I just do not know what to do

salesaddict

Hi Tina,
just wanted you to know I am thinking of you
Wishing you all the strength you need to get through this time xx.
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tinatony1

Thanks nm123, this seems like a good idea, i have one i can put from last night, i had a bloke come round to fix my kitchen taps and i dealt with it on my own, didnt think i would be able to, strange bloke in the house etc but it was fine, taps are fixed, bloke was wierd though??? and i didnt cry last night, nearly but didnt

Salesaddict, thank you for your thoughts it means the world

nm123_2

tinatony1 wrote: »

Thanks nm123, this seems like a good idea, i have one i can put from last night, i had a bloke come round to fix my kitchen taps and i dealt with it on my own, didnt think i would be able to, strange bloke in the house etc but it was fine, taps are fixed, bloke was wierd though??? and i didnt cry last night, nearly but didnt

:T

OK, so get on the lookout for things that will happen today that you must just need to log later!

I'm dreading today, got my OH's brother's (who for unknown reasons doesn't like me) wedding to go to and they've left me out of the plans, so I've got to turn up on my own and sit on my own as OH is best man and will be on the top table. I've got to drive too, so it's not even like I can just get drunk. God knows what my 3 things will be today....

tinatony1

the sun is shining here, that could be one, try and enjoy the wedding, i hate weddings at the best of times and i have 3 to go to next year, i dont want to go to any of them now

zztopgirl

Tina, you may feel differently next year about the weddings, stranger things have happened, so to speak. At the moment, everything seems bleak, but try not to look too far ahead.

I feel bad today, its a down day, so just want you to be prepared for those, 2 steps forward and then one step back:mad: its horrible but all i can think at the moment is letting the feelings wash over me and eventually be over it completely with time. It doesnt help that im thinking he is with his new 'victim'.

I will try the 3 good things too, i actually had breakfast today:eek: the weather is dreadful here though.

Nm123, i wouldnt have gone to the wedding! Good luck though and hope you do manage to have a lovely time despite it all.

tinatony1

i suppose you are right but at the moment it just makes me think about my wedding, it was the best day ever.

zztopgirl i hope you feel better as the day goes on, i am thinking of you

xxxxx

zztopgirl

tinatony1 wrote: »

i suppose you are right but at the moment it just makes me think about my wedding, it was the best day ever.

zztopgirl i hope you feel better as the day goes on, i am thinking of you

xxxxx

So was my wedding day, this was my third marriage and it was the most fantastic day. But look forward now, not back.:A

Im doing fine now, pulled myself out of the slump and feel alot happier, but just be prepared, just when you think you have turned a corner, something knocks you off.

catlovin_gal11

Hi tinatony-read your postings and those on this thread just by chance. I do hope things will settle for you soon. It looks like other half
felt things haven't been quite right for a while but you must have had some sort of feeling about things being not right to have looked at his phone without his knowledge.
Don't know whether you are still on speaking terms with other half or whether you have had a chance to have a sensible talk. If so go ahead and do this while you can. On the other hand if you think that's now not possible, then please realise you are not alone Tinatony, we are all rooting for you and sending you strength to carry on with a new chapter in your life.

I do hope you are OK. Sending Love and hugs

lilmissmup

Hi Tina,

I really feel for you, my ex left me 4 months ago.

I was just getting back on track and he came into my life again a month ago, told me still had feelings for me and i spent the last month hoping we could get back together, him leading me on even though today he denies this, but he used to text me and email me with stuff that wasn;t just friends.

But really he had slept with someone else, that didn't work and he just wanted some attention and now he has a new play thing even though she is on the other side of the world.

Pls try and move on, I am scared your ex will come back and hurt you more, I know we would never work again really and knew this last month but when you love someone and want them back your brain doesn't work properly.

I had my mobile number changed today as I refuse to put myself through this again, taken his !!!!!! for too long now and am hoping to never hear from him again (apparently hes going to Australia anyway EDIT: The play thing is in America though!)

He says he cares about me and even tried to tell me today he still has feelings for me but if he really cared he wouldn't have used me like a toy.

I am going to keep reading and hope you're ok, yes its really not easy some days and today has been the worst day since we split but both of us deserve better men that our exes and I have had some good times since being single believe me xxx

lilmissmup

nm123 wrote: »

ZZTopGirl - your post is lovely, brought a tear to my eye.

Tina - I was saw something on telly about being fed up / depressed that really stuck with me (from Oprah of all places :rolleyes::D) and that I think works...

Each day you have to think of and write down 3 good things*. Start off small; the good things might be "cried less today" or "got to work on time" or "had a shower without the water running cold" or "didn't hear from ex" or "boss fell over" or "enjoyed breakfast more than I thought". It can honestly be anything, but you must try have 3 good things by the end of each day.

Whether you stick a bit of scrap paper in your bag or keep a diary or come and tell us on here, this will help you to focus on positive things, no matter how small they are.

Would something like this help? I'll join in if you like? I wonder if others would too... We could even start a new thread?!? (me, getting carried away? never...)

It's quite hard to do, and requires some hard-thinking and isn't as easy as it sounds but I wonder if it might be good for you? Just a thought..

*It might be 5 things, but I figure 3 is a good start.

Oh I am so up for this too