naughty child not getting any presents for christmas?

csh_2

tandraig wrote: »

I missed that - that your son is autistic! sorry but if I say any more I am going to get chucked off this site!!! suffice to say - I hope i dont ever learn your identity Atwitsend, I may have to face criminal charges too!

You missed it because I got it from another thread. Not something I would usually do but the OP has riled me.

Errata

atwitsend wrote: »

As I have explained earlier, my son hasn't been punished at school. They leave it to me to deal with. And as I also said previously, I am not saying that just because he was naughty today then to take presents away next friday....I always punish my child instantly for his punishment, my point was what if he is naughty right up to christmas day, it tell what does him when he still recieves a stack of presents?

It tells him that he is a much loved and highly treasured little boy. Little boys can understand that parents hate their naughty behaviour but that doesn't mean their parents hate them.

atwitsend_2

Errata wrote: »

It tells him that he is a much loved and highly treasured little boy. Little boys can understand that parents hate their naughty behaviour but that doesn't mean their parents hate them.

Funny you should say that, as my son refers to himself in two people, naughty one and good one, his TA asks him in the morning 'which one do we have today?'

Mutter_2

atwitsend wrote: »

Thats because I haven't said what he has done or how old he is. Its not something I want broadcast across the internet.

In that case why ask for help? You want posters here to be truthful, how about you being truthful. To think I wasted 5 mins of my life here. Poor little boy.

Shame on his teacher too for scarirng him about Santa.

Errata

atwitsend wrote: »

Funny you should say that, as my son refers to himself in two people, naughty one and good one, his TA asks him in the morning 'which one do we have today?'

If your son is autistic and has ADHD he may have a very hazy idea of what naughty means in every situation he finds himself in. Doubt getting the third degree from a TA each morning will help him or the TA.

gingin_2

atwitsend wrote: »

Funny you should say that, as my son refers to himself in two people, naughty one and good one, his TA asks him in the morning 'which one do we have today?'

Is he in mainstream school? If so I can see how it could be hard for the teacher to admonish him. I see a similar thing with an autistic boy in dd's class.

If he is in mainstream school, is there any chance of him being moved to a more specialised school?

To all those judging atwitsend, I would guess the username speaks volumes.

atwitsend_2

gingin wrote: »

Is he in mainstream school? If so I can see how it could be hard for the teacher to admonish him. I see a similar thing with an autistic boy in dd's class.

If he is in mainstream school, is there any chance of him being moved to a more specialised school?

To all those judging atwitsend, I would guess the username speaks volumes.

He is currently undergoing statementing as he needs to attend a specialist school (according to the teachers)

Look, I didn't come on here for amusement,i'm not an internet troll, I don't want to scar my children, I don't want to ruin christmas for them. Speaking to the teacher after school and she says 'i told him santa is on the phone and wont bring him any presents' got me thinking how many people, if any have actually done it. I didn't want any of this and am wishing I never posted in the first place.

gingin_2

atwitsend wrote: »

He is currently undergoing statementing as he needs to attend a specialist school (according to the teachers)

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I am sure that it will be a really positive thing for both him and you

Wishing you both all the very best of luck x

Mutter_2

I just read back a few posts where you opened your heart as to his behaviour.

In your shoes, I would take guidance from his health worker and stay off here until all children are safely tucked up in bed.

You post when children need their mums most of all. eg Cooking tea, bathtime, reading stories at bedtime.

Give them all of your time, pour yourself a glass then come here. Not before.

Lunar_Eclipse

atwitsend wrote: »

is him not getting any christmas presents mean of me?
Has anyone ever not given their child any presents to prove a point?

I think it would be very cruel and unkind, yes. Which must mean (IMO) that his behaviour was completely and utterly unacceptable for a child of his age. My children are 8 and 9 and I cannot begin to comprehend what they would have to do for me to consider them too naughty for Christmas. Your son is also probably younger if he believes in FC.

I don't do empty threats either have been harsh in the past (upon reflection) but never anything similar to not getting any gifts from Santa. Also, there is a huge difference between Santa watching and him not getting any presents.;)

I cannot imagine being driven to this point tbh, it breaks my heart just to read this being considered. I have a whole pile of questions going round in my head about his behaviour normally, whether either party has issues that might benefit from counselling or medication and whether you are seriously considering this or just wondered what if after a very bad day. Tomorrow is another day; keep positive!:T