MSE Parents Club Part 3

3onitsway

weezl74 wrote: »

Feelie we've got 3 change stations set up in our house, and a friend of mine had 7!!!;)

:eek: We haven't even got 7 rooms :eek:
I've got the changing table downstairs, and a supply of nappies and wipes up in the bedroom. (But, she doesn't often poop in the night - she's a regular morning type of girl!)

Rant alert! :mad: I'm really annoyed with a mum from school this morning - and i'm not sure if its just me being sensitive.
Long story - but she's a lazy cow, with hyprocondria, which she's also passed onto her strange child.
DD and her child aren't really friends, but are in the same class at school, and they live just down the road from me, on the route to school.

So, it started when I was still at work. We'd be going to school in the car, and would pass them rushing down the road (she doesn't drive) and offer them a lift.
After a few weeks, she stopped bothering to get dressed and it was kind of expected i'd collect the child and take her to school.
Some mornings, (about once a week - honest), her child isn't going to school - she's not well so i'm beeping outside their house til she comes out, obviously just out of bed, to tell me. ( I probably should have said something at this point - but i'm too nice ).
Anyhows, i went onto maternity leave - and the same continued. Some days i'd walk to school, again taking this child with me while mum went back to bed!
When I'd had baby, i'd warned her that i wouldn't be taking DD to school for a week, having had a baby. OH took her for the first week - to be waved to stop as he passed these two (he hardly knows them!).

Last couple of weeks, when weather as hot, DD (8 1/2) was wanting to go to school on her own on her bike. (Only one road to cross with lollipop man) - so I let her, but secretley followed her for a couple of days making sure she'd locked her bike properly. I'd told other mum DD was goining on her own and as her child wasn't allowed - she had to get up and dressed to take her! Anyway, on day 3, She said I don't need to bother going out in the morning, she'll check all is ok and bike is locked when she gets to school.
Day 4 - DD goes to school on her bike on her own. I text other mum that DD has left for school. I turn up to collect DD from school to find the other child hasn't been in school - so noone had checked DD had got to school & locked her bike that morning (my mistake - but she could have let me know her child was 'ill' again).

This week - its been wet in the mornings, so back to the car and beeping for this child in the morning. Yesterday, all fine, mum comes out in pj's and packs her off into my car.
This morning, we're beeping outside for a good 5 minutes when the neighbour passes and says 'they left about 5 minutes ago, in the car with childs, childs mum and nan'.

Anway - am I being a hormonal stroppy bint - or is she taking the p!ss! :mad:

(I won't even go into after school. Sometimes she turns up to collect her, sometimes she doesn't - but nice old me will take child home if shes stood there waiting with the teacher!)

MrsTinks

3 I think you need to stop helping her out - if it was a mutual benefit then sure, but this sounds all very one sided and very unappreciated Stop taking the child home too - if the mother "forgets" then frankly the school needs to know so they can either contact the mum and let her know that she needs to pull her socks up or if there is a depression issue etc then they can start the ball rolling on getting her the help she apparently needs.
I'd just tell the mum next time you see her that your daughter has loads of things after school etc so you don't have a regular routine and she'll need to see to her own childs travel etc and ditto in the mornings - with a new baby you never know when you'll be leaving the house etc so for the foreseeable future she needs to arrange things her self

weezl74

3onitsway wrote: »

:eek: We haven't even got 7 rooms :eek:
I've got the changing table downstairs, and a supply of nappies and wipes up in the bedroom. (But, she doesn't often poop in the night - she's a regular morning type of girl!)

Rant alert! :mad: I'm really annoyed with a mum from school this morning - and i'm not sure if its just me being sensitive.
Long story - but she's a lazy cow, with hyprocondria, which she's also passed onto her strange child.
DD and her child aren't really friends, but are in the same class at school, and they live just down the road from me, on the route to school.

