Fed up vegetarian needs advice please

LameWolf

Quite apart from the hygiene issue, as pointed out right from the early posts in this thread, this is gross disrespect for you as a person.

I wouldn't give my home made mince pies (veggie suet but a generous amount of brandy in it) to someone who didn't touch alcohol, and to me, this is no different. I think you are totally right to be livid.

It's not a question of whether it will in fact make you ill; you have made a life choice, for your own reasons, and they are totally ignoring it.

celyn90 wrote: »

Your husband is very lucky you cook meat for him; I know many veggies who wouldn't.

I'm one of them I'm afraid - I can't bring myself to touch the stuff *shudders*.
I told Mr LW when I moved in with him that he was welcome to have meat, but he'd have to cook it himself, with the kitchen door shut. He chooses to eat veggie at home, and just has meat when we go out to a pub/restaurant.:A

Tom1234

Raw / Undercooked chicken will give you a bad stomach quite commonly. That's not that big a deal.

However, if it has salmonella, and contaminates other food, you run the risk of getting quite serious food poisoning.

I've had actual food poisoning (as opposed to a dodgy tummy) once. I spent 2-3 days throwing up, with the most horrific stomach pain imaginable. I was taken to hospital at one point, thats how bad it got.

Its lucky your OH isn't more seriously ill. I'd use this as an object lesson to him, and maybe start educting him about kitchen hygiene (although how old is he? I knew not to put raw meat with cooked produce at the age of 7 or 8).

candygirl

He sounds like such a caring sharing character:mad::mad:As a veggie of 35 years, there's no way i'd cook meat for him, or even have meat in the house, and what he did with your pizza was stupid and disrespectful to say the least:mad::mad:

got-it-spend-it

I'm a non-meat eater and I would have been fuming in your situation.

I think I would actually be most annoyed with SIL as she has shown a complete disrespect for your choices and beliefs. I would not be going there for dinner again.

I would also be pretty annoyed with OH, but at least you had the choice not to eat it, and he is suffering the consequences of his own stupidity!

paddy's_mum

As a meat eater in moderation but the lifelong friend of a vegetarian, I believe your anger is perfectly justified.

I actually think that the lies told by the sister are the worst aspect of this, and far more damaging than the simple, probably typical blokeish carelessness of your hubby. How deceitful of your sister in law.. the trickery isn't anything to be proud of and for her and her family to chortle about it afterwards is dishonourable behaviour.

So what pleasure in discovering that you didn't notice? If I were a barmaid with a grudge and they came into my pub, would discovering much later that I had spat generous amounts of saliva into their drinks turn their stomachs or would they find it amusing that they hadn't noticed?

Your sister in law has put a question mark over every action, word or exchange you ever have with her for years and years to come. I hope she comes to see that getting a smart alec one over on you was a high price to pay for your loss of trust in her.

Disgruntled_Veggie

the_cat wrote: »

Now might be the perfect time to impart a little food hygeine knowledge - I once read that raw chicken should be viewed in much the same way as raw sewage. That little analogy should have him back in the backroom pretty quick:rotfl:

LOL! At least if the board had had raw sewage on it he would have actually seen it - he says that he didn't notice that I had been using the board/knife for raw chicken as the juices are virtually clear. I say that only an idiot (a 38 year old one on this occasion) would go into a kitchen and use the first board and knife to start cutting pizza on.

Now I am thinking back to all the meals I have had with DH's family over the last 20 years and trying to work out whether they all could have been spiked with meat as they all find it so amusing! Here I am thinking I am a lifelong veggie but I have probably been a carnivore for years!

bulchy

Magpie. wrote: »

I agree that regardless of being a vegetarian that is just not safe to eat for anybody.

As for the sister I think thats shocking. Someones personal choice shouldn't be subject to a joke or 'see, she didn't even notice' attitude.

My thoughts exactly. sounds like they're taking the p155.
Sue

LameWolf

paddy's_mum wrote: »

So what pleasure in discovering that you didn't notice? If I were a barmaid with a grudge and they came into my pub, would discovering much later that I had spat generous amounts of saliva into their drinks turn their stomachs or would they find it amusing that they hadn't noticed?

Thanks - I was trying to think of a suitable example to quote and failing.

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Your sister in law has put a question mark over every action, word or exchange you ever have with her for years and years to come. I hope she comes to see that getting a smart alec one over on you was a high price to pay for your loss of trust in her.

Too right - anyone did that to me, I wouldn't even trust them to get me a glass of water ever again.

Reds-on-Sea

I'm a non meat eater, as is my OH I agree with everyone on the thread, silly husband for contaminating it with raw meat! HOWEVER, it was probably an innocent mistake.

What gets me is when I go on holiday to Japan (which incidentally was a completely vegetarian country for hundreds of years!) and they have no concept of vegetarian....at all! They think chicken is okay, and if you can't see it, i.e meat stock is okay, and "just taking the pepperoni off a pizza" is okay LOL. I do feel lucky as vegetarians are so well accommodated in England. You'll rarely find a restaurant with no veggie options etc.

Disgruntled_Veggie

paddy's_mum wrote: »

As a meat eater in moderation but the lifelong friend of a vegetarian, I believe your anger is perfectly justified.

I actually think that the lies told by the sister are the worst aspect of this, and far more damaging than the simple, probably typical blokeish carelessness of your hubby. How deceitful of your sister in law.. the trickery isn't anything to be proud of and for her and her family to chortle about it afterwards is dishonourable behaviour.

So what pleasure in discovering that you didn't notice? If I were a barmaid with a grudge and they came into my pub, would discovering much later that I had spat generous amounts of saliva into their drinks turn their stomachs or would they find it amusing that they hadn't noticed?

Your sister in law has put a question mark over every action, word or exchange you ever have with her for years and years to come. I hope she comes to see that getting a smart alec one over on you was a high price to pay for your loss of trust in her.

Yes that is all so true, quite a few of you have said it and I think this sums it up, thank you. It is definitely the complete lack of disrespect for my views and beliefs, and also my health (as I have never mentioned my reasons for being a vegetarian but they could be health related as far as she knows). I can't understand why someone would get a kick out of doing something like that and dramatic though it sounds, it makes me feel that she obviously must really dislike me. My DH started to panic last night and asked me not to say that he mentioned it - yeah right!!