Fed up vegetarian needs advice please

red_devil

Iaccommodate yours? I'm not veggie myself but if vegetarian friends are coming for dinner I check the ingredients in everything - and usually cook veggie for everyone so there's no problem with "cross-contamination".

yes but do they do the same back for you. Always tickles me that one veggies expect a veggie dinner will they do you a meat one!:rolleyes:;)

fernliebee

red_devil wrote: »

Iaccommodate yours? I'm not veggie myself but if vegetarian friends are coming for dinner I check the ingredients in everything - and usually cook veggie for everyone so there's no problem with "cross-contamination".

yes but do they do the same back for you. Always tickles me that one veggies expect a veggie dinner will they do you a meat one!:rolleyes:;)

Actually yes, most of my family are veggies but when my extended family come over I will cook a meat dish and a veggie dish. I do however see that as a completely different thing, as most meat eaters do eat some veggie meals anyway, so your not forcing them to eat something they wouldn't normally have, or that they don't actually eat.

My dad still thinks that joke is hilarious though even though he has eaten meat at my house many times :rolleyes:

Tish_P

red devil, the original poster stated quite clearly that she does indeed cook meat for the omnivores in her family. (Though I see no reason why she should - vegetarian dinners are perfectly suitable for meat-eaters because meat-eaters eat vegetables too.)

I don't make Jewish friends cook me pork, and I don't demand that teetotallers serve wine (although I'd miss wine far more than meat!), so why should I ask for meat at a vegetarian's house?

jenhug

If I were you, aside from the hygene issue (karma in play with hubby on the loo??) I would feel violated. It would have shattered my trust in both my hubby and SIL.
I am a meat eater and I feel horrified on your behalf. My parents lied to me about food and have terrible eating problems 20+ years later, when trust is damamged its hard to repair.

jenhug

I'd be tempted to make her a p*ss cocktail just for the fun of it. See how she likes having her food and drink messed with !

red_devil

I don't make Jewish friends cook me pork, and I don't demand that teetotallers serve wine (although I'd miss wine far more than meat!), so why should I ask for meat at a vegetarian's house?[/QUOTE]

erm because you like it, because it fills you up, because it tastes nice!

because you dont want to be starving a few hours later.

Tish_P

Oh, grow up.

MrsTinks

I am an omnivore and proud - I think the hygine angle has been amply covered although that too would have been my main concern...
I have a lot of veggie friends - and if they are coming to dinner I cook a vegetarian meal - after all I asked them for dinner so I accept they won't eat certain things same as I always make clear before accepting a dinner invitation that I don't eat fish and liver It is perfectly possible to cook a nice dinner that everyone can enjoy without it including meat - cooking 2 dishes to me would just be more hassle than cooking a nice non-meat meal to start with
I guess by return my vegetarian friends ought to cook us meat when having us for dinner but I know they turn pretty green at the thought and one evening without meat isn't going to kill anyone.
Serving a meal that had meat in it but hidden is to me incredibly rude - it's one thing to accidently stir something with a spoon that had been used to stir the meat stock - quite another to cook a vegetarian dish in a pot or pan that had meat remnants in it...

the_cat

OP - perhaps it would be a good idea to show your OH this thread? He might then be able to see that it is not just you being unreasonable and in his eyes 'going off on one'


If I go to someone's house for dinner, I relish the chance to try something that I would not ordinarily cook. A veggie cook will be able to produce a lovely veggie dish as he/she will be used to cooking it. It is only good manners to accomodate a veggie and certainly anyone with food allergies but to feel obliged to feed meat to guests just because they are used to it ...... err, no

belfastgirl23

I'm also veggie and am horrified by your husband. Not so much the chopping on the wrong board, because tbh men are stupid about stuff like this anyway and that was just not thinking. but the fact that he and his family were sniggering behind your back shows a shocking disloyalty. In your shoes I would feel like he has very definitely sided with them against you. that's what I would be upset about. And it would be more with him than her, yes she was totally in the wrong but if he was sending out all the signals that it's ok to treat you like that then he is the one responsible.

I deffo would be bringing my own food to her house from now on.

And seriously you do need to sit him down and explain to him that it isn't just about pizza, it's about being treated with respect.

BTW I would never cook meat for anyone else either so I think you're already bending over backwards to be accommodating.