why wasn't he invited to the party :(

dizziblonde

bestpud wrote: »

This made me smile! He clearly knows the way of the world already!

Oh it's great to hear them negotiating and trying to wheedle party invites out of each other when they're working when I'm out and about in schools. Cracks me up no end listening to the wheeler dealing going on.

galvanizersbaby

This thread is making me smile too

It was my daughters 5th birthday party last weekend and she invited her entire reception class (28 kids - luckily only 25 could make it!)
We hired a hall, had a disco and played party games
Luckily I had plenty of adult helpers (friends/family members etc..) cos we needed it!:D
Most of the mums dropped their kids at the door and returned in 2 hours to collect.
One mum even turned up 20 mins early with her son and his sister (who wasn't invited) and then collected 30 mins late afterwards.

It was bedlam! - however my daughter had a lovely time!

Next year she will be having a smaller affair for sure!

I do have a friend in my daughters class that takes it personally if her son isn't invited and has contronted the child's mum on occasion - hideously embarrassing!:o
I think she is afraid her son is unpopular but I think he is a fairly quiet little chap and prefers his select group of friends.

nottslass_2

RoxieW wrote: »

I have two children close in age, but on a year group below the other. They're in separable and always want to go to the party the other has been invited to. I tend to be honest and approach the parent explain that I'm really sorry but X has heard about the party and would really love to go, would it be possible for me to pay the amount per head so that he can go with his brother. No ones said no yet. TBH I like to think parents dont ponder over it too much and just ask their little one for however many names. I've done the same with mine and at times names have been forgotten and I've had to prompt what about x or whatever.
That said, my youngest is having a party at home which I have to restrict to 8 and I've asked him for 8 names, but when he said the name of one child I said well you must also invite x as their parents are always together and the children are close and it would be very obvious if I invited one and not the other.

Sorry but I can not quite believe what I'm reading (sorry,don't mean to pick on roxy in particular) This is sooo rude and I'd probably want to reconsider inviting anybody who has so little manners!!!! But whats wrong with explaining to a child that sometimes life isn't fair and you can't always have what you want ?
TBH if some body asked me if a sibling could come too I'd love to be able to reply "sorry,but if my little jimmy had of wanted your little Johnny at the party,he would have invited him in the first place" - mind you in reality,I'd probably just smile sweetly and say "of course"!!!!!!

My oldest son is now 22,and there was never any of this when he was at the age for party's - some he got invited to,some he didn't.The most popular child probably went to them all,the least popular not many !!! I realise that its upsetting for a child to feel left out but thats life and one of its lessons.why does anybody feel that its a right to be invited anywhere ?

My youngest son is 6 and when it comes to party's I ask him which particular friends he'd like to invite - restricting numbers if necessary.

galvanizersbaby

nottslass wrote: »

Sorry but I can not quite believe what I'm reading (sorry,don't mean to pick on roxy in particular) This is sooo rude and I'd probably want to reconsider inviting anybody who has so little manners!!!! But whats wrong with explaining to a child that sometimes life isn't fair and you can't always have what you want ?
TBH if some body asked me if a sibling could come too I'd love to be able to reply "sorry,but if my little jimmy had of wanted your little Johnny at the party,he would have invited him in the first place" - mind you in reality,I'd probably just smile sweetly and say "of course"!!!!!!

My oldest son is now 22,and there was never any of this when he was at the age for party's - some he got invited to,some he didn't.The most popular child probably went to them all,the least popular not many !!! I realise that its upsetting for a child to feel left out but thats life and one of its lessons.why does anybody feel that its a right to be invited anywhere ?

My youngest son is 6 and when it comes to party's I ask him which particular friends he'd like to invite - restricting numbers if necessary.

I kind of agree with you nottslass - my two have a school year between them but they are different sexes so neither would want to be invited to the other's party anyway but that's beside the point!
However there have been occasions where I've known in advance that physically I had nobody to leave the other child with (I'm a single parent) so I have had to contact the parent and explain - on these occasions with the parents permission I have brought along both children but I've made clear to the child who wasn't invited that they wouldn't be getting a party bag etc...and they would sit with mum in the cafe area or wherever (I would take along treats for them)
This has only happened on a couple of occasions and it's been fine so far

I also agree with your comments above in bold

Flashdaisy

I too agree with Nottslass; I think asking if you can bring another child to a party is incredibly cheeky. I too think that children do need to learn that they can't always have their own way and get what they want. If one of my DDs is at a party the other often says that they wish they could have gone too, however that's life as far as I'm concerned.

nottslass_2

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I kind of agree with you nottslass - my two have a school year between them but they are different sexes so neither would want to be invited to the other's party anyway but that's beside the point!
However there have been occasions where I've known in advance that physically I had nobody to leave the other child with (I'm a single parent) so I have had to contact the parent and explain - on these occasions with the parents permission I have brought along both children but I've made clear to the child who wasn't invited that they wouldn't be getting a party bag etc...and they would sit with mum in the cafe area or wherever (I would take along treats for them)
This has only happened on a couple of occasions and it's been fine so far

I also agree with your comments above in bold

Ah yes,but a situation such as the above is totally different and completely understandable,and I for one,would be more than happy to find an extra party bag etc in such a scenario.

custardy

well as someone with a one year old i find this thread very scary
what have i got ahead of me :eek:

minx79

I was just thinking that too! I have a 2 (nearly 3) year old and an 18 month old. This is so scary! I do sympathise with the OP as I have been in similar situations about never being the "popular" one and not going to parties.

My difficulty will be in explaining to my children that they won't be attending birthday parties because we do not personally celebrate birthdays. That is going to be even harder when the time comes. :eek:

Loopy_Girl

minx79 wrote: »

we do not personally celebrate birthdays. That is going to be even harder when the time comes. :eek:

Can I be really curious and ask why not? Do you not see the day you were born as a celebration of your life?

minx79

Its to do with our religious beliefs, I was brought up never celebrating and never missed it to be honest. And my two little ones are certaintly not lacking in either indoor or outdoor toys! They have far too many if anything! They even have two of some toys just to stop them fighting over it.