I just do not know what to do

Maz

Well done that girl!!! :T:T:T:T:beer:

Bogof_Babe

Seconded :T. That's a really positive post Tina, you are getting there!

I would love to be a fly on the wall in their kitchen tonight. Know what, I almost feel sorry for the silly s0d .

IWish

Thirded :rotfl: Well done Tina - I'm sure you look lovely - here's to the new you :beer: xx

newbeginning_2

Same again........ Well done Tina :T:T:T:T

He wont like it that you seem to be moving on now.

fabforty

tinatony1 wrote: »

not doing too bad today, i took the plunge today and had my hair cut, i used to have very long (i could nearly sit on it ) hair but now it is just on my shoulders and layered, i was quite nervous but i do like it. The next step is to possibly change the colour but one step at a time. The new me begins ?

H came over to pick up his post and looked completely shocked to see my new look, he wanted to know why i hadnt told him i was going to do it so i just said ' i dont need to now do i?' he was shocked at that response but said that he really liked it, he also started to tell me that he and her had had a big barny the other night where he slept on the sofa and i just said i didnt really want to know about it, it was none of my concern and again he looked taken aback.

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Absolutely spot on Tina. Another tip, get him a post redirection form, he can then have his post sent to his new home which gives him one less excuse to keep you from moving forward.
:T (If it was me, I would have also changed the door locks by now, but I'm guessing that you're not quite ready for that yet). One step at a time - remember that as long as they ae headed in the right direction, you will get to where you need to be eventually.

Maz

fabforty wrote: »

tinatony1 wrote: »

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Absolutely spot on Tina. Another tip, get him a post redirection form, he can then have his post sent to his new home which gives him one less excuse to keep you from moving forward.

Or, if he's resistent to this and you know his address, you could just re direct it yourself and tell him that's what you'll be doing from now on? Just a thought.

worriedsik

tinatony1 wrote: »

not doing too bad today, i took the plunge today and had my hair cut, i used to have very long (i could nearly sit on it ) hair but now it is just on my shoulders and layered, i was quite nervous but i do like it. The next step is to possibly change the colour but one step at a time. The new me begins ?

H came over to pick up his post and looked completely shocked to see my new look, he wanted to know why i hadnt told him i was going to do it so i just said ' i dont need to now do i?' he was shocked at that response but said that he really liked it, he also started to tell me that he and her had had a big barny the other night where he slept on the sofa and i just said i didnt really want to know about it, it was none of my concern and again he looked taken aback.

so i am getting stronger in some ways, havent cried at all today or last night.

have got a very busy week coming up at work so that will keep my mind off things as well.

whooohoooo well done tina xxxxxx how dare he think that you should tell him you were going to do it !!! why the f*k should you ? emm hello you shoulad have said...'you dont live with me i dont need to tell you anything''.....well done too for telling him you dont want to know about his sleeping on the sofa with the !!!!!...
I tell you girl ...iam proud off you now and i will be even more proud off you when he comes crawling back and you tell him to take a running f**k OMG you are going to do it girl i just know you are
dont let yourself down now....keep it up girl wish i lived near you i would take you for a drink or two tonight to celebrate the step you have taking
now ..............tomorow...get up have a ciggy and think about who you are, how proud you are off yourself ? how special you are , look in the mirror at your new hair doo & ask yourself what is next ???

xx

worriedsik

link for mail redirection .....

http://www.royalmail.com/portal/rm/product1?catId=400040&mediaId=600008

Michelin

tinatony1 wrote: »

not doing too bad today, i took the plunge today and had my hair cut, i used to have very long (i could nearly sit on it ) hair but now it is just on my shoulders and layered, i was quite nervous but i do like it. The next step is to possibly change the colour but one step at a time. The new me begins ?

H came over to pick up his post and looked completely shocked to see my new look, he wanted to know why i hadnt told him i was going to do it so i just said ' i dont need to now do i?' he was shocked at that response but said that he really liked it, he also started to tell me that he and her had had a big barny the other night where he slept on the sofa and i just said i didnt really want to know about it, it was none of my concern and again he looked taken aback.

so i am getting stronger in some ways, havent cried at all today or last night.

have got a very busy week coming up at work so that will keep my mind off things as well.

Well done Tina !!! Tough love can sometimes work and at the very least you are standing up to him and not letting him walk all over you. I hope he comes to his senses soon.

nm123_2

tinatony1 wrote: »

not doing too bad today, i took the plunge today and had my hair cut, i used to have very long (i could nearly sit on it ) hair but now it is just on my shoulders and layered, i was quite nervous but i do like it. The next step is to possibly change the colour but one step at a time. The new me begins ?

H came over to pick up his post and looked completely shocked to see my new look, he wanted to know why i hadnt told him i was going to do it so i just said ' i dont need to now do i?' he was shocked at that response but said that he really liked it, he also started to tell me that he and her had had a big barny the other night where he slept on the sofa and i just said i didnt really want to know about it, it was none of my concern and again he looked taken aback.

so i am getting stronger in some ways, havent cried at all today or last night.

have got a very busy week coming up at work so that will keep my mind off things as well.

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Go TINA!

I bet your hair looks lovely, I'm so pleased for you on so many levels - doing something for yourself, making yourself feel better, not crying, feeling better, being snippy to him. Yessssssssssssssss!

Sorry I've not been around much this week, but I was so chuffed to see such a positive post. I bet 2 weeks ago you didn't think you'd have a day like that did you? See - things are changing. Keep up the good week and I hope your busy work week keeps you occupied!

xxx