So, it started when I was still at work. We'd be going to school in the car, and would pass them rushing down the road (she doesn't drive) and offer them a lift.
After a few weeks, she stopped bothering to get dressed and it was kind of expected i'd collect the child and take her to school.
Some mornings, (about once a week - honest), her child isn't going to school - she's not well so i'm beeping outside their house til she comes out, obviously just out of bed, to tell me. ( I probably should have said something at this point - but i'm too nice ).
Anyhows, i went onto maternity leave - and the same continued. Some days i'd walk to school, again taking this child with me while mum went back to bed!
When I'd had baby, i'd warned her that i wouldn't be taking DD to school for a week, having had a baby. OH took her for the first week - to be waved to stop as he passed these two (he hardly knows them!).

Last couple of weeks, when weather as hot, DD (8 1/2) was wanting to go to school on her own on her bike. (Only one road to cross with lollipop man) - so I let her, but secretley followed her for a couple of days making sure she'd locked her bike properly. I'd told other mum DD was goining on her own and as her child wasn't allowed - she had to get up and dressed to take her! Anyway, on day 3, She said I don't need to bother going out in the morning, she'll check all is ok and bike is locked when she gets to school.
Day 4 - DD goes to school on her bike on her own. I text other mum that DD has left for school. I turn up to collect DD from school to find the other child hasn't been in school - so noone had checked DD had got to school & locked her bike that morning (my mistake - but she could have let me know her child was 'ill' again).

This week - its been wet in the mornings, so back to the car and beeping for this child in the morning. Yesterday, all fine, mum comes out in pj's and packs her off into my car.
This morning, we're beeping outside for a good 5 minutes when the neighbour passes and says 'they left about 5 minutes ago, in the car with childs, childs mum and nan'.

Anway - am I being a hormonal stroppy bint - or is she taking the p!ss! :mad:

(I won't even go into after school. Sometimes she turns up to collect her, sometimes she doesn't - but nice old me will take child home if shes stood there waiting with the teacher!)

oh 3! What a crazy situation! I think she is completely out of order and you are a lovely person for all you've tolerated thus far :A goodness only know how you can get out of this icky mess now...

Perhaps you could try something along the lines of:

'since I haven't got time in the mornings anymore to wait and see if your DD is ill, or if you've already taken her, shall we just carry on with us each making our own arrangements from now on for getting our DD's to and from school? That's simpler then '

would that work do you think? ;)

3onitsway

Thanks Tine - I think I know this - but i'm too nice!
There are definately some issues - this is the child who still has her 'boccy tea', blanky and nappie at bedtime. (8 1/2).
I have left her at school a couple of times - when we have had to go somewhere other than home - and school have phoned for mum who was a good 15 minutes away!
If I could, i'd go somewhere every night after school - but she knows I need to be home for 4 for DS to come home from school (on transport!).

3onitsway

And thanks Weezl - yes, it would work, but i'd feel mean driving past them as they're running down the road - late again.
And her school attendance would probably drop down even more - harsh - but thats not my problem is it!

weezl74

quick question, has anyone got a linky saved that gives how many oz of formula are needed by weight of baby not age like is on the packet?

tia

weezl x

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

Feelie we've got 3 change stations set up in our house, and a friend of mine had 7!!!;)

:eek: She must have a big house. If I had that much room I'm not sure I could be bothered to keep up with making sure that many places were fully stocked (and with washables you don't really want that many nappy buckets to go round emptying every might). We just have stuff in the bathroom, stuff downstairs and the change bag.

3 it sounds like a difficult situation and I don't think you're unreasonable to be annoyed about it. Hope you can get it resolved.

SusanC_2

http://www.babycenter.ca/baby/formula/howmuchmilk/

weezl74

SusanC wrote: »

http://www.babycenter.ca/baby/formula/howmuchmilk/

that's the one thanks

did you find the pillowslip dresses?

feelinggood_2

3onitsway wrote: »

And thanks Weezl - yes, it would work, but i'd feel mean driving past them as they're running down the road - late again.
And her school attendance would probably drop down even more - harsh - but thats not my problem is it!

It sounds like there are difficulties in the family, and perhaps if the attendance does drop, it'll come to the attention of the school and maybe the family will get some help and support?

I think it is all well and good to help people out, but if they aren't making an effort themselves, you shouldn't put yourself out.