why wasn't he invited to the party :(

Oldernotwiser

prettypoppyknickers wrote: »

ok i have never had a conversation with the mother i did try once but she didn't want to know, she didn't know were to look and the chatted to another mother.

Well, that explains why your son isn't invited - the mother doesn't like you.

Yorkshirechick

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I have a friend in similar situation to you Yorkshirechick - she is no longer part of the religion but her parents and siblings families are.

Her son is in my daughters class and though he is a lovely sociable little boy she worries constantly about him not getting invited to parties and as to whether he's popular in the class (it's only reception class) - so much so she makes herself very upset about it when there is really no need.
We had a chat and she says she remembers feeling left out and lonely at school and worries it will be the same for her son - she is trying to chill out a bit about it now and be a bit more rational about her fears

I have exactly the same fears for my son. Although he's very outgoing at the moment :rotfl:

galvanizersbaby

Yorkshirechick wrote: »

I have exactly the same fears for my son. Although he's very outgoing at the moment :rotfl:

I think we all have some fears for our children based on our own experiences - it's easy to fall in to that - I'm sure your son will be fine

At least you've got a few years yet before all the parties start!

snowmaid

alwaysonthego wrote: »

One of the mums at my daughter's school invited the whole reception class bar one child whose mother she had a fall out with, nothing serious. I did not let my child go out of principle, how can you do that! Her son is the naughtiest child in the year and she is always been called in to see the teacher.

My daughter's birthday is soon but I can only afford to take out 4 of her friends because we go on holiday, so I will let her choose who she wants to invite.

It is incredible how pathetically spiteful people can be. How sad for this cow's children to witness a 'mother' with such spite and bitterness in her. Even if I dislike a mother, what has that got to do with her child who may be friends with my child?!?!? It beggers belief.

snowmaid

Yorkshirechick wrote: »

I was brought up in a religion that didn't celebrate Xmas or birthdays and was constantly being asked why not. Also I was and propably still am pretty shy and hated the constant questions.
When I was at primary school I got loads of invites to birthday parties and even though I knew I wasn't allowed to go to them I still wanted to go and felt really left out when all the other kids in my class were off to Pizza Hut or somewhere for a party.
One of the girls from my class felt so sorry for me that she had a leaving school party instead of a birthday party, and that was the only 1 in 8 years that I was able to attend. I had a ball

I'm not longer part of this religion, but my mum and dad are, and also my oldest sister and her family. I would never criticise anyone for their beliefs, or the way they choose to bring up their childres, but I must admit I was upset at my sons first birthday party when there was only 1 member of my family there.

As someone who belongs to a religion where smoking and drinking aren't permitted, there is no chance in h*ll that I would miss out on my grandchild's parties because I don't agree with some of those attending who smoke or drink. There is no excuse for not attending.

galvanizersbaby

snowmaid wrote: »

As someone who belongs to a religion where smoking and drinking aren't permitted, there is no chance in h*ll that I would miss out on my grandchild's parties because I don't agree with some of those attending who smoke or drink. There is no excuse for not attending.

I see where your coming from Snowmaid but I'm not sure its a great comparision!

Janepig

I'm totally bemused with the religion thing. Quite apart from the fact that I don't think that you should impose religion on children anyway until they're old enough to decide for themselves, I can't see why going to a party for someone else's birthday would be an issue. Okay, don't celebrate your own, fine, but I could never deny my children an hour and a half (or whatever) of fun with their friends.

I've got a colleague who is a muslim and he has always come to our work christmas parties, in fact when they've been arranged for a time that co-incides with ramadan, they've always been evening parties as opposed to all-dayers so that he can attend as he'd be fasting during daylight hours. My point being that surely we all go to events organised as celebrations of things that are part of other people's religions and not ours. In fact it's sometimes nice to go to weddings, etc... to experience other religions and celebrate in a different way. Funerals are the same, just because you're CofE for instance wouldn't prevent you going to a catholic funeral.

Although I realise I may be trying to reason with a JW here which is undoubtedly futile :rolleyes:.

Oh, and can I just say that I'm amazed at the people who've said that they've had parties for little ones and the parents of the "guests" have just dumped the kids and gone. I've never been to a party where that's happened - sometimes one parent will bring two children if they're friends with the other parent, but they always stay. The party organiser parents have got enough on their plate with the party without having to provide creche facilities for parents who want an hour or two's peace. I'm really shocked!

Jxx

prettypoppyknickers

hello all thought id update you

i spoke to my sons teacher to find out if he plays with many children and interacts and she said he is fine and very happy in class and has got one special friend who do everything together.

maybe its the fact that i'm the youngest (i'm only 20 with a nearly 4 year old you do the math ) and that i dont often talk to many parents and the fact that his birthday is in may so he hasn't invited any to his party yet.

o well i guess ill live or get use to it and just make sure he doesn't see the invites being handed out.

galvanizersbaby

Janepig wrote: »

Oh, and can I just say that I'm amazed at the people who've said that they've had parties for little ones and the parents of the "guests" have just dumped the kids and gone. I've never been to a party where that's happened - sometimes one parent will bring two children if they're friends with the other parent, but they always stay. The party organiser parents have got enough on their plate with the party without having to provide creche facilities for parents who want an hour or two's peace. I'm really shocked!

Jxx

I agree with you - with almost every party I've been to with one or other of my children since starting school this has happened.
My two are 6 and 5 and I wouldn't leave them at a friends party (my son is just getting to the stage where it's a bit uncool to have mum hanging about so I have to keep a low profile!:D )
I'm surprised that this is something you've never experienced - how old are your children Janepig?

vtmil

Hi princesspoppyknickers,

Just thought I'd offer you some support because I think I recognise they way you are feeling with being a young mum and feeling excluded! If I'm wrong please write my off as a nutter!:p

I'm 22 with a nearly 5 yr old. I have only just got over that feeling of being different to the other mums, and some how feeling a failure in many aspects of my life because I had my daughter at 18! Don't get me wrong though - she is by far the best thing that has happened to me - but I always felt I had to justify myself! I have got over that now Understand that everyone is different and appreciate yourself for who you are!

Ok, now back OT, I really wouldn't worry about parties. Especially at such a young age. My little one doesn't seem to notice either way, and those invites will come. Playground politics, eh? But an non invite is definatly not an indication of popularity! It gets worse as they get older! I work at a school and friendship groups change more often than I change my knickers (just to confirm that's every day:rotfl: )!

vtmil xxx