Another saturday in alone... :(

pinkie_pie

Definitely was thinking the same, need to be up early with the little angels

Night all, and I hope to get the chance to chat again soon x

worriedsik

yep night all we really need to think about this make friends the MSE way though free membership ! rather than let these bloody dating web sites rip us off
xnightx

choille

Night all - I've got a lot from this thread & have made my NY resolution to get driving - so many thanks all.

Night nightX

alyth

just want to tell you a very quick story which I hope will help some of you. I split last April after 15 years with ex - I thought the relationship was great, he obviously didn't as he traded me in for a much younger model (I'm 39 now).

However, ex dictated what I did, what I wore (he used to buy my clothes, I was very much a corporate wife), I could only ever do temp PA jobs as I had to be available whenever he wanted me to travel abroad. I spent a year temping, struggling to cope on my own (I'd never cooked in my life, if I was having a dinner party I would get a company in, M&S was my life!)

Ex always told me I was stupid - no good for anything. Something went a bit mad in my head in June and I thought, hey, I love books, want to be a librarian. I am now on an access course and just submitted my UCAS application last night. In my assignments I am hitting 90% + at college. Granted I study my a**e off but I love it.

For those of you who have posted about being scared of stuff, can I tell you the night before I was due to start college I was sick - in fact I was that morning as well. Now I am in my element, granted I am still very quiet but I've gained a sense of securement and respectability within my classes.

Take the small step and go for it - be it driving lessons, asking someone to go for a coffee at the school gates, I'm slightly sadden tonight as to how scared some of you are. That was me a year ago - I barely worked for six months after I split, I stayed at home, read a book a day, and walked the dog. Now, hey I'm not thick, I have a brain, I have great friends, and I love my Saturday nights in my jammies!

pookienoodle

I am off to bed too.
I have yet to convince my 3 year old that weekend are for lie ins.

Tish_P

I love how this thread has got happier and more hopeful as it went along! Hope everybody on here does the same. Good night!

worriedsik

alyth wrote: »

just want to tell you a very quick story which I hope will help some of you. I split last April after 15 years with ex - I thought the relationship was great, he obviously didn't as he traded me in for a much younger model (I'm 39 now).

However, ex dictated what I did, what I wore (he used to buy my clothes, I was very much a corporate wife), I could only ever do temp PA jobs as I had to be available whenever he wanted me to travel abroad. I spent a year temping, struggling to cope on my own (I'd never cooked in my life, if I was having a dinner party I would get a company in, M&S was my life!)

Ex always told me I was stupid - no good for anything. Something went a bit mad in my head in June and I thought, hey, I love books, want to be a librarian. I am now on an access course and just submitted my UCAS application last night. In my assignments I am hitting 90% + at college. Granted I study my a**e off but I love it.

For those of you who have posted about being scared of stuff, can I tell you the night before I was due to start college I was sick - in fact I was that morning as well. Now I am in my element, granted I am still very quiet but I've gained a sense of securement and respectability within my classes.

Take the small step and go for it - be it driving lessons, asking someone to go for a coffee at the school gates, I'm slightly sadden tonight as to how scared some of you are. That was me a year ago - I barely worked for six months after I split, I stayed at home, read a book a day, and walked the dog. Now, hey I'm not thick, I have a brain, I have great friends, and I love my Saturday nights in my jammies!

yep i hear ya...B*****D and good for you......its a nightmare isnt it to be bullied and brain washed , anyway well done

night xx

worriedsik

alyth wrote: »

just want to tell you a very quick story which I hope will help some of you. I split last April after 15 years with ex - I thought the relationship was great, he obviously didn't as he traded me in for a much younger model (I'm 39 now).

However, ex dictated what I did, what I wore (he used to buy my clothes, I was very much a corporate wife), I could only ever do temp PA jobs as I had to be available whenever he wanted me to travel abroad. I spent a year temping, struggling to cope on my own (I'd never cooked in my life, if I was having a dinner party I would get a company in, M&S was my life!)

Ex always told me I was stupid - no good for anything. Something went a bit mad in my head in June and I thought, hey, I love books, want to be a librarian. I am now on an access course and just submitted my UCAS application last night. In my assignments I am hitting 90% + at college. Granted I study my a**e off but I love it.

For those of you who have posted about being scared of stuff, can I tell you the night before I was due to start college I was sick - in fact I was that morning as well. Now I am in my element, granted I am still very quiet but I've gained a sense of securement and respectability within my classes.

Take the small step and go for it - be it driving lessons, asking someone to go for a coffee at the school gates, I'm slightly sadden tonight as to how scared some of you are. That was me a year ago - I barely worked for six months after I split, I stayed at home, read a book a day, and walked the dog. Now, hey I'm not thick, I have a brain, I have great friends, and I love my Saturday nights in my jammies!

one last word...because i always have the last word lol............do you realise he was the insecure one and was trying to bring you down to his level ? and well bloody done to you for getting rid off the low life and making it on your own OMG i know what a big step that was for you after being degraded for so long you start to believe you are worthless...well bloody done x

pisces_cat

Just read through the thread and you have all gone to bed!

I'm home alone (apart from the kids) on a Saturday night again (must be about three years now...)

I don't drive either and must get round to it

A trick for the asking people for coffee thing, especially other Mums at the school gates - look for other people on their own - it's easy to feel intimidated by the big groups of Mums who all know each other - but look around and I bet there are several others who don't know anyone either.

alyth

perk of having kids is that I don't have to go to bed, although the dog has decided that she wants to play now!

For sure he was the insecure one, now I am the independent one! It's scary, god it is scary, had a massive row with my electricity supplier this morning because i got a bill in for £167 and I was adament that it was wrong - it wasn't!

What I'm trying to say is that if I can do it on my own, you lot sure as hell can - driving lessons, get in that car, and just go for it!

I'm also glad that this has turned into a happy thread, can we do it again next Sat - you lot are fed up being on your own, I'm fed up spending 8 hours on a Saturday until 9pm being nice to customers! I've gone from being a London PA to being a till tart, and a poor lowly student, and I love my life so much I could cry at times!