Is OH right I am lazy..or is he a bully? Feel sad.

woody01

squirrelchops wrote: »

New cook.....No he did his own packing but I knew he would 'show me how quick and easy it was' being !!!!!!! smug which is exactly what he did. He said 'see only took me half hour...what's your problem with it'.

He is always doing that. I ama student as i said and yes I do procrastinate at times but I must be doing soemthing right to have got, out of 6 modules 4 A's and 2 B's at degree level eh??

1. Packing/Washing - So does he work all day supporting you? If thats the case then so you should take control of these things. I am not trying to be sexist ok.

2. Exam pass marks - They are just OK. Again, was it him working that allowed you to do this in the first place.

This is my POV as a bloke.
The problem is, when you asked, most of the responses were from women that have had issues with a bloke in the past so their judgement is VERY clouded and they are your 'run-o-the-mill' man haters.

Minxy_Bella

woody01 wrote: »

1. Packing/Washing - So does he work all day supporting you? If thats the case then so you should take control of these things. I am not trying to be sexist ok.

2. Exam pass marks - They are just OK. Again, was it him working that allowed you to do this in the first place.

This is my POV as a bloke.
The problem is, when you asked, most of the responses were from women that have had issues with a bloke in the past so their judgement is VERY clouded and they are your 'run-o-the-mill' man haters.

Cause and effect??

Or are people not allowed to comment from personal experience? :rolleyes:

I rarely meet women who hate all men. I meet women who hate the BEHAVIOUR of some men. With good reason.

My first husband was an egotistical nightmare and would smash things up and push me around when he didn't get his own way - or just when he felt like it. He constantly belittled my appearance, my profession, my proficiency as a wife and a mother. He could be very nice when it suited him.

My second husband and I are equal partners - we do not shout and scream at each other or throw things - we discuss what's irritated us like adults are supposed to, with a healthy mutual respect for each other's opinions. He is very nice all the time.

Which husband do you think I prefer? :rolleyes:

thisuseridistakenagain

Im messy and i hardly ever finish a job in the house. and i love my grub.

But thats my personality, so if my OH suddenly didnt like it he could !!!!!! off!!!

:rotfl:

Jake'sGran

yoni_one wrote: »

If abusers were abusive the whole time, never being nice, then things would be much more cut and dried for the target of abuse, they would have a much better idea of what was going on for starters and less incentive to stay in the relationship.

But the problem is, abusers are very very capable of being nice, in fact often they are very practiced at being nice and that side is shown to the rest of the world most of the time, and to the target of abuse some of the time.

Some people in this thread who disagree that the OP's partner is a bully explain that it is not domestic abuse because they recognise the behaviour in their own relationship and do not view it as abuse.
"and from the OP's comments, she feels bullied at times. Being bullied even only sometimes is still never ok.[/QUOT E]

yoni_one
You sound like a person with great insight and perfect for the
counselling etc that you do. So much of what you say is true!

yoni_one

Thank you so much Jake's Gran, that was very kind of you to say.

I have gained my insight from working abused women and children (not all abusers have been male) and attending lots and lots of training.

I sincerely wish domestic violence and abuse did not exist anywhere and there was no demand for this type of support.