MSE Parents Club Part 3

MrsTinks

sls - have you read and watched any of the Supernanny books and programs? I really like her methods, firm but fair
http://www.supernanny.co.uk/

ETA you can see some of them on More4 I think - or whatever it's called now

searching_me

money_maker wrote: »

sorry SM, cant find anything

thanks for trying i know though i can find one in argos for £150 ish but its hard finding a bargain when you have no car to pick it up x

3onitsway

Hugs Sls.

As Tine suggested - try some Supernanny tips! She's very good, and even if its not for you, if you see some of the children on the programme - you'll think yours is an angel in comparison! :rotfl:

Was he excited to be getting a new baby? I was quite worried about DD being jealous (she's quite a bit older), but I kept stressing about her being the big girl, big sister etc; and inviting her to help with bathing & nappies. We've also had a couple of trips out to the pictures or shopping just for Mum and the big girl!
She seems to have taken to her quite well (although she asked if we could swap Violet for my cousins 20 month old little boy - because he's more fun!).

Lu_T

MrsTine wrote: »

Tell him he can be dead against it if he feels like taking some of the pressure off you... if he doesn't then he can go away and keep his oppinions to himself! Sorry to be blunt

My thoughts exactly. He won't know anyway!

On eating, Imogen had a funny phase from 18 months til just after she was two. We just figured she'd eat if she was hungry so she got what we were making (usually what we were eating) and if she didn't want it then that was fine, but I didn't cook anything else.

I did make an effort to cook something I knew she'd eat every few days but other than that we just let her get on with it. She soon learnt to eat what was put in front of her. Harsh, but that's what worked for us.

Cry as much as you need to. Rmac's right, sometimes it's all you need to do to feel better.

I read the new Toddler Taming book recently and it talked about quality time. Basically the author says that it's not about the amount of time you spend, but the quality of it. I'd recommend you get it out of the library as I found that lightbulb after lightbulb went on in terms of what Imogen wants, why she does/doesn't do things. You might find it helpful. It's by a guy called Christopher Green. (Thanks again to Savvy Sue for the recommendation - top notch!)

One step at a time. Get nursery sorted, then tackle something else. As far as him being used to going to a childminders, what's changed is the new baby. You can't really blame him for feeling a bit pushed out, however hard you try. He's no longer the youngest, no longer the only one you spend time with at home.

It will get better. Promise. Have a dodgy hug :grouphug:

Lu_T

searching_me wrote: »

thanks for trying i know though i can find one in argos for £150 ish but its hard finding a bargain when you have no car to pick it up x

You can get 1.5% cashback from Topcashback.co.uk for Argos (i'll PM you a referral link if you're not a member). It's for online orders only, so that could work. Didn't check out delivery charges though.

Just a thought - if you could find one in the free ads/Gumtree then would it work out cheaper to hire a van to collect it than to buy a new one?

slscarborough

thanks for all the advise. They are both asleep as we speak. I might try the toddler taming book - however he doesnt seem to understand alot. I worry that he is a bit of a slow learner as he is nearly 3 and doesnt talk very well. he didnt understand at all about mummy having a baby and doesnt seem to notice her. I have decided he eats what we eat or nothing at all as sick of making him a seperate meal.

searching_me

how do you get alittle boy to poo?? its like he keeps trying then cant be bothered and goes back to sleep x

money_maker_3

searching_me wrote: »

how do you get alittle boy to poo?? its like he keeps trying then cant be bothered and goes back to sleep x

As horrible as it sounds, if he really wont go, then if you massage his wee bum a bit that should make him relax enough to go. My sister had to do this with my nephew loads as he had a wee bowel problem when he was born.

Mrs_Moc

Hi everyone and thanks for the warm welcome.

I think I will mention to DH about taking abit more time off, he has said he can get his mum to mind Darach while he's woring but that just seems like a cop out to me, surely other mums manage babys and toddlers somehow and I have my 8yo daughter Sharon helping me out.

Sls ((((Hugs))))

Searching, my washing machine is knackered as well, i've been searching the internet as we're practically skint as well. Im looking at one on Tesco at £175 with free delivery, but its probably really basic.

Aww MM thats so nice of you

Darach is pronounced Dara
Cliodhna = Clane-a
They are both Irish

I know I had more to say but cant remember now especially after typing this out while BF at the same time :rotfl:

searching_me

money_maker wrote: »

As horrible as it sounds, if he really wont go, then if you massage his wee bum a bit that should make him relax enough to go. My sister had to do this with my nephew loads as he had a wee bowel problem when he was born.

ewwww but if it works i'll try it but with a baby wipe on my hand x