why wasn't he invited to the party :(

Sparky09

Ignore Polish, they seem to post a lot with controversial comments even though they seem to have no idea of British etiquette/customs/laws.

Would just advise OP to ensure she does not pass on any fears or insecurities on to her child. My sister has a child of 2 and I'm dreading her reaching nursery stage because of my sisters own past. She was mildly bullied at school and now she seems to think every one is against her, even at play group she thinks all the other parents dislike her even though she's made no effort to be friendly. I fear for my niece picking up on these traits as all children do.

I sense the wealth thing may be playing on the OP's mind? You mention this other parent was rich while you were not. I can relate to this insecurity, I was raised on a council estate and travelled to school in a well off area. I was in a close group of friends, yet one boy's party I never got invited to. I often wondered if it was because his parents thought I would be sneaking around the house fitting their possessions in to my backpack! Looking back with hindsight, I probably still think this is the answer, but hey thats life. Don't be angry, just move on, and if you do host a party too, ensure the recent birthday girl get invited too. All the best!

Dustangle

Sparky09 wrote: »

Ignore Polish...

Welcome to our wee community, you very new but very judgemental person!!!

Sparky09

No, long term member, just under a different name as previously was joint account.

Only used word ignore because have seen many posts where Polish only has intent to wind people, and gives out much advice when he openly has no idea how UK operates. I do not go on Polish sites expressing opinions about their customs.

Sparky09

Lol, I trust that is a friendly comment

Millie's_Mum

Just to say that my DD wasn't invited to many parties at pre school, i think at that age the parents choose who to invite irrespective of who the kid wants to invite, i know that the parents tended to choose children whose parents they knew or were friendly with.

Happy to report she is now in reception where it seems to be that the kids have more input into who is invited (and I must say I know a lot more of the parents) and I am sick to the back teeth of escorting her to parties every week, enjoy not having your weekends eaten up by this while it lasts.

bestpud

tsstss7 wrote: »

My son realised eventually he was more likely to be invited to a birthday party if he had or was likely to invite the other child to his, so would spend a few weeks or more before a pals birthday promising to invite them to his next party to ensure an invite ;o)

This made me smile! He clearly knows the way of the world already!

loobylou2

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Just to say that my DD wasn't invited to many parties at pre school, i think at that age the parents choose who to invite irrespective of who the kid wants to invite, i know that the parents tended to choose children whose parents they knew or were friendly with.

Happy to report she is now in reception where it seems to be that the kids have more input into who is invited (and I must say I know a lot more of the parents) and I am sick to the back teeth of escorting her to parties every week, enjoy not having your weekends eaten up by this while it lasts.

This is so true, I haven't had a weekend free in September for the last 5 years because I've been ferrying DD1 to and from various parties!!! Why all the children in her class, including herself had to be born in September I don't know but there have been times when we've ended up going to 2 or even 3 separate parties on the same day!! When this happens it can get very tiring not to mention expensive and I'm glad she's getting a bit older now and the format of parties seems to be changing.!!!

flea72

oystercatcher wrote: »

I hope you've got lots of adult helpers then, that's 15 small children in four separate areas to supervise, sounds like an accident waiting to happen if you're not very careful! From my experience of parties there will be at least one child who will refuse to sit down and play pass the parcel or come and eat when you're expecting them to all line up like little lambs !

i agree, we thought having a party at home would be the easy option, and hired a bouncy castle. Never Again!

All parents just dropped their kids off and left, which then meant me and OH had to supervise 25 kids on a bouncy castle, who either kept disappearing off into the house to ransack my dds wardrobe and wear her clothes, or kept jumping over the sides of the bouncy castle (result one broken arm, the child didnt tell us they hurt themself, until we got to school on the monday and saw the plaster!), or in the case of boys (we only have dds lol) having karate fights

2hrs of hyper kids, most couldnt even sit still to do the 'cake' thing, and after about 1/2hr, kept saying they were bored, and what could they do next?

Now, we pay other people to do the parties, and limit numbers (to kids whos parents I like!) Dont care if thats wrong, but it sure makes life easier

Flea

prettypoppyknickers

thank god i will have a superhero team which is consisting of superman batman supergirl sandman the hulk and powerpuff girls (all the 3 of them) o and not forgetting spiderman.

thank you for all replies

i tend to ignore polish anyway because like you i think that they are rather rude and that was from a previous post well a few that i decided to leave rather than respond.

RoxieW

I have two children close in age, but on a year group below the other. They're in separable and always want to go to the party the other has been invited to. I tend to be honest and approach the parent explain that I'm really sorry but X has heard about the party and would really love to go, would it be possible for me to pay the amount per head so that he can go with his brother. No ones said no yet. TBH I like to think parents dont ponder over it too much and just ask their little one for however many names. i've done the same with mine and at times names have been forgotten and i've had to prompt what about x or whatever.
That said, my youngest is having a party at home which I have to restrict to 8 and I've asked him for 8 names, but whenhe said the name of one child I said well you must also invite x as their parents are always together and the children are close and it would be very obvious if I invited one and not the other.