MSE Parents Club Part 3

3onitsway

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1795223&highlight=pillowcase+dress

They sound quite cute!

weezl74

and I think they can look stunning too

3onitsway

weezl74 wrote: »

and I think they can look stunning too

Aw - they're lovely! And I think even I could manage to make them.

Such a shame my DD doesn't do dresses - she's such a tomboy. (Hopefully DD2 will be more girly!)

weezl74

3onitsway wrote: »

Aw - they're lovely! And I think even I could manage to make them.

Such a shame my DD doesn't do dresses - she's such a tomboy. (Hopefully DD2 will be more girly!)

maybe a HM sleeping bag for dd2 until she's a bit bigger?

searching_me

3 thats lady is taking the mick if its not mutual then dont bother anymore ... remind me of the woman couple of doors down (who i barely know) got her kid to knock on my door at 8am asking could i take him to school coz his mums not well ... so i say ok fair enough... so went as usual to pick up zoe after school and there she was sat on the wall next to the local co-op smoking a fag in her youngest face right as rain .. never did it again x

Sami_Bee

weezl74 wrote: »

Feelie we've got 3 change stations set up in our house, and a friend of mine had 7!!!;)

I only have 7 rooms if you count the 'solarium' (NOT as glamourous as it sounds!)We have just the one set up upstairs, I hardly ever change them downstairs

emlou2009 wrote: »

how did you get married for £1000??? do share, i might need the tips if OH ever gets off his arrse and actually does something about the fact he asked me to marry him 19 months ago and i still dont even have a right :rolleyes:

We got married in the registry office
had the reception at my M&F IL's
decorated our own car which my Dad drove me in
made my own favours
no honeymoon
MIL got a buffet from M&S (which I got discounted because a friend works there) plus MIL made a big Chili and Rice
We bought a Gazebo and borrowed another from family
Only had 25 people (including OH and I and children)
A friend did the photos - she's done courses in photography

The run down was roughly
Give notice - £43.50
Ceremony - £60
My outfit inc shoes & accs- £150 (dress was £30ish from bhs thanks to code I found on here plus an admin error where they refunded me the other stuff in full :shhh:)
My hair, make up and tan - £50
OH suit - £115 (suit n shoes Tesco, shirt n waistcoat etc wedding suppliers)
Chris's suit & shoes - £50 (suit bhs, shoes converse, shirt n tie H&M)
Flowers - £70
Favours - £80
Food - £150
Cake - £50
drinks, gazebo, mini bus for guests etc - £200
That all came to about £990 I probably could have got it cheaper but being a complete nutter I planned the whole thing in less than 6weeks because I HAD to get married on my Gt Gma's birthday:D

It wasn't a rock n roll party affair (we were in bed for 11pm ) but it was a great day and I enjoyed it loads!
have a peek at my pic on FB if you like http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=43584&id=541141775&l=71bc2bd097

feelinggood_2

Oh no, we've been scaring the pregnancy club!

On an unrelated note, I'm really hoping I've got a bug!

Lu_T

3 - you are far too nice. Can you change your route to school or the timings enough so that you don't see them? I agree with the others. If there are issues these need picking up by the school so help can be offered. It could be you're inadvertently being used to 'mask' the problem - which isn't any good for the child.

r.mac wrote: »

I really need to get this sleeping thing working - I see it as my job to help her learn to go to sleep, but I'm a bit stumped on how to get there. So can I have some ideas please? What's your bedtime routine and how did you get LO to go to sleep themselves?

we have playtime with daddy when he comes home from work (about 6.30pm), a bit of kicking without nappy on while bath and clothes etc being sorted out, then daddy baths and then we get dried, creamed, nappied and dressed and into sleeping bag, then cuddles, bottle and bed (7.30pmish). However bottle takes place on my lap and it either conks her out or I have to nurse her to sleep after her bottle. Then we transfer her to her cot. I think it's the last bit we have to change, but to what I don't know.

CC isn't for us - we've tried it and it's not a way forward for us.

She's never taken a dummy and TBH at 21wks I don't want to try and introduce one now.

During the night she wakes 2-3 times depending on how she feels - but can and sometimes does go from 9-5/6am, just not very often.

weaning her hasn't impacted on her sleep at all. I've upped her milk intake during the day to see if it's hunger - but this has had little effect and some days she's hungrier than others. For example she ate and ate and ate yesterday, but isn't interested at all today?!

