I just do not know what to do

Metranil_Vavin

Have you posted up an SOA yet?

it may help in that some of the posters here can offer you practical advice on making your money go further.

tinatony1

i havent posted an SOA yet, i need to work it out but havent had the inclination to be honest, i do have to though as i have a CAB appointment next week about the debts, H said he will come with me as it does involve him as well

Dancing_Shoes

How very considerate of him:rolleyes::mad:

You really need to look after yourself, this man is really having his cake an eating it. I know it is really hard but you need to summon all your strentgh and set your focus on one thing at a time, he is not allowing you to move on and at the moment he is in full control of the situation and although it hurts you need to try and take back some of the control so that you can get angry and start to move on.

jenhug

have you considered a room in a shared house just for a bit?

tandraig

tina hun? what you are going through is a sort of grieving process....but while he is there you are still in the disbelief stage! and it gives you a sort of hope that its not happening. I am pleased to hear he will be moving out on friday - that sounds awful - but it will enable you to begin the next stage of the process. which will probably be anger..........I need to apologise here........I tried to push you to that stage and it was probably the wrong thing to do. heartfelt apologies hun........you werent ready and it was wrong of me. my aim was to help you find your 'mad' and get him out. his being there was so unhealthy for you. no excuse tho. please understand i was so concerned about YOU. look after yourself and please go ask for advice about money and tenancy - i cant help there at all. btw feel free to PM me at any time, i would give the same advice to you as i would to my own daughter (and i adore her OH).

larmy16

Awesome post Munkiemunkie - nearly had me in tears. We are all just trying to share our own experiences with Tina. We are angry on her behalf. We all know just how awful she feels and that is why we feel so angry. It is such a devastating feeling.

How I too know that feeling of wanting to be comforted by the very person who is causing you immense pain.

Well done to you to get out of your horrible situation. You should be very proud of yourself. It is never ever easy to give up on a bubble that has burst.

Metranil_Vavin

Tina - apologies hun if you have already been asked/answered this, but can you not stay with your Dad for a bit? At least until the Pondlife moves out?

Bogof_Babe

I've just read this whole thread, and my heart bleeds for you Tina as you are obviously going through an extremely upsetting time. You feel that the bottom has dropped out of your world, which it has, and it will be a while before you can come to terms with it. Please try to bear in mind that however you feel now, life goes on. If he gets any inkling that you are still besotted with him, it will make it harder to make the break should it come to that.

The main reason for posting though is that I don't think anyone has suggested seeing a solicitor. In view of the compex money situation I think you should try to get a free half hour appointment with one, just to make sure there isn't something crucial that you should be doing.

Money_maker

tinatony1 wrote: »

i havent posted an SOA yet, i need to work it out but havent had the inclination to be honest, i do have to though as i have a CAB appointment next week about the debts, H said he will come with me as it does involve him as well

Yes, but you may also want to discuss things about how you are going to cope on your own and there's no way you want him to hear any of that -he may use it to his advantage.

Bogof-Babe is right about the solicitor as well - you need to be without him for this.

x

rjc73

Hey Tina, thinking of you today. Hope you are hanging on in there. (((((((((hugs))))))))))