why wasn't he invited to the party :(

pattycake

Perhaps you are imposing your feelings of rejection when you were little on to your child. Your son will soon forget about the party unless you mention it and agonize over why he was not invited.

It is early days yet and once he is at school properly I am sure there will be lots of parties to attend. Stop worrying please.

prettypoppyknickers

she is in his group of friend its consits of about 4 of them and all of them bar him were invited.

ok i have never had a conversation with the mother i did try once but she didn't want to know, she didn't know were to look and the chatted to another mother.

i'm not from a rich area just a little seaside town but i guess being the youngest in the que i'm judged i talk to one or two parents but thats it for nursery. grrrrr i wanted the best for him and i also hate it when he cries:o

he has friends over often so that isn't a issue i just dont know.

darm insecurities

prettypoppyknickers

the party is tonight and i dont have the nerve or guts to ask i'd feel stupid when she responded

prettypoppyknickers

markelock wrote: »

I think this happens quite often. sometimes mine is excluded (along with others), sometimes she's invited but we're elsewhere (holiday for example).

unfortunately I am dissapointed and I won't invite that particular child, which is either petty, or pretty logical, as for some reason, mine wasn't invited first time round.

I wouldn't let it get to you though, it will become a self fulfilling prophecy if it does.

and if that really is her name, I'd be steering him well clear!!!

i'm glad im not the only parent that does!

AllyS

Try not too worry he is very young. Just out of interest but has your son had a party yet? Sometimes parents can only think of children's names that they have been to a party.

Speak to a teacher and check with them that everything is ok.

Otherwise wait and see what happens in the future. Also boys are diff to girls, my daughter got invited to loads of parties (she is very sociable), but my son only got invited to 1 or 2 before he started school. Parties stop these days when they get to about 7ish and then they only have a few mates bowling/cinema.

Please try not to let it get you down yet.

Curious_George_2

Puzzledbubbles wrote: »

Just say that he must have lost his invite because he is so excited and you were wondering about timings etc and what contribution you needed to make?

sorry but thats a terrible idea and the way to set yourself up for proper rejection! you cant go strolling up to the host of every party your not invited too and make out like your assuming your invite has been lost in the post!
what other reason could there possibly be for this oversight! :rolleyes:

there is a mum who lives in my town whos behaviour almost guarentees the child wont be invited to most parties, she has invited herself and her girl to 2 of my daughters parties (her daughter was bullying mine and others at the time, and after watching her ruin 2 other parties we had been too nobody wanted her there) she probably was one of the only children in the class who didnt get an invitation,
but i wasnt about to feel bad about it, and when her mum waltzed up to me to ask why i told her... we dont reward bullies!

at pre school age, i seem to remember that parties are very cliquey, the only invites went to family and best friends so all the adults know each other,
and they were quite low key as the primary school pressure to have bigger and better hasnt yet started, so unless you are really friendly with the mums who are going then i wouldnt worry yet,
when he starts at primary school make an effort to invite everyone in his class to his first party, then the return invites should start rolling in!

snowmaid

I don't agree that the child is too young. He is old enough to know that there is a party and he is excited to be 'going'.

With my children I would always invite all the children in their class. In this way I am:

1. Assured that at least there will be some children at the party! :rolleyes:
and
2. I would hate to think of a child standing by while others get an invite.

Inevitably not all the kids come anyway.

The easiest thing to do is have a bowling, swimming, games etc party.

prettypoppyknickers

i'll try not to just found out half of the class has got scarlet fever so now have something a bit more serious to worry about.

Jonbvn

prettypoppyknickers wrote: »

ok i have never had a conversation with the mother i did try once but she didn't want to know, she didn't know were to look and the chatted to another mother.

With such a response from the girls mother, why would you expect your son to receive an invite? BTW, the mental picture I have of this woman, I think he is probably better off not going.

pukkamum

she may well have been told she can only have a certain number of friends and chose the ones she was closest to i did the same with my son last year he had to choose two.
Also the girl boy thing may be a factor my son has always had plenty of girls as friends but has never invited them to his party or vice versa.
Please don't get stressed about it and don't let your son see you upset about it, just breezily say (if he asked) that she had to have the children she chose and no more and maybe you could do something fun together on the day of the party.