Husband too strict

inmypocketnottheirs

Pee wrote: »

Is it possible for you to have some time together without the children? Could someone look after them for you to have a weekend away?

Fantastic idea, and should be available on the NHS by prescription!!!!

This is exactly 100% what we need! My parents are in their 80's live 200 miles away and have never even babysat for us once to go out! My wife has no family to support her. In 10 years we have had 1 weekend away without kids. Whilst we chose to have children and both love them dearly, we do need some 'us time'. And I guess the OP does too.:beer:

LonelyLil

Any wrote: »

I agree with you in general.
However the OP started telling us that she is scared what he is going to do next and reduces her to tears...

I think that is me being a bit soft to be honest. I do get over emotional and did not want the kids to think their dad had reduced me to tears. They were tears of frustraion "why is life never easy" rather than fear.

LonelyLil

inmypocketnottheirs wrote: »

Fantastic idea, and should be available on the NHS by prescription!!!!

This is exactly 100% what we need! My parents are in their 80's live 200 miles away and have never even babysat for us once to go out! My wife has no family to support her. In 10 years we have had 1 weekend away without kids. Whilst we chose to have children and both love them dearly, we do need some 'us time'. And I guess the OP does too.:beer:

We get very little time alone to chat, so it is hard to discuss issues like this. Maybe this is something we need to work on. Like you, our parents rarely hve the kids. I can count on one hand the number of nights out we have had alone since the kids. Although they are getting older now and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

LonelyLil

inmypocketnottheirs wrote: »

I speak from the point of having two boys, 8 & 10, whose mother (my wife) does absolutely everything for them, and in my opinion they get away with too much. And this often causes a similar scenario to what the OP has explained. I am not justifying it, excusing it, attempting to diminish the OP's feelings, just simply trying to explain why perhaps the husband/father is reacting in the way he has.

This is 100% what my husband is like. He says the kids are pampered, I think I am just being a good mum.

inmypocketnottheirs

LonelyLil wrote: »

This is 100% what my husband is like. He says the kids are pampered, I think I am just being a good mum.

Flippin' heck, you're my misses aren't you??!!??

You and your OH have my total sympathy and support.

I really hope you can sort it out. How would your DH react to reading this thread, maybe he just doesn't realise what he is doing? Made things worse for myself now haven't I, by admitting I know I have a problem and I still continue to do the same?:o

LonelyLil

inmypocketnottheirs wrote: »

Flippin' heck, you're my misses aren't you??!!??

You and your OH have my total sympathy and support.

I really hope you can sort it out. How would your DH react to reading this thread, maybe he just doesn't realise what he is doing? Made things worse for myself now haven't I, by admitting I know I have a problem and I still continue to do the same?:o

Thank you.

He would be very upset that he has hurt me so much I resorted to posting on the internet about it. He really isn't a monster, despite what other posters may think.

Zazen999

OP

What would have happened [honestly] if you had gone up, had a chat with your daughter and brought her downstairs, and if you told your husband that she had apologised and won't do it again?

inmypocketnottheirs

LonelyLil wrote: »

Thank you.

He would be very upset that he has hurt me so much I resorted to posting on the internet about it. He really isn't a monster, despite what other posters may think.

And I'm not either, but am frequently made to feel so! Truthfully, it is because your DH is fed up with you being put upon!!

peachyprice

jinky67 wrote: »

I would be mightly pee'd off if my kids forgot their P.E as well. Surely they are of an age where they are expected to take resonsibility for themselves?

:rolleyes:

Why
If they forget their PE kit they're the ones who will have to wear it when it's smelly or get a detention for it being dirty.

As far as my 2 are concerned, they want it washed, they put it in the basket, they want to stink to high heaven (14yo boys :rolleyes:) leave it at school.

Their responsiblity, not mine.

LonelyLil

Zazen999 wrote: »

OP

What would have happened [honestly] if you had gone up, had a chat with your daughter and brought her downstairs, and if you told your husband that she had apologised and won't do it again?

He would have said I was being to soft and that she was wrapping me round her little finger.