Boyfriend being insensitive after baby's birth

Stephb1986_2

Thats a man for you that love, Always puts the blame on the woman!

I'm not having kids for a long while, I couldn't cope with them.

Just start ogling other men and see how he likes it.

Congratulations on your new baby!

Good luck hun

Steph xx

Mojisola

gorgeous_gwen wrote: »

He's not pestering me. He hasn't said anything about persuading me to do anything since we last did stuff. It's the comments I'm finding completely insensitive. I can put up with so much, we often rib each other about loads of stuff so usually it wouldn't bother me, but what is usually the odd comment here and there comes now everyday, every programme.

I think he is pestering you - just doing it once removed by making comments about other women which is keeping his lack of nookie in the forefront of your mind.

emlou2009

skintchick wrote: »

I don;t mean to make you feel bad Emlou but reading this makes me so glad my OH doesn;t use p0rn or pester me for sex. He doesn;t even DIY! (Yes he is normal, honest)

I would be furious if I were you, but I would be if OH used p0rn at any point. Thankfully he likes sex but it isn;t his be all and end all. In fact, it's mroe likely to be me gagging for it :rotfl:

he's always used it :rolleyes: cant say i've ever been estatically happy about it but he used it before i knew him so i just accepted its what he does. its just that it annoys me at the moment cos i'm hormonal and i'm blatantly in the flat when he does it!

KellyWelly

I would be telling him to fork off if it was me - one week after giving birth??!! For me I think it was about 16 weeks/4months-ish the first time and at least 6 months the second. And that wasn't at my instigation either!

xmaslolly76

OMG how insensitive is he Sorry chick but personally i think you need to give him a short sharp kick up the backside. If my other half had behaved like that his life would not have been worth living.

After that though if you are both feeling a little randy then you dont always have to have full sex there are other things that you can do together which will make things more intimate between during the healing stage. :-) xx

Susan_Frost

I'd make sure he was there the next time the Health Visitor, or whoever, comes. Or make an appointment with the Doctor for BOTH of you.

Then ask their advice, and tell them what his expectations are. Let him hear it from the professionals exactly what a **** he is being.

Some men will only get the message if they are being "shown up". Say lots behind closed doors, but dont want others to know their views.

Doesn't deserve you or the baby, hope he's not like this in other things in your life.

Congratulations on the little one. Good luck

jack*tigger

I would guess its like giving up cigarettes, booze or chocolate. The more you can't have it the more you want it. So he is being super sensitive to what he can't have.

Also he now has to share his toys with the baby. Up until till now they have been his own personal playthings. And now they are being put to their proper use. IYSWIM !

So he is super sensitive and you are super hormonal. Always a good combination (not!).

Try asking him to be a little more considerate to your feelings. Tell him your hormones are all over the place, that you are feeling about as sexy as Mr. Blobby and he isn't helping.

Glamazon

aliasojo wrote: »

Lol.....I'd be interested to see if you still feel the same way once baby is here. I suspect you will feel pretty much like the rest of us and will be too tired/sore/distracted and just not bloody interested for the frst few weeks.

Hi Ali

Just wanted to say my post said 'I plan to....'
What I plan to do and what will actually happen will probably two very different things :rotfl:They usually are lol. I am sure that when Baby comes along OH will be just as distracted and he'll be working on top of that so hopefully he'll be just as tired as me - oh, I can't wait, roll on September.

Valli

remember the joke...

new father asks midwife how soon they are able to 'resume marital relations'...
midwife answers
...'well, it depends... if she's in a private room...'

MrsTinks

Bring on the 6 week check I say! :rotfl: We've had nookie once I think since I got pregnant... DH just can't deal with the thought of there being a little tiny person in there - 36 weeks now so we're talking about uhmmmm 20 weeks of nothing... the first 16 weeks I was too sick to be in the mood lol. He's coping fine... it's ME who's at the point of wanting to kill/maim!!!!
I think the least of my worries would be !!!!!! or the likes - but then he always makes clear he loves me the way I am, he just can't deal with having sex so long as his daughter is in there... so we do lots of kisses and cuddles instead
Kisses and cuddles nice but to me it's no substitute lol so bring on the 6 week check up I say!!