Another saturday in alone... :(

kindofagilr

I didnt mean you hadn't tried

Just that please don't stay in for the sake of the kids if that makes sense, they would want you to be happy (I've no idea how old they are lol)

All I meant was in the future when they are grown they would love it if you were all loved up and happy.

MissMotivation

Hi, ive only just seen this thread this morning, I wish I had seen it last night! I'm 35 with a 11 year old DD who is with her Dad every other weekend and I HATE Saturday nights in on my own. I have a very demanding job and work really long hours and although I always used to be out at the weekend a lot of my friends are now in couples.

I end up thinking that I must be the only single person in the world so it's nice to know that not everyone is out and partying on a Saturday night!

funkychicken_2

snowedunderitall wrote: »

Oh and girls, I have a sarcastic sense of humour so I'll join in with being misinterpreted!!!

funkychicken - where are you going with that? Young people without kids wouldn't be interested in a single parent so don't bother? Don't play the bunny boiler card too soon?

Nearly right! Being single, I (or my single friends) rarely get invited to couple functions. As a single person I (and my fellow single friends) do not expect married people or people with young families to accept invitations or to out with us either. Both our agendas are very different. You only have to turn down a few invites, then people often forget about you, mentally place you in another box, find your situation too hard to rigid/inconvienient/effort to inter-react with.

Say last night at 6pm a friend phoned and asked you to go clubbing till late would you (a) say you have no cash but be willing to go (b) just go out (c) tell them you have to find a childminder first and are not sure (d) tell them you could not go at such short notice. When you were single, which one would you have chosen? When you were sngle, how many friends with young children (bar family members, or if it was part of your job) did you associate, spend time and go out with?

It can be a bit of a burdon dragging around other peoples children and there often a three people now in the relationship (you, him and the ex). Life is no longer simple and many people do not initially want this. Yes, what I'm saying may be a lot of tosh, but you just need to look in a classroom to find how many children are brought up by single parents with no partners. Aparrently in the Newcross area of London you are a small minority if you have two adults (even if one is not a parent) living in a house. So what I am saying, is don't feel sorry for your self, don't makeup excuses, but get off your behind, get out there and make the effort.

Bunney boiler: As one person put it ''all is infected that the infected spy, as all is yellow to the jaundic'd eye". Hateful, vengeful, bitter, with a chip on their shoulder have never really done it for me, though perhaps it works for you and others, there must be some out there finds this trait attractive? We all have some baggage, just make sure it is not too heavy, nor does it blow up in someones face. If one looks through the post on this site's section you see many, many words and often all you hear is hate, hate, hate - year after year from them!

If you reallt want change, get out there, do something and make yourself avalable to the world. Do not become an old, grey, wrinkled, hateful, spiteful person that suffer from dimentia, because your ex is and idiot and made mistakes many decades ago.



SailorSam, you should visit you local hospital more often - perhaps do some voluntary work - a large.percentage of senior nurses especially male ones and a few doctors are gay, or just cruise the corridors

choille

Morning all & welcome to others joining in.

Freezing here, but stopped raining at last.

Hope we are all okay.

Aylth - Till tart - that's a great phrase - hadn't heard that before.

Pisces - are you on your own, or do you just feel alone.
Snowed - you don't have to try harder like it's some sort of test, just be you - unique & try & go places you want to - like some music stuff. You are doing so well, studying, bringing up kids - keeping that together, a lot don't do anything at all - you are really strong.
You all sound like really nice folks.

All the best all - I mut try & shake a leg & get outside.

pookienoodle

worriedsik wrote: »

sailor sam
with respect isnt it easier to go out on your own if you are a fella ? i couldnt go into a pub on my own

I work in a pub(in the kitchen thought) and I think men find it difficult to go in alone too.
also men are always expected to make the first move.
anyhoo
I think most on this thread want friendship as well as possible relationships.
I just want someone to have a cup of tea and a cake with or the occasional trip to the cinema.

funkychicken_2

worriedsik wrote: »

sailor sam
with respect isnt it easier to go out on your own if you are a fella ? i couldnt go into a pub on my own

As a fella, do you know how hard it is for blokes to deal with two ore more women togther in a pack? It is often feel like being strapped in a wheel chair with your hands tied behind your back and you are slowly rolling downhill to group of snarling, hungry lions.

SailorSam

funkychicken wrote: »

SailorSam, you should visit you local hospital more often - perhaps do some voluntary work - a large.percentage of senior nurses especially male ones and a few doctors are gay, or just cruise the corridors

I did voluntary work for over twelve months, not in a hospital but still it's a great way to meet people. I packed in 'cos i was to busy with other things but i'm thinking of going back and funny enough don't live far from a hospital and they're always wanting help.
I was trying to work out why you said about the hospital staff being gay, then i realised what i'd written about the security guard, no no no he was just there, the attempted flutter was for the women customers.
But to be honest it was written with tongue-in-cheek, it was suppose to be humour, i never went to Asda yesterday, i was doing the garden, but i thought it was funny.
But then people in Liverpool are wierd when it comes to humour.

choille

http://www.gingerbread.org.uk/portal/page/portal/Website

That's the link to Gingerbread for single parents.

pookienoodle

SailorSam wrote: »

I did voluntary work for over twelve months, not in a hospital but still it's a great way to meet people. I packed in 'cos i was to busy with other things but i'm thinking of going back and funny enough don't live far from a hospital and they're always wanting help.
I was trying to work out why you said about the hospital staff being gay, then i realised what i'd written about the security guard, no no no he was just there, the attempted flutter was for the women customers.
But to be honest it was written with tongue-in-cheek, it was suppose to be humour, i never went to Asda yesterday, i was doing the garden, but i thought it was funny.
But then people in Liverpool are wierd when it comes to humour.

I did think you were joking then when funcy chicken posted I started 2nd guessing myself.:rotfl:

pinkie_pie

It's all gone so wrong....

gah Sorry I know this thread was about something different but everything just went wrong.

Me n the kids have been planning on putting the christmas tree up today for weeks, and we've lost half of it Don't ask me how, I have no idea. We moved in April, and I pulled all the christmas boxes out the garage and there's half a tree and very few decorations so I'm guessing we are minus a box. Definitely not in the house, definitely not in the garage. Our decorations were at one of my 'local' friends in their loft from last christmas till april, I'm guessing maybe she found the box at some point, thought it was hers and threw it out because she was planning on a real tree this year. I have no idea, I know it's not there now cos her loft was reinsulated last week, and there's no point pointing fingers as it won't bring it back.

I'm so so gutted because last year we really invested in this tree, okay so it was about £70 from homebase but it's a lot to us and we saved and saved for it so we had a nice one that would last a long time. All our decorations too... and some of them were from when I was a kid

And I'm sat in tears because this was something I was so looking forward to this weekend, it's all me n the kids have talked about all week. And even if we could afford another, which we can't, we won't have time to put it up.

I know it's so stupid to be upset about but I am...

I hope everyone elses days have gone better.