naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

jamespir

my mom and dad stopped my brother having presents on christmas day casue hed misbehaved but santa came on boxing day cause hed been good on christmas day

alyth

I just don't celebrate it now! haven't for the last couple of years, it's strangely liberating - no presents, no cards, I have only a brother and parents so they spend the time together and know that I won't join them!

Actually my brother has two children, 1 and 3 (I think!) and he's having terribly problems with them this week - playing up, won't go to bed, pulling stuff off the christmas tree. he did say that it was because they were so excited about christmas - it's a week away for god's sake!

It's one day out of 363 days, I cannot understand why there is so much fuss made about it.

Apologies OP for highjacking your thread - would still be interested to know about the santa thing with your son though.

Lunar_Eclipse

mrcow wrote: »

Toys or presents (or lack of them) do not show your children how much you love them.

If something is taken away, it's a punishment. It doesn't mean that you are removing your love as well

Mrcow - I think you'd be surprised how many parents believe, or more importantly act as though there is this direct link. Gifts are definitely commonly used for reward and punishment - gifts for good school report, exam marks, Maths tests etc. Makes me sick (well angry) but is sadly very, very common. I even heard a Head at a private secondary school recently suggesting parents motivate their kids in weekly tests with £5 for good marks. Totally counter productive long term.

Children might not see it that way. I totally get where this is all coming from. I've read that book too fyi.;)

Hope things have settled down a bit OP.