Childminder hit my child

Taye

amersall wrote: »

are you at work today? as i think its odd that you can post on here from 5 to 10, till after 1, and your child is with a child minder who smacks him and he was upset this morning when you dropped him off, i dont see the logic in this, not saying you are a bad mum, but unless you are at work you would not have dropped him off today, you should have kept him home with you and sorted this incident today, the longer you leave it the harder it will be to say what you have to say to her

Maybe the posted from home before they left for work, then from thier desk? I frequently post from my desk at work... but shhh don't tell my boss teehee

HariboJunkie

Taye wrote: »

Maybe the posted from home before they left for work, then from thier desk? I frequently post from my desk at work... but shhh don't tell my boss teehee

Maybe we should keep the subject of wasting employers' time and money for another thread. As an employer I would have alot to say on the subject.

LISSILEIGH

the thing is we all punish our children in different ways, so we can say 'oh its only a smack' but it depends on what force she used etc. what seems like a smack to one person may seem ott to another.

i worked as a childminder and your not supposed to 'smack' a child no matter what!! the fact that she didnt mention it to you concerns me, if she was a true professional (which it seems like she isnt) she would have told you herself, and not left your young child to do it for her.

i mean does she fill in an accident book and things????

i mean if parents can't lay a finger on their own children, what right does a childminder have???

you can only treat the children you care for like your own to a certain point.

foi1983

LISSILEIGH wrote: »

the thing is we all punish our children in different ways, so we can say 'oh its only a smack' but it depends on what force she used etc. what seems like a smack to one person may seem ott to another.

i worked as a childminder and your not supposed to 'smack' a child no matter what!! the fact that she didnt mention it to you concerns me, if she was a true professional (which it seems like she isnt) she would have told you herself, and not left your young child to do it for her.

i mean does she fill in an accident book and things????

i mean if parents can't lay a finger on their own children, what right does a childminder have???

you can only treat the children you care for like your own to a certain point.

Exactly!

She didnt bother to tell you. Your poor 3 year old child told you. You should be proud that you have such a bright child. The childminder is indded "a naughty girl" as your child rightly said.

I hope the childminder did not try and tell the child "not to tell mummy"? But that is a whole other thread.

rocketdog_2

I have a question - maybe O/T, but why are you paying this woman to be out doing her shopping with her Mum instead of doing activities with your child?

amersall

Taye wrote: »

Maybe the posted from home before they left for work, then from thier desk? I frequently post from my desk at work... but shhh don't tell my boss teehee

naughty naughty;)

minimoneysaver

I wonder if the original poster has contacted OFSTED about this situation? It amazes me that the OP doesn't seem too concerned that the CM visited a shopping centre with her mother when she is being paid to look after and educated the young child. This is a disgraceful situation. I really hope that the OP isn't going to send her son back for another day.

bestpud

I smacked my son once for running across a road - he scared me half to death and I reacted on impulse.

However, I would not be happy about a childminder smacking my child and I would be seriously questioning my role if I were a childminder and smacked someone else's child!

mrcow

foi1983 wrote: »

Are you kidding me?

HE IS 3 YEARS OLD, for goodness sake. He was probably playing a game of hide and seek. If the stupid childminder knew anything about looking after kids, she would know to have taken his pram or a rein or something as they would be in a busy store. The child is not to blame here, the idiotic adult is!

Are you kidding me?

A three year old is more than old enough to understand that you're not to run off in a shop. Or hide when you're being called.

If the child was 18 months, then perhaps your post would be more relevent? Or perhaps you're more used to out of control three year olds than I am?

Liquorice_Twirls

What about all the other kids this CM is minding? Is she hitting them too?

The danger of not reporting is that children who can't tell you what has been happening to them are left in a very vulnerable position. Their parents might think they are just not keen on being left rather than that they are actually afraid of the CM.

I can't think of any reason not to contact Ofsted, as they are there to "achieve excellence in the care of children". Why should the responsibility for what happened be something that you have to worry about?

And I would be looking for alternative childcare.