset. I wasn't saying I was going to do it, if I was going to do it, without a care in the world, then I wouldnt be here speaking about it, i would of just done it. I'm not this nasty person who wants to upset my children just for one naughty incident, its not like that at all, I love my children more than anything in the world

If you are saying you had no intension of doing it as your last post implies and your reluctance to give any information on the situation I wonder what exactly were you hoping to achieve by this thread
In the OP you are pretty clear that there was no going back from this and you always follow through with punishments

To be brutally honest OP in light of this thread and the way in which your other thread turned out, one could be forgiven for thinking you're just looking for a reaction.

Rachel83

If my mum ever did that then I dont think I'd ever let her forget about it.
There would be no way I'd be starting christmas day off on such a nagative thought!

Christmas days for having excited kids running around and watching kids films all day while eating chocolate for breakfast than having a yummy turkey for lunch.

Not worrying about crying kids because you've confiscated pressies, and everyone been miserable because the childs unhappy.

What a sad way to spend whats supposed to be one of the happiest days of the year

atwitsend_2

csh wrote: »

If you are saying you had no intension of doing it as your last post implies and your reluctance to give any information on the situation I wonder what exactly were you hoping to achieve by this thread
In the OP you are pretty clear that there was no going back from this and you always follow through with punishments

To be brutally honest OP in light of this thread and the way in which your other thread turned out, one could be forgiven for thinking you're just looking for a reaction.

atwitsend wrote: »

My son has been naughty for the last few days, and today had a very VERY bad day at school. I am so angry at him for his behaviour, I have told him that santa is watching etc, which got me thinking, I dont do empty threats, i always follow punishments through to the end.....but is him not getting any christmas presents mean of me?
Has anyone ever not given their child any presents to prove a point?

I haven't told him santa isn't bringing him any presents if he naughty, my point of this post was, its a well known thing for santa to have a nice list and a naughty list, so I wondered if anyone had actually followed it through. And I don't see what this has to do with any of my other threads.

tamlem

atwitsend wrote: »

I haven't told him santa isn't bringing him any presents if he naughty, my point of this post was, its a well known thing for santa to have a nice list and a naughty list, so I wondered if anyone had actually followed it through.

Because of the "following things through" I have never used the "Santa" threat with my children and it annoys me when I hear teachers are doing so.

I personally like to focus on building positive relationships with my children and discipline appropriately if necessary.

My job, not Santas!

csh_2

atwitsend wrote: »

I haven't told him santa isn't bringing him any presents if he naughty, my point of this post was, its a well known thing for santa to have a nice list and a naughty list, so I wondered if anyone had actually followed it through.

Really? You actually thought you might have people say, 'Yes, I ruined by childs Christmas by taking his presents and made him resent me for the rest of his life, go for it OP its the only way to teach a primary school aged child who still believes in Santa not to be naughty at school'

tandraig

as you say your son still believes in Santa I would guess his age at 4 or 5 or maybe 6, and really cant imagine what crime he can have committed you dont want broadcast over internet.
also dont understand why school hasnt imposed punishment but leave it up to you? is it that they think that his behaviour isnt bad enough to merit punishment? but they tell you about it to keep you informed? you then punish the child for something which happened in school and he has probably forgotten about.
perhaps i am being harsh - but if you wont even tell us how old your son is and what he has done to deserve punishment - then dont be surprised that we all feel we cant advise you properly - only in general terms and as far as i can see - that is what everyone has tried to do.

atwitsend_2

csh wrote: »

Really? You actually thought you might have people say, 'Yes, I ruined by childs Christmas by taking his presents and made him resent me for the rest of his life, go for it OP its the only way to teach a primary school aged child who still believes in Santa not to be naughty at school'

I honestly did wonder if anyone had taken presents away, and judging by a few of the responses, it has happened.

Rachel83

atwitsend wrote: »

I honestly did wonder if anyone had taken presents away, and judging by a few of the responses, it has happened.

My guess is your just a wind up merchant, maybe bored or something? :rolleyes: hows the soap fetish been today?