Also daytime naps are becoming more and more of an issue - not so much while out and about during the day as she'll sleep or play in her pram and sleeps if we are in the car. At home is a nightmare - it's back to nursing her after 2hrs of being awake and sometimes even that doesn't help and we just have screaming (like this morning), which makes me feel so bad - for her and me. It's like she hates me and is letting me know what she thinks of my parenting abilities!!!! Oh and during the day she will only sleep 30m - 45m at a time.

I want to try and get a bit more of a defined time line into our day - I'm happy to beb flexible, but I think it would really help us. Can I ask what kind of routine everyone else follows i.e. breakfast time, nap times.

sorry for the essay - just trying to sort ourselves out a bit. Spoke to my friend who is going to the 'sleep lady', and her comment was that the lady wanted you to have a routine in place before starting on her techniques (whatever they are!) as apparently this can help solve some sleep problems immediately. I'll try anything!

Rmac - sounds like you're already doings lots of good things and the others have already made suggestions. Here's my 2p - for what it's worth.

Are you putting LO down at the right time? We put Imogen down around 6.30-7pm and she seemed to settle well, but I know others who started putting LO down for the 'long sleep' at 9-10pm and then worked backwards. I'll be trying that this time as it seemed to work better for all of them (isn't that always the way?!). You'll know the sleep cues for your baby best.

Totally agree about daytime naps. I used to 'enforce' quiet time in her cot/moses basket so she was resting even if not sleeping. If memory serves she would sleep 7-2/3am, feed, sleep til 6-7am, feed, be up for a few hours, then back for another nap 9-10am. Afternoon nap would be anywhere between 1 and 3pm. Plus perhaps a snooze 4-5ish.

Maybe you could concentrate on getting LO to fall asleep on their own during the day, while still nursing at night in order that you don't torture yourself with sleep deprivation? That way they learn the skills without you going crazy!

Is there anything you can do to put LO down in the cot with something else 'sleep-inducing'. Perhaps a lullaby CD or lightshow? I guess you don't want to create another habit/dependency, but it might be worth it in the short-term to break the boob/sleep association?

Where do you do the last feed? We would do it sat on the bed with the lights dimmed and then make sure LO went into the moses basket awake. That did mean gently making her stir on a few occasions, which was achieved with a gentle squeeze/tickle of ears.

Fritha wrote: »

Thank you Bruno, would it help you I told you Dr Sears says that children as a general rule children can only get themselves to sleep from around 2-4 years of age? He says nursing to sleep is a normal and natural thing (there's a hormone in breastmilk that sends them to sleep) I think it might even be an anthrapological (sp?) thing, if they nurse to sleep they're close to mum so they know it's safe to sleep?

If it's causing you problems then do tackle it but if it's just that you feel guilty then don't, he will grow out of it just just takes time.

That's really odd as Imogen's been able to get herself to sleep since she was a few months old (so don't want to sound like I'm gloating, that just doesn't fit with my experience or that of my RL mummy friends). Not sure what others' experience is, but I think I'd have gone crazy if she still wasn't sleeping at this point - and we certainly wouldn't be having another baby!! I haven't heard of Dr Sears

Sami - solarium :rotfl:Post some pics!!
MFD - Roo is gorgeous!!

Having a funny day as DH arrived home at 11am to get changed. There's a major incident in Sheffield he has to attend (a fish-related one, nothing that exciting!) so he might not be back, "until the early hours," :eek: Clearly today is not the day to go into labour!

**Rant alert** I know he loves his work, but at the weekend he announced that if LO is late he may have to go into work for a couple of days during his paternity leave, "because things are in the diary that I'm needed for,". :mad: Had to hold my temper on that one until I was calm enough to explain that work needing him, and me needing him (with a newborn and toddler to deal with) were kind of in different leagues and perhaps he needed to reconsider his priorities?

Let's just say there will NOT be peace in the T household if he decides to swan off to some boating job when I've a days old baby plus Imogen to be managing. He did offer to try to arrange it on a day when Imogen's in nursery though. That's alright then. Kind of thought his paternity leave would be a special time for the 3/4 of us :rolleyes:

weezl74

feelinggood wrote: »

Oh no, we've been scaring the pregnancy club!

On an unrelated note, I'm really hoping I've got a bug!

are you sure it's unrelated

if not a bug, what else could it be ;);)

money_maker_3

Lu, when Dylan was in NICU, OH was up everyday wanting to help out with Jasmine so I could get ready to go to the hospital, now he is home and Jas is off school for summer, OH is in bed and I am looking after both of them !!! Mens priorities are very very strange !!