please help unsure

healy

It is pretty clear to me that basic benefits for those with children are much more generous than the benefits that single people receive when everything is taken into account. It has been a clear intention of this Government to give more to those that have children.

Oldernotwiser

jennie09 wrote: »

yes i agree the lone parent haters are here again it proves my point too that they have sad lives and just look for lone parents to pick on i put one post on here and they couldnt wait to post thier snotty comments could be jealousy i think, especially older not wiser and kriss cross bit of advice get a life and stop picking on vulnerable people

Jenney, DO change the record. You seem to read what you want to read and ignore anything else.

As you seem to think that lone parents have such hard lives, why on earth would anyone be jealous of their situation? As I told you before, many of us have experience of advising these groups and are here to help and not to gloat.

fizzel81

i for one am very grateful to the government for the generous benifits they give

i found myself a single parent of 3 children when i found my husband couldnt keep it in his pants on more than one occasion, i generally think what single parents get is fair

but another pet hate of mine is threads like this not everyone set out to be a scrounger! and ive yet to meet a single parent just in it for the money

bestpud

fizzel81 wrote: »

i for one am very grateful to the government for the generous benifits they give

i found myself a single parent of 3 children when i found my husband couldnt keep it in his pants on more than one occasion, i generally think what single parents get is fair

but another pet hate of mine is threads like this not everyone set out to be a scrounger! and ive yet to meet a single parent just in it for the money

Likewise, and probably for the same reasons, most of us are anything but jealous!

But then, when you have single parents suggesting jealousy is at the root of advice, you have to ponder their motivations and attitude towards their situation, don't you?

How can single parenthood be defended as difficult enough to warrant 16 years of full benefits on one hand, and yet, be something we are all jealous of on another?

That isn't aimed at you in particular btw fizzel; it just followed on from my response to you!

fizzel81

i dont think anyone can be jealous of single parents they would haveto be mad if they were

anyone if there is anyone who is jealous i invite them to swap with me for a week, i went back to work in september after taking on a job that i was told would be within certain hours my eldest had started reception, my ds2 was 5 mornings in pre school and ds3 was 2 mornings in a unders 3s room (he is currantly undergoing assesments so got a place on the merits of that)

anyway i tok the job on and all was fine for a few weeks, sadly i then started getting hours that were not to suit as promised, i ended up leaving a few months after i started, and i was honestly gutted, i loved the time when i was working, i love my boys but i loved having what felt like a life as well

Scarlett1

Damzel_In_Distress wrote: »

:eek: I am not paying back arrears at all...! and how you can assume im in debt with dwp without even knowing me is a little rude. I only get that much as my sons father pays me £20 a week (although i dont take cash off him,but thats another story) and it is deducted from my IS to accomodate for it,even though this is not done through the csa.

The "roof" is not free,i pay over £100 a month myself.

And im not costing the "tax payer" in the way you say..i worked all my life every day! up until i was heavily pregnant and was left by my partner in my last month with no where to live and no longer a job as we had agreed i would leave it to take of the baby-he then left (men!) ..i have paid into a system for years so why am i then not entitled to when i am in genuine need to claim back from the system i have put into for longer than i have been claiming??

Oh wait i get it,its all good when your paying your taxes but its wrong to claim out of the tax fund when you need it? ..i thought that was the point of it in the first place..

Im sure lone parents are now allowed to keep £20 per week maintenance before it reduces IS, maybe you can ring up and check, wouldn't want to see you getting less than what you are entitled too.

Damzel_In_Distress

Scarlett1 wrote: »

Im sure lone parents are now allowed to keep £20 per week maintenance before it reduces IS, maybe you can ring up and check, wouldn't want to see you getting less than what you are entitled too.

Well i know you are allowed to EARN up to £20 pw before if reduces your IS but i was told maintenance is diffrent...i go and see my adviser every 3 months and in the almost two years this has been going on she has never told me any diffrent...i was told earning is diffrent to maintenance from a father as the IS is paid to help me live and take care of my child,if someone then contributed towards his/my up keep this is then taken into account.

I dont take money of my sons father anyway,i will tell him to go and get anything specific our son needs with the £20 on a saturday to help towards his daily living,that way he always has the things he needs and there can be no complaints or allagations of it being spent on anything else (not that there ever has been) and this works out fine and always has.

fizzel81

Scarlett1 wrote: »

Im sure lone parents are now allowed to keep £20 per week maintenance before it reduces IS, maybe you can ring up and check, wouldn't want to see you getting less than what you are entitled too.

that is correct, my IS is reduced due to manatance payments, i keep the first £20 the rest is then deducted from is

Oldernotwiser

Damzel_In_Distress wrote: »

I dont take money of my sons father anyway,i will tell him to go and get anything specific our son needs with the £20 on a saturday to help towards his daily living,that way he always has the things he needs and there can be no complaints or allagations of it being spent on anything else (not that there ever has been) and this works out fine and always has.

So now you're saying that you don't get £20 maintenance from the child's father?

jennie09

why dont you change the record because i am not the only one that thinks the same as me you seem to read only what you want too as well so i have noticed , as for jealousy why do people keep blabbering on about how much single parents get as we recieve so much NOT !! i didnt mean jealous as in the sense you people think i meant the financial side is what i meant