MSE Parents Club Part 3

slscarborough

I dont have anyone who could take Owen to Nursery. The nursery are very good when the Manager is there but otherwise they are useless!! I do think it is jealousy but not sure how to deal with it. His behaviour has gotten so bad. I have tried potty training and have gotten nowhere too. Everything seems to be going wrong.

Js_Other_Half

Mrs_Moc wrote: »

I cant move very quickly yet after the CS.

I have visions of me putting them both in the pram and just walking all day till DH comes home

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter.

Of course you can't move too quickly after the CS! My husband went back to work when DS was 3 weeks, and I was just about able to cope physically then.

Please do not push a pram yet - I was told not to do so until 6 weeks after my section.

Is there anyone else who can help out for a few weeks? Or can your partner take some annual leave?

slscarborough

The nursery owen goes to is at a surestart childrens centre so if I was to go to any of the groups he would go histerical. I went to the open day there and he screamed for an hour and then it made it a nightmare the next time he went to nursery. I dont have any family support. OH and I havent had a night to ourselves since owen was born nearly 3 years ago.

money_maker_3

Mrs M welcome to the parent club !! I think I have just about settled in here now Sorta feel at home
I was really shocked at how much movement I have after this section in comparison to the last one, was well over 5 weeks last time before I felt normal and this time its 3 weeks tomorrow and I feel half human !!!

You will be fine though, and worst case senario, I'll jump on the train to Belfast and bring the scary 6 year old with me too !!!

searching_me

sls ((hugs)) i dont know what else to say but if you lived around my ends id pop in for a coffee with you ...

anyone know where i can get a cheap washing machine mnes had it and things are real tight at the mo ... bare in mind i have no car so cant pick one up from say freecycle or ebay x

feelinggood_2

slscarborough wrote: »

The nursery owen goes to is at a surestart childrens centre so if I was to go to any of the groups he would go histerical. I went to the open day there and he screamed for an hour and then it made it a nightmare the next time he went to nursery. I dont have any family support. OH and I havent had a night to ourselves since owen was born nearly 3 years ago.

There are two Children's Centres in my town, are there any others nearby that you could go to?

(((Hugs))) I'm sorry you are finding it so hard at the moment.

Do you think you might have PND?

money_maker_3

SM what price can you afford?

r.mac_2

try the link feelie gave - they are a great organisation. A friend of my mum's is a supporter for them (I think that's the term) and she's lovely and loves her job. Give them a call - it doesn't sound loike you have anything to loose.

does owen have to go to nursery? could you leave it for a month or so and then try again? sorry if that's a rubbish suggestion - just trying things out loud. hand in there and as LuT said, keep talking. I had such a rubbish day yesterday and everyone on here was great. Sometimes a good cry is all it takes to give us the strength to go on for another day or so!

slscarborough

Thats a good idea - yeah there is another childrens centre in my town maybe I should give it a go. I am also worried that other mothers will think I am useless too and thet my toddler is out of control.

I dont think it is PND.

Lu_T

Gorgeous pics girls!

Sls - 2 is still pretty young to be potty training esp with a new baby around, so don't put yourself under any unneccessary pressure.

If it's jealousy then it will fade with time and you can help by setting aside some 1-2-1 time with Owen. Perhaps keep him at home for the rest of the week and make sure you do something when LO is asleep. His favourite jigsaw, read a book, do some colouring, whatever he likes to do. Then he knows he's getting some good time with mummy. Your OH needs to do the same. Perhaps he can have special daddy/son time while you bath LO in the eve?

If you can do this for the week (a massive effort when you're knackered from the night feeds, I know) then aim to get him to go to nursery next week it might take the pressure off? Do you have any friends whose kids go to the nursery?