Another saturday in alone... :(

choille

Try Freecycle - in our area someone was giving one away plus decorations.

Could you start to make some decorations? Go out & get some ever green & make a wreath or swags. A friend cut out huge star shapes & sprayed them gold & hung them up - looked good. Could you make a tree cut out & spray it green - make two & cross section them together.
Sorry your day is gone a bit awry.

pisces_cat

snowed - so sorry about your missing tree! I saw some really nice home made decorations in a magazine - cut out a big star shape from cardboard and then cover with wrapping paper, they looked brilliant and I'm going to give it a shot - it's not a tree though....

alyth

if you are feeling down or low then something like your missing tree can seem like an absolute disaster, I am so sorry to hear that you had planned the decorating and now can't do it.

Christmas is still four weeks away - so don't panic. You can make your own decorations, get the kids invoved, doesn't have to cost a lot of money - go to your local poundshop and buy some craft material.

have to be honest though and say that you've just reminded me that some of my christmas decs are with ex and bint in the other house, ones I had from when I was a kid............dammit! I will not contact him thought, did that last week and got so upset he was so horrible to me!

Sorry for getting sidetracked! Can you go out and collect pinecones and spray them? Ask on freecycle for someone who maybe has a tree that doesn't want it any more? Collect holly and make stuff for the house?

Chin up honey, tomorrow is another day, your kids are young enough that I think they will never remember this when they are older.

Hugs from me.

pinkie_pie

Thanks everyone... it would appear it's a so called friend at the root of missing tree parts but like i said -deep breath- will try and sort it out. If I can find one tomorrow then will have an hour tomorrow evening with the kids to decorate. A mission now!!!

Thanks everyone for your kind words. It's odd how something so trivial can seem so major.

katebl

Good luck with your mission!

mummy_Jay

OP going back to your original issue, what do you want to be doing on a saturday night?
How about making a list of things you want to do - Learn to drive, go to concerts, etc
Once you have a list look at it and workout what you would need to do to be able to do each of them, pick one and start working towards it. Even if that means having a money jar to put money aside for learning to drive.

If you want a partner you need to be happy in yourself. That means being you, not trying to change to "fit in" or please others. People are attracted to confident happy people and you need to find your route to being their.

As for the xmas tree go get a cheap one from a supermarket or freecycle or something, then make paper chains and gingerbread orniments, and orniments from card and glitter with the kids. It doesn't have to be done all at once and you will end up with something far more special than anything shop brought on your tree.

Try and find a little chink of positive, or the funny side of you can.

Mrs.O_3

worriedsik wrote: »

stay away from internet bloody dating !!!! its not the real world

I met my OH on an internet dating site. Together 4 years, married 18 months! :happylove

RoxieW

I'm sorry I havent had time to read the whole thread but I wanted to reply. I'm 27 with 3 kids and have at times felt lonely. How old are your kids? Do you go to any mum and toddler groups or take them to after school activites? If so, try to get chatting to other young mums - you'd be surprised how many lonely mums there are out there. or chat at the school gates. Sometimes it takes perserverence. I felt 'blanked' by a mum about my age at the school sometimes but I went out of my way to chat to her, eventually asked her if she fancied going for a coffee, and she is now one of my best friends. She's just a shy person. Zone in on mums stood alone who dont seem part of a cliche - they'd probably be grateful for a chat R u on facebook? How about contacting some old school friends? Perhaps make an effort to go out with uni friends when your ex has the kids - you deserve some fun and it would help you to feel more part of the group. Where abouts in the country are you hon?

pinkie_pie

Just revisiting this thread - ironic that hey still in on a weekend night, by myself.

Someone I dated recently actually wanted to do something tonight, but he made it blatantly clear that the evening would be directed at 'talking' so I've given it a miss (he still wants to get back together.)
Someone I went out for a meal with a while back also had a similar idea.

It seems stupid that I'm lonely but turning offers down... but to accept either of those would definitely imply something, if that makes sense?

I've definitely been scorned again by the local and previously close friends, as I've just discovered they have arranged a trip to London this sunday, and are making it very clear that they both want me to know and not to come. I know the best thing to do is to take a deep breath and try not to think about it, but it's very hard when one of them (who is also for the mostpart the ringleader) is also my childminder. It's ironic that everyone said that having a professional relationship would ruin the friendship, and it's actually the friendship that has turned sour of it's own accord.

I have really felt like texting her tonight and trying to get some clarity but I'm not sure what to say. I want to do what's best for my children on top of everything, and I know she's a good childminder but it's making me really unhappy and I'm worried that that will affect them.

I was going to put something along the lines of 'I'm not really sure how to talk to you anymore. We were very close friends and that was a main reason that I trusted you with the kids, and while I still have that trust it hurts that we are no longer friends. You have made it quite clear that this is the case through your actions, particularly that I now feel entirely left out of anything social that you do. I feel entirely pushed out and to be honest I don't feel that I deserved it, but feel free to argue that if you want. You were a good friend before you were my childminder, and I would rather have that back. I'd like you to tell me if that's not going to happen.'

This thread has definitely given me the clarity that I'm not concerned about being single as much as I thought I was. I was so confused and upset about being lonely that I mistook it - it's my friends that are all I want.

pinkie_pie

Ok well too late anyone who might read this as I sent it anyways.

I think I need to know. I don't know entirely what she is going to say to it. Our other friends tend to follow her lead (which is why I've been shut out, on her bidding). I have a feeling the potential loss of earnings (I tried not to make my text sound like a threat of ending our contract, more like I wanted to put our friendship first, did it come across that way) might spur her into being friendly, if it doesn't then I will well and truly know we have no friendship left. On the otherhand I know I will be able to tell if our friendship is salvageable or if she's doing it for the work, she's quite an easy person normally to read.

This isn't making my self esteem sound too fantastic, I know. I guess it's just important I know where I stand.

I did look at driving lessons, I have a choice of what appears to be one company in the entirety of about a 50 mile radius (automatic.) Oh well, at least there's one.

And now I'm suddenly wondering if I should have sent the text. If the end result isn't good, at least I know I need to stay well clear of facebook for the forceable future.