AM, I, in the wrong??

woody01

I think the OP is no better than the child she 'had words with'.
They certainly sound like they act in a similar fashion (by the OPs description of admission).

I can also say, although my children are very well behaved, if someone outside of family or responsibility chastised my child, i would in turn chastise that person with a swift punch in the face.

mumslave

when i was five this new girl started at my school [tiny school had 10 pupils] and latched on to me. I couldnt stand her and for about a month would run away from her. She used to say will you be my friend and i would scream nooooo at the top of my lungs. No parents ever interfered, or even the teacher....and we still ended up the best of friends for years after that. It is hard, when your child is upset, but still, its just kids, being kids.

tamarto

morocha wrote: »

Please Give the Op a break... many of us would have done the same.. it is not nice to see your children upset. My friend has got a daughter, 2 1/2, my daughter is the same age, and this little one, is always horrible to her, make her cry many times when i ask her why she is being like this, and ask her to be nice ( her moms does too) she changes. Some little girls are sweet and want to be friends with everyone... others dont, it is their character.
If the OP, asked the little one nicely, maybe she knew what she did was wrong and that;s why she cried... to get out of the situation.
I remember when iwas 5 yrs some girls used to be mean with me, hit me all the time, but when my mum used to came to pick me up, they all be really nice to me.

I don't want to be friends whith everone so why should i expect my kids to? You are asking a child of 2.5 why they are behaving in a certian way? I'm sure she understands exactly what you mean :rolleyes:

Errata

so i flew at this childs father, told him in no un-certain ways what i thought of him and the way hes bringing his child up to be a nasty, hurtful little girl!!!

Well done, probably frightened the spit out of his daughter, your daughter and any other little girl in earshot.

peachyprice

morocha wrote: »

Please Give the Op a break... many of us would have done the same...

Erm, no we wouldn't, that's why so many are telling the OP she was in the wrong.

MrsAnnie

morocha wrote: »

Please Give the Op a break... many of us would have done the same.. it is not nice to see your children upset. QUOTE]


Might have felt the hurt of rejection for our child. But as peachyprice said... not done the same.


The OP wanted the little girl to act a certain way, despite the OP not being able to control her own reactions. The pot calling to kettle black spings to mind.

morocha

She wanted to know if there was something wrong. She was concerned, i dont imagine the OP shouting at a little 5 years old,

ukjoel

I consider myself a rational calm and understanding person but if I walked into my kids nursery to pick up either of my kids tonight and an unknown adult was in front of my four year old screaming at her and she was crying then I would react first and ask questions later.

Think your very lucky you were not dragged away from the child by your hair and the father didnt go to the police with assault charges against you. (I would have.)


This board is full of too many people expecting tea and sympathy when they need to take a proper look at themselves and their behaviour.

Your daughter needs to learn in life not everyone will like her and she probably wont like everyone she meets. Setting her the wonderful example of screaming and bullying a 5 year old kid probably wasnt the best idea.

flippin36

screaming??? Like Chinese whispers.....

aliasojo

kegg wrote: »

I cant see why it is being called bullyiing. Does every child have to be friends with everyone now for fear of being called a bully?

There has been no name calling, hiting, shouting at or such like.

She just doesn't want to play with yours. And you say when she ignores your child, your daughter just talks at her more loudly. Well maybe this child now sees your child as bossy as if she is talking loudly over her.

I have to say that was the first thought that entered my mind.

Perhaps (and obviously the only person who will know this is the OP herself) she has a different opinion about what constitutes bullying than most of us do?

I think maybe the OP is too sensitive about her babies and needs to accept that these things are par for the course with kids of that age. Not one child will go through life being universally liked. This is the stuff that toughens us up ready for adulthood.

I don't think what she did was a hanging offence but she handled it badly imo and 'flying' at the Dad was definitely the wrong thing to do. It could have all been sorted out and dealt with easily with a bit of calm thought and less emotion and upset.

Btw...I think some of you need to stop adding heads and tails onto what we're told happened though. No need to insert your own emotive words, just stick to the OP as told.

And to the OP....you really need to learn how to accept criticism. Sometimes it's good for us. (Although some of us could put it in a nicer way.....:p:rotfl:)